I've Got Issues...And Peace


Boulder, Colorado,
October 22
Family, marital, and individual psychotherapist. Mother to four who no longer need my services but still enjoy my love as I do theirs. I specialize in stepfamily dynamics and difficult transitions. I try to write from the heart with a sense of vulnerability, humor and a frank look at myself. Art shown: "Four Pots" by Lindsey Leavell


SEPTEMBER 25, 2013 6:54PM

After The Flood

 boulder rainfall

(An unknown passenger took this picture as their plane was landing in Denver.  It shows the huge cloud rain mass over Boulder.) 

Colorado is a mile high desert despite the mountains that attract snow like parched wanderers to a cold deep spring.  Those of us who live here… Read full post »

AUGUST 21, 2013 3:03PM

Five Years and Counting on Open Salon

Winter Women by Lindsay Leavell 

"Winter Women" by Lindsey Leavell 

Five years and counting…

I joined OS in August of 2008. How I found out about OS isn't of consequence, but the turn my life made the day I first decided to write a post was.

I had no idea of the world that was… Read full post »

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AUGUST 6, 2012 1:50PM

Politics, A 911 Call, and Love


We made an agreement four years ago to never talk politics, this sister and me.  We are night and day, sun and moon, opposites in so many ways.  She has strong religious convictions and I’m a shoulder shrugger who says, “Who knows?”  She is soft, &n/… Read full post »

JULY 25, 2012 8:49AM

When The Fires Burn



Waldo fire

(AP Photo/The Gazette, Jerilee Bennett) 

The month of June in Colorado was hot as Hades, setting new records for high temperatures and wild fires that allowed themselves to be domesticated as they made residence in suburbs full of beloved homes and prized possessions.&nbs… Read full post »

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MARCH 19, 2012 10:01AM

The Call


There was never a doubt in my mind when it came to wanting children. Among other things, I always knew I wanted to be a mother. 

Three years into my first marriage, it never occurred to me that I wouldn’t be able to conceive a child.  I was one of/… Read full post »

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MARCH 7, 2012 12:52PM

AA, San Francisco Style

golden gate bridge 

I went to support the one I loved.  I went to support myself.  It was dusk in the City by the Bay and the soft orangish golden hues of a day that was reluctant to say good night illuminated the city like halos. 

I went to support the others… Read full post »
FEBRUARY 2, 2012 10:00AM


statue of liberty 

Like everyone, there have been times when the insults, gossips, falsehoods, judgments and the finger pointing, some expected and some not, have come hurling at me like fireballs.  My skin and inner core weren’t thick enough to absorb the blazing burning of the looks and opini/… Read full post »

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JANUARY 2, 2012 11:05PM

Stone Cold Sober

Heart drowning

I don’t need an aphrodisiac, no wine to marinate my sorrows,

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NOVEMBER 23, 2011 10:32AM

My Life Is A Nightmare!


“My life is a nightmare.”  “The drama never ends.”  “I can’t take this another minute.”  “It’s just one crisis after another.”  These are the things I say to myself when life doesn’t g/Read full post »

NOVEMBER 14, 2011 10:54AM

I Love Myself

heart maze

I love myself.  There I said it.  Without guilt, reservation or hesitation.  I say it with passion and commitment.  And I say it with humility and simplicity.  Sometimes I say it moment to moment and sometimes, the heart knows and no words need to be said for days.&nbRead full post »

OCTOBER 6, 2011 9:47AM

Aspen Leaves of Grace

aspen leaves 

I woke up Friday morning and didn’t remember.  As the early morning warm sleep slipped away, I could feel the familiar cold dull pulse of a heart confused and the sadness of the unknowing came rushing in like an avalanche.  I got up slowly and reluctantly, feeling as if/Read full post »

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SEPTEMBER 7, 2011 1:08PM

Taxi Cab Confessions from 9/11



 (This is a modified repost I wrote four years ago)

I grew up on the East Coast and my father made the commute from Connecticut into New York City for many years.  Since the horrific events of September 11, 2001, I’ve made it a point to travel when I/Read full post »

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AUGUST 9, 2011 12:51PM

Letting It All Go

tug of war
(I'm having a tug of war between myself and myself)

The older I get the less I know.  I’m not as sure as I used to be, about anything.  I seemed to/Read full post »

JULY 13, 2011 11:29AM

A Proposal

Last month in the wedding month of June, I received the Email in the middle of an ordinary morning, a work day filled with clients, finishing up an article and tending to the more mundane tasks of  life like doing laundry, running errands and paying bills.

The Email stood out from… Read full post »

JUNE 14, 2011 12:58PM

What's The Rush?

What’s the rush?  Why does everyone seem to be in such a hurry?   I’m getting to the point when I have a conversation with an actual person (as opposed to hearing from them via text or email) where I feel like I better spill out whatever it is that needs toRead full post »

JUNE 10, 2011 11:57AM

Here's To All The Good Men

 champagne toast

Men like John Edwards, Eliot Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Jimmy Swaggart, Larry Craig, that delusional governor from South Carolina who lied about hiking to be with his South American mistress, and most recently, Anthony Weiner are really giving men a badRead full post »

lauren and scotty
Lauren and Scotty:  In It To Win It!!!

Can you say, "Yee Haw"?

This season of “American Idol” produced some of the best talent and the most diversity in all of the combined seasons of "American Idol".  But if you just tuned in last night for the finale/Read full post »

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MAY 18, 2011 12:57PM

"American Idol" Recap: The Final 3

Top 3
American Idol hopefuls:  Haley, Scotty and Lauren
Who would have thought the best was yet to come?  Who could have guessed after last year’s debacle that culminated in even the tough-skin Simon Cowell not having the stomach to stay, who could have predicted that this se/Read full post »
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MAY 13, 2011 2:09PM

Why I Hate Self-Help Books

self-help books

What I’m about to say may be considered shocking, blasphemous and puzzling given what I do for a living.   But I’m going to say it anyway.  Granted, it may be a temporary phase, but I pretty much hate most self-help books.  Yeah, despise them.  

BuRead full post »

APRIL 15, 2011 8:49AM

Black and White



Artwork by Monica Stewart    

Her face was as black and shiny as the newly laid tar that had been laid out on the endowed summer streets of Greenwich, Connecticut, home to the whitest of the wealthy.  She sat, alone, at our kitchen table quietly eating/Read full post »

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MARCH 28, 2011 3:16PM

"Developing" Story: Padded Tops for Little Girls


Abercromie and Fitch padded bathing suit for little girls


“Developing News” was flashing on my TV screen this morning.  I had become numb to any kind of “breaking” news but this one caught my attention.  The “developing” story (pardon the pun) was about a new bathing suit being sold by &ldRead full post »

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FEBRUARY 23, 2011 8:18AM

Childhood Memories: Truth or Fiction?

Surely I'm not the only one who has a strange unexplainable memory from childhood. A mystery of a memory that to this day stands as clear and pronounced as those early morning thoughts after  a couple of cups of fresh brazen coffee.

I was only four years old, close to five,… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 11, 2011 12:37PM

Pat Conroy and Me

To try to explain to you how huge the heart is of one of the most popular novelist of the twentieth/twenty-first century, Pat Conroy, it may help you know the story of Pat Conroy and me.

Conroy and his Southern peach of a wife, a noted author herself,Read full post »

Grammer's fiance with his kids
Kayte Walsh, soon to be stepmother to four? 

I watch “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills”.  Don’t ask me why.  I’m sure it would take a very comfortable couch and years of psychoanalysis to try to figure it out.  I don’t have the time, p/Read full post »

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DECEMBER 22, 2010 7:35AM

Singing Our Way To Christmas

the gast family

There were two positive constants in my childhood:  Laughter and Music.

My father loved music and it may be a reason he was so enamored with my mother.  She was a beautiful woman with a voice like an angel and he adored her.  Memories serenade of/Read full post »