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I'm a 40-something therapist living in one of the most beautiful places on earth. I'm also the chief critter-wrangler in a household that currently includes Abby the Border Collie, Collin the Aussie, Chance the Persian, Lizzie the Tortie, Mouse the Manx mix, and Jeffrey the husband. >^..^< I've been described as a bleeding heart liberal hippie do-gooder. Probably a pretty accurate description. :)

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NOVEMBER 30, 2008 4:23PM

Call to Action: Fight Violence Against Women

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Nicholas Kristof's column in today's New York Times,  Terrorism That's Personal, delves into the practice of men, usually husbands, using acid to ruin a woman's appearance and life. He makes it clear that this is not an uncommon occurrence; nor is it a new practice.

 Kristof cites statistics gathered by Shahnaz Bukhari, the founder of the Progressive Women’s Association. In 14 years, she has tallied 7,800 cases in the Islamabad area alone, of women who have been deliberately burned by fire, scalding, or acid. That is an average of nearly 560 women per year. Only 2% of these attacks have resulted in a conviction. That translates to 156 women--out of 7800--whose attackers have been charged, tried, and convicted.

Why is this number so low? 

The short answer is, women are seen in this region as property, as chattel. Their men--fathers, uncles, brothers, cousins, husbands, sons--are the overseers of their women, and have the right to adminster punishment as they see fit. Sometimes other women get into it, too--their are documented cases of mothers-in-law, especially in India, attacking their sons' wives--but it is primarily the domain of the men.

This leads society--including the courts--to place little importance on prosecuting a man for injuring, or even killing, a female in his family. He is generally considered well within his rights.

When a woman is seen as property, her only real worth is what she can provide to her husband, including dowry, sex, children. If she is left by her husband, whether divorced or abandoned; especially in a country where her movements are heavily restricted unless she has a male to escort her; her only chance for a "good life" involves marrying someone else. The chances of this happening are almost nil if her face has been disfigured.

This graphic video shows the difficulty and horror these women face if they survive such an attack. 

 And what happens to the women who do survive? 

The woman who is the focus of this article, Naeema Azar, was a successful real estate agent prior to being attacked by her ex-husband. The attack left her blind and terribly disfigured.

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(Source: NYT)

She cannot close her eyes or her lips. She refuses to eat in front of other people because food falls out of her mouth. She cannot work, and survives on the charity of friends, and support of the Progressive Women’s Association. She does not go out in public unless she is completely covered, because she doesn't want to horrify people. She is cared for by her 12 y.o. son.

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(Source: NYT)

The association is trying to raise funds for a surgery that could restore vision in one of her eyes. Her ex-husband has never been prosecuted; the association is also raising funds to hire a lawyer to pressure the government to find and prosecute him.

What can you do? 

 You can lobby your Congresspersons to vote for the Biden-Lugar International Violence Against Women Act. This act is designed to highlight such violence, and put pressure on foreign governments to take action. 

 More directly and immediately, you can provide financial support to the Progressive Women’s Association. This organization is working to fight all areas of violent crimes against women. 

I am donating today. I urge you to do the same. 

 

 



 

 

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Christine, thanks for the information on this. It's really such a different world where women are not treated like they are in our society. We'll get busy here and take the same action that you have.
Horrific. Can't get my head around it. And now, can't get it out of my head.
In this day and age, it's hard to believe the atrocities that go on around the world. Even in our own country women are beaten, raped, mamed and murdered on a daily basis.

It's equally hard to believe that one would have to "lobby" a congressperson to vote for such a bill. If a person would vote against such a bill they would never get my vote again.
Seems like a no brainer. None the less, the squeeky wheel gets the grease so I will do my part.
Thank you thank you thank you for this very important post. You are an inspiration. Will follow up on this for sure.
Umbrella, it is heartbreaking. There are cases in the US, of course, of (mostly) women being set on fire by their (usually) husbands or exes; but it's rare enough that it makes national news when it happens. And we are a country of 300 million people. Islamabad and its sister city Rawalpindi have a combined population of around 5 million. And they have an average of 10 incidents per week! It is appalling.

MTN, that is exactly how I felt when I read this column. It's one of those things you know is out there because every once in awhile it makes it into the news--but you don't realize how common it is until someone throws statistics and images in your face. Horrific is the perfect word.

Michael and Mary, thank you for your comments, and for taking action.

Obama has officially announced HRC as his Secty' of State. HRC is passionate about womens' rights, including the right to be free from violence, and I am hopeful that she will take this on as one of her pet issues.
I want to thank you for this post. These things are not right.
The pic in itself is disturbing.
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Suzy
Great post, but..

I'm torn by this issue. I financially support my local Women's Abuse Organization. I also have had a beer or two with men who have abused their wife/GF. Ok, we go to same bar, we're npot drinking buddies.

Their abuse victims are often drinking with them after they have spent time in the shelter for a few days and have refused to press charges.

I even wrote a column advocating issuing FOID cards and guns to abuse victims instead of Orders of Protection. I was verbally beat up by several women's groups/advocates.

So, I am torn whether to support a GREAT IDEA, but in a culture where women abuse is legal. I just need a little more convincing.