Shopping malls in Singapore are ubiquitous, inescapable. They insinuate themselves into every level of your being, from the glam marvels of Ion Orchard and Ngee Ann City to the humbler open-arcade affairs that surround even outlying subway stations.

I’ve always hated shopping malls in Ameri… Read full post »

 A few mornings ago, here's what I read over breakfast in the local paper:

[C]ompared to the older generation..., young adults would rather stick to something that they are familiar with and can handle than take up new challenges. They also lack the tenacity to weather tough times—such as… Read full post »

There’s no doubt that Joan Didion is a lightning rod for women writers of my generation. In fact, she’s been a skinny pole defying the whole big thundering sky of publishing and journalism for the past five decades.

With Didion, you love her or you hate her or you have decidedly mixed… Read full post »

My son has reached an age when he loves to get my goat. Take the word “balls” and what a nine-year-old boy can get up to with a Christmas tree:

“Look at these balls!” He holds up two red ornaments.

“Yep. Those are balls,” I say.

“Let’s hang the balls on th… Read full post »

I'm not a foodie; it's hard to be when you're a vegetarian who learned how to cook in the 1970s. But my husband loves fine dining, so we've gone to restaurants run by celebrity chefs like Ming Tsai. We’ve imbibed a “Tomato Martini.” We’ve eaten copious amounts of shaved truffl… Read full post »

A gay dad sits at the dining-room table, making a scrapbook about baby Lily's adoption. A tiny conical hat perches on his head. It's all the funnier because this dad—ex-college-football player Cameron—is so large.

"Look at this." Cameron reverently holds up the hat.

"Oh my God!" cries Mit… Read full post »

Ever since Steve Jobs died last week, I've been thinking about what it means or why everyone is so convinced he was a brilliant executive.

Of course Jobs was a gifted, creative man. It's terrible when anyone with a family and thriving business is cut down in his… Read full post »

It used to be my favorite magazine. It was the one I first subscribed to when I landed a real job after college.* It had rock-and roll stars on its covers, all the stuff that mattered to outlaw me—or the me who fell squarely into the demographic Rolling Stone targeted in… Read full post »

Magazine titles are designed to push buttons. In “Is College Over?,” writer Janelle Nanos addresses many troubling issues at universities today: skyrocketing tuition costs, the burden of increasing student debt, and whether college teachers are adequately qualified to teach.

Yet at best, t… Read full post »

My family and I had traversed the Galata Bridge in a taxi at 3 a.m. on the way to Atatürk Airport. My nine-year-old had looked out at the glowing mosques and bridges over the Bosphorus with drooping eyelids. Many hours later, I wasn’t just jetlagged; I was shocked by the flat… Read full post »

It hit me suddenly on Mother’s Day. My son and husband brought me breakfast in bed and a vase of roses. My nine-year-old son made biscuits, one shaped like a heart. My husband brought me a bowl of malted milk balls with my morning coffee. On this day of days, I… Read full post »

I slept poorly last night, dear child. I didn’t hear the news until this morning, after I had drifted asleep to a dawn chorus of birds on our living room couch. I didn’t know what had happened. But something kept me up and anxious, almost like a ghost bird, pecking at… Read full post »

On a Saturday in late February, mounds of dirty snow clutter the curbs, but the sky overhead is wind-swept blue. My son and I cross the park to the Cambridge Public Library Main Branch, a glittering temple of glass.

The boy is doing zigzags; at nine years old,… Read full post »

I was ten or eleven when I first read Alice in Wonderland. I was sick in bed, feverish, and the used paperback copy my father had given me felt like a desperate choice. There on the cover was the Mad Hatter and a creepy bunny with a pocket watch. Still, I… Read full post »

I am not a member of the Composure Class, journalist David Brooks’s term for young achievers with perfect hair and teeth. An example of the type meets his mate, writes Brooks, “at the Clinton Global Initiative, where they happened to be wearing the same Doctors Without Borders support bra… Read full post »

On a recent Sunday morning, I found my son asleep on our big purple couch, his latest Bionicle inches from his nose. He’d clearly been staring at it before he dozed off.

What was he was imagining about that fierce, reticulated monster? Did he picture himself doing battle, another armored warrio… Read full post »

In the 1960s, my father was handsome, lean and dark-haired, like Gregory Peck, my mother used to say.

He was the professor who took student demands at his college to the administration—too old to be a protester himself but young enough to believe in change. He was indeed Gregory Peck as… Read full post »

On a recent morning at Logan Airport, I saw Cher, in a black leotard and fishnet stockings, gracing the cover of Vanity Fair.

Of course I bought the issue. Of course I inhaled the profile by Krista Smith, although it wasn’t transcendent journalism, just the usual… Read full post »

When I start thinking I've wasted my life on art, I know I’m lying to myself. The lie is hurtful for many reasons, but this past weekend—five days after my mother-in-law passed away—I was reminded again of why art matters.

On Saturday, we gathered near Washington, D.C., for a small m… Read full post »

I love pies. I love homemade cakes, too, but pies bring out the longing in me.

Recently, I made a peach pie that approached my Platonic ideal. One teenage dinner guest told me that "if this pie were at our house, it would be gone… Read full post »

Today's election in Massachusetts is not exactly the smokin' contest to watch. Midterms in my fair state generally end up producing breast-beating reports from the local media about low turnout and voter apathy.

Even the Scott Brown-Martha Coakley debacle this past January—and, boy, did that ge… Read full post »

I have a temper.

This isn't obvious when people first meet me. On the east coast where I now live, acquaintances sometimes mistake my California speaking style for mellowness. I've heard "you seem so laid back" so often that I have to suppress howls of laughter. If my husband is in… Read full post »

The Christmas before I left for college, I made three wise men out of pipe cleaners and felt. I fashioned a camel for one the size of a mouse. I hung a paper star from the ceiling to guide them to our living room.

There a plastic creche perched under the… Read full post »

When Aimee Louise Sword was sentenced this week, I hastened to write about the online uproar over yet another bad adoption story. Sword, a mid-thirties birth mother in Michigan, is going to jail for having sex with a teenage birth son. She should be. There is no doubt she committed a… Read full post »

Try googling “Aimee Louise Sword.” The top hit is a compilation of news stories and commentaries about Sword pleading guilty this week to having sex with her 14-year-old birth son. At the moment, there are "533 related articles."

Yet one of the other top hits will be a ten-month-old… Read full post »