I've Got Issues...And Peace


Boulder, Colorado,
October 22
Family, marital, and individual psychotherapist. Mother to four who no longer need my services but still enjoy my love as I do theirs. I specialize in stepfamily dynamics and difficult transitions. I try to write from the heart with a sense of vulnerability, humor and a frank look at myself. Art shown: "Four Pots" by Lindsey Leavell


NOVEMBER 21, 2008 5:32PM

Vegan Diva


(Unauthorized picture of bacon from BBE's most recent post)

Several years ago, I had a much-needed get together with my closest women friends.  I’m a natural born nurturer (raised Catholic) so when you walk in, you start getting taken care of.  It’s something I do to maRead full post »

Picking up the gauntlet challenge that seems to be thrown by everyone at this point, I offer this short 101 word story.  It is all true, every bit.  And it is now.


heart with maze


Empty nest became full nest
Full nest meant

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NOVEMBER 18, 2008 3:13PM

Divorce = Anti-Green Selfishness


Cam Battley’s most excellent post today on the cost of being environmentally green struck a chord in me.  It reminded me of an article I read recently. 

The article stated:

"A married household actually uses resources more efficiently than a divorced household," said JiangRead full post »

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NOVEMBER 17, 2008 2:36PM

The Objectification of Men


I’m not a researcher and I’m not going to throw statistical analyses at anyone.   And I’m not going to throw out the fact that I’m a therapist who has worked for over 15 years with couples, families and individuals.  I’m talking from my heart and… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 16, 2008 8:24PM

Bush Bash


(This says it all) 

It started years ago.  Every summer we would find random pumpkins growing on our property.  There were never many, maybe 6 at the most.  Every fall, my husband and his guy friends would get together out in the field.  The pumpkins became theiRead full post »

NOVEMBER 13, 2008 1:06PM

Don't Touch My Chardonnay!

woman and wine

(Not me, I don't have that eye piercing thing) 

 I don’t like being around non-drinkers.  I don’t like the phrase “clean and sober”—too hygienic and too serious. 

Yet I am all three.

When I was 16, my family moved from the reserved formal clRead full post »

NOVEMBER 8, 2008 10:37AM

The Friendly Skies and Barack Obama


 I took to the friendly skies this past Thursday morning.  Waiting in line to board the plane was a young woman speaking German on her cell phone.  She was talking loudly.  Normally this would be annoying to most, especially this early in the morning. 

SRead full post »

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NOVEMBER 4, 2008 2:39PM


12:37 PM 11/4/08:

Today could mark the day that Colorado turns blue for the second time in 40 years. This is truly an exciting day. Due to my IMPORTANT OS BLOGGING ASSIGNMENT, I decided to hit the Boulder streets this morning. This involved having breakfast at my… Read full post »

the gang
The gang and I (I'm in the blue) before the NAKED PUMPKIN RUN

  pumpkin head

 Pumpkin Head Mask

Yeah, that's it.  That's all the picture you're going to find of me, but before you start judging and assuming that I chickened out, that I ran naked but am being too modest, that I'm… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 31, 2008 8:50AM

Naked Pumpkin Run





Boulder is known for its liberal attitudes, new age spiritualism and left wing politics.  Pearl Street Mall is/… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 29, 2008 8:07PM

I Wish THE SECRET Was A Secret

the secret

How many of you know about THE SECRET? You know, the DVD now New York Times bestselling book sensation made famous by Oprah and company? 

Yes, that one.  Hey, I bought THE SECRET way before it still was a secret.

I’ve seen THE SECRET DVD twice. Read full post »

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OCTOBER 28, 2008 11:17AM

Obama and Sarah On Dancing With The Stars

dancing with the stars

 In an unprecedent move never before seen on national television, and not to be upstaged by Tina Fey, Obama the Uniter and Sarah the _________(fill in your own blank), have agreed to appear on Dancing With The Stars.

This couldn't have come at a more welcome time. 

 I, like man… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 24, 2008 3:13PM

Confessions of A Born Again


This is my last post on the subject.  My final purge.  I promise.  

I was 17 and a freshman in college.  Happy to be away from home, a home where I didn’t feel seen.  A classic middle child.  I was an enabler, a pleaser, a peacemaker, a good… Read full post »

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OCTOBER 20, 2008 7:32PM

This May Sound Terrible...


This may sound terrible…but if I’m going to be really honest with you…I can’t remember when my mother died. I really can’t.  It’s not because she died when I was really young.  She died I think in the spring, maybe 3 or 4 years ago, maybeRead full post »

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OCTOBER 17, 2008 7:07PM

My 15 Minutes of Shame

family feud

(This is not us...but if we looked like them, it would be) 

When my first child was born, my former husband and I were living in Laguna Beach.  Life was idyllic.

One day, while nursing my child, I had Family Feud on.  Yes Family Feud.  Yes, the showRead full post »

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OCTOBER 15, 2008 10:25AM

The Brady Bunch Myth

Brady bunch 

One of the first things I tell the couples I work with who come in to see me with stepfamily issues is this:  "The Brady Bunch is a myth.  The Blended Family is a myth.  If you can let this go, you will suffer less, your children willRead full post »

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OCTOBER 14, 2008 9:10AM

Sexy Foody Tuesday: Got Crabs?


Got Crabs?

Think crab feast.  Think great food.  Think great friends.  Think outside the box. Think unforgettable.  Think messy.  Think sultry.  Think sensual. Think sex.

 This is one of my favorite meals to serve because it seduces people to relax,Read full post »

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OCTOBER 9, 2008 11:55PM

The Power of Fear

market plunge

 I spent almost the entire day without hearing THE NEWS.

 6:00 AM came this morning with the gentle vibrations of the alarm of my cell phone.  It wasn’t needed.  I was awake.  It was pitch black.  I was awake and I was excited. 

I was going to Boston t… Read full post »

OCTOBER 7, 2008 8:19AM

My House Of Belonging

small house 

My parents died a long time ago and my family, for the most part, lives out of state.  My friends are my family and I have them over often.  I live on 2 acres and my property is a virtual playground for both children and adults.  There's a large tree house/Read full post »

 Just some Saturday night fun...

the view


Everyone has had it with Elizabeth Hasselbeck.  She’s a whiner, she’s a complainer, she’s a crybaby, she’s shrill (sorry but she is), and she’s environmentally wasteful—think of the Kleenex she must go thro… Read full post »

OCTOBER 1, 2008 7:51PM

Seeing Michelle Obama: A Real Woman

michelle smiling 

I cried today.

But before I cried, I got on my bike and took a creek path.  A path that took me along a creek, past trees screaming with the passion of fall, a path that took me to change.  A path that took meRead full post »

crazy cat

(This is not an actual photo of Simba--Simba was too busy peeing and running to ever be photgraphed) 

I’ve been thinking about my brief period as a cat owner.  It was brief for 2 reasons.  One was…I’m allergic to cats.  The other is that the one and onl/Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 30, 2008 11:27AM

What's On Your Bucket List?


One liberating thing about getting back to nature is the space you get when you don’t have the normal fences of life hemming you all around.

I love to ride my bike up steep hills.  One of my favorite steep hills is the one that leads to theRead full post »

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SEPTEMBER 30, 2008 1:29AM

Letting My Son Go

“Their hearts were wrung with anguish, the anguish of having children...a vulnerability as astounding as the capacity for love that parenthood brings.”

lake powell  

Several years ago, I spent a week with my children on a houseboat in prehistoric and haunting Lake Powell.  TheRead full post »

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SEPTEMBER 29, 2008 5:45PM

Sarah Palin Eyeglass Frames: Buy Them Now!

In the spirit of Jerry Seinfeld, here's something about nothing to perk up your blue Monday...which has turned out to be a very blue Monday indeed.

Now that we've seen the disaster of today and Wall Street, we need a distraction. 

sarah palin 

We need shallow, we need superficial and we need… Read full post »