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Maria Stuart is a journalist without a print job who lives with her husband and son in southeast Michigan. She is currently working on Livingstontalk.com, a hyper-local information and conversation site.

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Salon.com
JULY 29, 2009 6:34AM

When cute puppies go bad

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Fastdog - 1753It happened in a flash.

Teeth bared, snarling, our new puppy lunged for my face. I was trying to keep her from nipping my kid when she set her sights on me instead. BAM! My right eye bounced, flashing white, like it was whapped by a baseball. My upper lip stung. My hands flew up to my face.

Though I didn’t see it, my son jumped in. He grabbed the snarling puppy’s harness and rushed her into her crate. “You hurt my mom,” he yelled.

I opened my eyes. “I can still see,” I thought. “That’s good.”

Then I wiped blood from my lip.

“Mom, are you OK?” My son sounded scared. He saw the blood dripping from my lip and smeared on my hand; he got me a towel from the kitchen. His 10th birthday present just attacked his mom after first trying to attack him. Could this get any worse?

Our son is an only child. A gentle, generous, kind-hearted soul, Will’s longed for a puppy for months; before that, he had lobbied hard for a baby brother. With older parents, though, all he got was the lesson that lightning doesn’t strike twice.

Will’s been raised with stories of Zoey the Wonderdog, the lab mix we adopted from the local shelter shortly after we bought our first house. Zoey lived with his dad and me for many years, sort of like a practice baby before I gave birth to our real one.

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Zoey and Will pose for our 2000 Christmas card photo.
 
Zoey developed cancer as Will toddled toward his second birthday. Heartbroken, we eventually had to put her down, and we’ve been dogless since. It’s not that we didn’t want a dog, because we love them, but we knew we’d never, ever find another one like Zoey.

That dog understood that Will was a defenseless baby. When friends and family came over after Will’s birth, Zoey would supervise visitation. She’d sit quietly near whoever had the baby, and keep an eye on things. “Enjoy that cute little guy, but remember: I’ve got his back,” she seemed to say. “Don’t even think about messing with him.”

When Will woke from a nap or cried, Zoey would sound the alert. It was as if the baby would explode if he fussed too long, and it was her sworn duty to make sure that didn’t happen. Will was learning to stand upright when Zoey became sick, but she’d happily let him hold onto her tail to practice walking. She never complained, never got cranky with the kid, though no one would’ve blamed her if she had.

That’s the kind of dog Zoey was, and that’s kind of the dog we were hoping to find once again.

Instead, we found Sophie.

In the search for a dog, I found an adorable litter of border collie/lab mix puppies online. They were going to be shown by a rescue group at a local pet store on the Fourth of July. The puppies had Bavarian-sounding names like Marta and Gretel, and they looked fluffy and sweet.

Figuring no one would be adopting a puppy on the Fourth of July, we got to the store about 15 minutes early. The size of the crowd spilling out into the parking lot told me I was wrong.

Like me, everyone was there for one of the “Sound of Music” puppies, as the rescue group worker called them. They were adorable. The competition for them was stacking up to be intense, and we got there way too late.

“Let’s see what other puppies are here,” I suggested.

That’s when we found Sophie. The information sheet said she was a lab mix who was “very bright,” and “doing well with housebreaking.”

So far, so good. Sophie was alert, peppy and cute. I held her, and as she wriggled, I looked at my son, who signaled his approval with a nod and a shrug. No one else applied to adopt her, so she was ours.

Thus began our short and chaotic journey with the puppy from hell.

You need to know that I’m no stranger to dogs; I’ve lived with six of them throughout my life. They’ve all had their own personalities and quirks, but not a one was mean.

After the first couple days with our new puppy, I became concerned. Sophie didn’t much like to play, which I found odd, especially for a healthy puppy. She didn’t like to go for walks, either. She snarled a lot, and her favorite pastime was going after my kid. Her fascination with biting also seemed way beyond the norm for puppy teething.

As we struggled with the new puppy’s behavior, I kept reminding myself to be fair to her, to not compare her to our old dog. It was time for Will to get a dog, and Sophie was the puppy we chose. But there were problems.

“Sophie’s pulling his pants down,” my husband yelled from the yard one afternoon. I dropped what I was doing and went to the door, expecting to see some funny dog-foolery going on.

Instead, Will stood in the middle of the yard, looking panicked as he desperately held his pants up with both hands. The little puppy swung between his legs, her teeth sunk into his shorts. My husband got the dog to let go and she retreated to the back of the yard.

“That’s pit bull behavior,” a friend said when I related the story.

The rescue group, which got Sophie from a kill shelter, couldn’t vouch for her lineage other than to say they thought she was a lab mix. The veterinarian thought Sophie could be part beagle.

I searched the Internet for photos of pit bull puppies; some resembled Sophie, some didn’t. And there’s nothing that says being a pit bull, or even part pit bull, accounts for aggression.

“I think there’s something odd about the puppy,” I said to my husband one night. My husband, the person in the family the puppy actually seemed to like, agreed.

“We can give her back, but what does that teach Will,” I said. “That when the going gets tough you just abandon things?”

We decided to seek help. First we called the rescue group with our concerns about Sophie’s behavior. The group put us in touch with the woman who fostered Sophie before we adopted her.

“She’s got it in for my son,” I explained. “She keeps going after him.”

“We never had any trouble with her at all,” the dog’s foster mom said. “My 7-year-old daughter used to carry her around like she was a doll.”

Then we got the advice that was given to us over and over again as we looked for help: Everyone, from the animal rescue folks to the veterinarian to the cashier at the pet supply store, recommended obedience classes for my son and the puppy. “He’ll learn to take charge,” they said. “It will be a good thing.”

It was as if the fault for the puppy’s aggressive behavior rested squarely on the shoulders of my son, who they all figured didn’t know how to be in charge.

We decided to work it out, to work with Will and to try even harder with the puppy, thinking we chose a dog that was simply a bit wilder than the others we’ve known. We thought we could fix things. Outside of nips and scratches and some torn clothes, the dog hadn’t done any really big damage, and she was so darn cute.

We enrolled in a puppy obedience class, and I talked to my son.

“I think Sophie might think you’re her puppy, that she can boss you around,” I said. “Does that make sense?”

My son nodded and shrugged.

“You’ve got to show her who is boss,” I said. “You’ve got to take charge. We’ll go to puppy class and we’ll work it all out.”

Then, just days before we were to start class, Sophie went for my face.

A minute earlier, I was sitting on the sofa with my laptop, trying to write. Will was sprawled out next to me, watching a cartoon. Sophie was busy with a rawhide chew stick.

Something about my kid drew the puppy’s attention, and she raced over to bite his legs.

That’s when I tried some advice I found on the Internet late one night as I desperately searched for a solution: Push the puppy away, saying “No” firmly.

I did it once.

The puppy was unfazed. Snarling angrily, she came back for my kid’s legs.

I pushed her away again as my son leapt onto the back of the couch. The puppy tried to claw her way up.

Figuring that I hadn’t said “No” firmly enough, I leaned over to get a better handle on the puppy to move her away.

That’s when she set her sights on my face. All I remember is her snarling mouth and bared teeth coming at me.

When it was over, I made a frantic phone call to the rescue group people, who responded quickly and professionally and took the puppy away. Then, I caught my breath and looked in a mirror. Bruises were already forming on my eyelid and eyebrow; my lip was cut in two places.

Despite my frightening but definitely not-life-threatening injuries, I felt lucky. This could’ve turned out a whole lot worse, but it didn’t because, in the end, everyone was wrong: my 10-year-old kid took charge of the puppy just fine, precisely when it counted most.

The problem was the puppy.

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These photos were taken five days after the puppy came after me.

 

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I am sorry that this happened and glad you and Will are ok- it sounds like the shelter was a good support system for you. I don't know how to put links into comments but you should check out Lisa Kern's post from a few months ago about her dog problems.
Wow! Glad you escaped. I hope Will's (and your) next puppy experience is happier and longer lasting.
Oh my. I think I was experiencing PTSD while reading this from my own experiences with a puppy who was "broken" from the beginning (see my Madame Cujo/Shelby posts if you need reassurance that this was beyond your control). We tried for two years to "fix" her until she attacked my son's friend. If she wasn't muzzled at the time (as if having to muzzle a dog while in our home wasn't red-flag-clue number one), she would have seriously hurt him.

Contrary to what well-meaning people will tell you, it is NOT normal for a puppy to growl. It is NOT normal for a puppy to attack. You can't train that kind of aggression out of a dog. I'm glad that the rescue group took the puppy back. You've saved yourself a ton of trauma, trouble and heartbreak. It's bad enought that the puppy attacked you and your son, but imagine if the puppy attacked one of Will's friends, as our dog did? What would you tell that child's parents? Some dogs, unfortunately, are just broken.

I do hope that some day, you and Will will be ready to try again. Most dogs are delightful and would welcome your home and your love. We adopted again and now have a lovely, calm, friendly dog who loves everyone and is a joy to have in our family. Such a dog is out there for you, too.

Thanks so much for sharing your story.
Lisa, I guess I was luckier than you in that the rescue group took our puppy back. Your story of two years would certainly have been ours had the group not allowed us to return the puppy to them. Instead, our story lasted just a little more than two weeks. You're right -- sometimes dogs are broken and no amount of rehabilitation will work.
This was so sad to read. I feel sorry for you, Will and even Sophie. I have been through a similar experience and it is difficult to balance the feelings of frustration, guilt, anger and sadness when there is an animal that for one reason or another, is just not "right". I hope you heal quickly and that a better puppy will be in your future. Very well written.
That's so sad, Maria, but I am so grateful you and Will are both safe. I hope someday you're ready to try again.
I had a pair of dogs a couple of years ago, both from an animal rescue group. One was docile and affectionate with my son, like your Zoey. The other rambunctious and worrisome. Unfortunately, the nice dog was killed by a car, and the aggressive one seemed to get worse after that. My son was only six or seven at the time, and the dog enjoyed tackling him. I took all I could take, but I had to give her back to the animal rescue group. I can only hope they found her a home that worked. Sorry, you had to go through all that. But you tried.
Sometimes, trying just isn't enough. While the whole situation was awful, the one thing I'm grateful for is that the dog hurt me, not my kid. I don't know what I would've done then.
Most of all, glad you're both okay. Dogs can be wonderful - and terrifying.
Wow! Close call. Good story. I like your blog. A lot.
Ugh. What a scary - but well-told, clean - story. Sheesh. So much to say.

So what are you going to do? The dog obviously has behavioral issues that can be worked on (I'm guessing you watch Cesar Milan, whom I worship and adore with all of my life.) There are things you can do that work fairly quickly and effectively.

That dog is thinking she's the boss of the house, not just your kid. If you decide to keep her, I'll relay what I know. (I watch Cesar religiously and have had dogs my whole life - except now, unfort.)

Then again, my mother - a good person with animals - always thought one good bite and that's it. They're out. Can't risk it with kids around.

Thank goodness you're alright. When you said "your eye bounced" my stomach flipped!
Omigod. Research calm, loving dogs, ie. golden retrievers and go buy one now. Sorry to sound so bossy. You went above and beyond with the killer-puppy and paid for it.
We have an 8 month old fox terrier/chihuahua mix and he growls. When I brought him to the vet, the vet said, Puppies should not growl. His 1st 3 1/2 mos. were probably chaotic and scary before we adopted him. So far, he has calmed down and I think will turn out great. But we had to work with him a lot. Glad you got rid of your puppy, definitely get a new one soon for you and your son! Good luck!
Couple of things:

I'm sorry this happened to you and your son, I truly am.

It's fantastic you went to the shelter for your pet, *however*, with foster moms and the shelter and then your family, she does sound to have been moved around a lot. That won't have helped her mental status, and for that I blame the shelter, *not* you or your son.

You have no way of knowing the dog's lineage. Many people have "accidental" breedings where the mother has a litter by the son, siblings mating etc. Then they foist the resulting litter off on people who want a dog... and nobody is told they're inbred and insane.

Thirdly: I've had collies, German Shepherds, Rottweilers, Mastiffs.
You know which dog it was that attacked children? The Collie. They're not family pets, they're *extremely* dangerous dogs... but no one ever tells you that until it's too late.

Find a friendly dog owner who has a well trained dog and allow your son to *see* that this puppy was a fluke; my advice is to stay away from Collies totally, because this kind of attack is normal behaviour for them. Find something less dangerous, like a properly bred and trained Mastiff, Rottweiler or Pitbull for your son to become friends with.

Oh, and google "home made muzzle". It's only a bit of string, but can save lives in an emergency. It will give you enough time to throw an attacking dog into a crate without risk of being bitten further.
I was going to refer you to Lisa Kern's stories about Madame Cujo, but she told you herself - you're lucky this one showed true colors early on - you could have had a much more painful incident on your hands. I hope you find another one like Zoey.
Pablo – thanks for the kind words.

Beth – Sophie is gone. I couldn’t risk her around my kid. But we’re hoping for another puppy, maybe soon.

Hi, Deborah – Thanks for the good wishes. And good luck with your little dog.

Webbigail, I didn’t think of how many places this pup had been in such a short time. I’ve always favored shelter animals, but with this experience and the lack of info as to a potential pet’s background, I’m rethinking that. And thanks for the home made muzzle tip – I am going to Google it in just a minute.

Umbrellakinesis – Lisa’s stories were riveting and scary. If only I could’ve cloned Zoey – she was a great dog.