MARY T. KELLY

I've Got Issues...

marytkelly

marytkelly
Location
Boulder, Colorado, U.S.A.
Birthday
October 22
Bio
Family, marital, and individual psychotherapist. Specializes in stepfamily dynamics and difficult transitions. I try to write from the heart with a sense of vulnerability, humor and a frank look at myself.

MY RECENT POSTS

FEBRUARY 2, 2012 10:00AM

Dignity.

statue of liberty 

Like everyone, there have been times when the insults, gossips, falsehoods, judgments and the finger pointing, some expected and some not, have come hurling at me like fireballs.  My skin and inner core weren’t thick enough to absorb the blazing burning of the looks and opini/… Read full post »

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JANUARY 2, 2012 11:05PM

Cold Stone Sober

Heart drowning
 

I don’t need an aphrodisiac, no wine to marinate my sorrows,

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NOVEMBER 23, 2011 10:32AM

My Life Is A Nightmare!

disasters
 

“My life is a nightmare.”  “The drama never ends.”  “I can’t take this another minute.”  “It’s just one crisis after another.”  These are the things I say to myself when life doesn’t g/Read full post »

NOVEMBER 14, 2011 10:54AM

I Love Myself

heart maze

I love myself.  There I said it.  Without guilt, reservation or hesitation.  I say it with passion and commitment.  And I say it with humility and simplicity.  Sometimes I say it moment to moment and sometimes, the heart knows and no words need to be said for days.&nbRead full post »

OCTOBER 6, 2011 9:47AM

Aspen Leaves of Grace

aspen leaves 

I woke up Friday morning and didn’t remember.  As the early morning warm sleep slipped away, I could feel the familiar cold dull pulse of a heart confused and the sadness of the unknowing came rushing in like an avalanche.  I got up slowly and reluctantly, feeling as if/Read full post »

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SEPTEMBER 7, 2011 1:08PM

Taxi Cab Confessions from 9/11

 
taxi

 

 (This is a modified repost I wrote four years ago)

I grew up on the East Coast and my father made the commute from Connecticut into New York City for many years.  Since the horrific events of September 11, 2001, I’ve made it a point to travel when I/Read full post »

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AUGUST 9, 2011 12:51PM

Letting It All Go

tug of war
 
(I'm having a tug of war between myself and myself)
 

The older I get the less I know.  I’m not as sure as I used to be, about anything.  I seemed to/Read full post »

JULY 13, 2011 11:29AM

A Proposal

Last month in the wedding month of June, I received the Email in the middle of an ordinary morning, a work day filled with clients, finishing up an article and tending to the more mundane tasks of  life like doing laundry, running errands and paying bills.

The Email stood out from… Read full post »

JUNE 14, 2011 12:58PM

What's The Rush?

What’s the rush?  Why does everyone seem to be in such a hurry?   I’m getting to the point when I have a conversation with an actual person (as opposed to hearing from them via text or email) where I feel like I better spill out whatever it is that needs toRead full post »

JUNE 10, 2011 11:57AM

Here's To All The Good Men

 champagne toast

Men like John Edwards, Eliot Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Jimmy Swaggart, Larry Craig, that delusional governor from South Carolina who lied about hiking to be with his South American mistress, and most recently, Anthony Weiner are really giving men a badRead full post »

lauren and scotty
Lauren and Scotty:  In It To Win It!!!
 

Can you say, "Yee Haw"?

This season of “American Idol” produced some of the best talent and the most diversity in all of the combined seasons of "American Idol".  But if you just tuned in last night for the finale/Read full post »

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MAY 18, 2011 12:57PM

"American Idol" Recap: The Final 3

Top 3
American Idol hopefuls:  Haley, Scotty and Lauren
 
Who would have thought the best was yet to come?  Who could have guessed after last year’s debacle that culminated in even the tough-skin Simon Cowell not having the stomach to stay, who could have predicted that this se/Read full post »
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MAY 13, 2011 2:09PM

Why I Hate Self-Help Books

self-help books
 

What I’m about to say may be considered shocking, blasphemous and puzzling given what I do for a living.   But I’m going to say it anyway.  Granted, it may be a temporary phase, but I pretty much hate most self-help books.  Yeah, despise them.  

BuRead full post »

APRIL 15, 2011 8:49AM

Black and White

 

monica

Artwork by Monica Stewart    

Her face was as black and shiny as the newly laid tar that had been laid out on the endowed summer streets of Greenwich, Connecticut, home to the whitest of the wealthy.  She sat, alone, at our kitchen table quietly eating/Read full post »

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MARCH 28, 2011 3:16PM

"Developing" Story: Padded Tops for Little Girls

 

Abercromie and Fitch padded bathing suit for little girls

 

“Developing News” was flashing on my TV screen this morning.  I had become numb to any kind of “breaking” news but this one caught my attention.  The “developing” story (pardon the pun) was about a new bathing suit being sold by &ldRead full post »

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FEBRUARY 23, 2011 8:18AM

Childhood Memories: Truth or Fiction?

Surely I'm not the only one who has a strange unexplainable memory from childhood. A mystery of a memory that to this day stands as clear and pronounced as those early morning thoughts after  a couple of cups of fresh brazen coffee.

I was only four years old, close to five,… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 11, 2011 12:37PM

Pat Conroy and Me

To try to explain to you how huge the heart is of one of the most popular novelist of the twentieth/twenty-first century, Pat Conroy, it may help you know the story of Pat Conroy and me.

Conroy and his Southern peach of a wife, a noted author herself,Read full post »

Grammer's fiance with his kids
Kayte Walsh, soon to be stepmother to four? 
 

I watch “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills”.  Don’t ask me why.  I’m sure it would take a very comfortable couch and years of psychoanalysis to try to figure it out.  I don’t have the time, p/Read full post »

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DECEMBER 22, 2010 7:35AM

Singing Our Way To Christmas

 
the gast family
 

There were two positive constants in my childhood:  Laughter and Music.

My father loved music and it may be a reason he was so enamored with my mother.  She was a beautiful woman with a voice like an angel and he adored her.  Memories serenade of/Read full post »

DECEMBER 14, 2010 10:19AM

Would You Cut Your Right Arm Off?

right arm
 
I’m a sucker for survival stories.  They fascinate me.  I marvel at the way people who find themselves in extreme situations, who are ordinary people suddenly literally fighting for their lives, display remarkable previously untapped resources and strengths for coping w/Read full post »
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NOVEMBER 30, 2010 2:16PM

Yes Virginia, There Are Still Some Gentlemen

a gentleman 

I recently received an email from a young woman named "Virginia".  She was asking me if there were any manners left in the world.  She was wondering if the word "etiquette" even existed.  She's a freshman in college and was alarmed to read a recent study that reported tha… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 28, 2010 10:30AM

The Ouija Board and Me

Ouija board
 

“Thou shalt not worship false gods before Me.”

This commandment was drilled in my head while, I swear, I was still in the womb.  There were nine other commandments embedded in my brain at tender ages, as well as a host of other rules and regulations I/Read full post »

OCTOBER 22, 2010 10:33AM

Build a Fire Pit and They Will Come

fire pit
 

My two sons live in the city that loves to play tricks on its visitors.  Fog pretends to be ghostly spirits that haunt the city on days one would swear its supposed to be summer, as they shiver beneath layers of clothes.

At the end of aRead full post »

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OCTOBER 7, 2010 2:23PM

Puppy Love

 Maximus

Ah...Maximus AKA Max...sweet puppy love 

I was never what one would call a “dog person”.  I was raised on 7 acres and my parents would get the occasional dog, but they were never allowed inside and their stays with us were brief.  Their lives were claimed byRead full post »

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SEPTEMBER 22, 2010 9:07AM

The Modern Family and Perfectionism

If there’s one thing I persist in being astonished about is the insistence by so many people I know: friends, family, and clients who are constantly trying to attain “perfection” in their lives.  They want to be the perfect parent, the perfect spouse, the perfect friend, the peRead full post »