As I was reading the headline on Salon.com the article is regarding a blog that was written by Scott Adams the creator of the cartoon, "Dilbert". His blog was "Pegs and Holes", in defense staff editor Mary Elizabeth Willams wants Scott Adams to clarify certain taboos that Scott writes about regarding the sense of what is right, versus what is wrong with men and sexual attitudes. Women seem to fair better, due to the fact that they are better moral gate keepers as Adams belives. That is all up to opinion, when the sexes try to upsurge their better selves, after they have triped over their shoe strings, it is hard to tiddy up the image. People fall off the invisible line of, "what is acceptable, versus what is up for translation".

         Sexual attitudes vary according to age, according to hormone, according to male testerone, according to females that are out to have a good time, and are not thinking about facing themselves in the mirror the next day. Some lenient views regarding sexual advances are again all variable, if there is attraction, versus "no", he or she is okay, but "heck no", it's not a sexual attraction. Thankfully, many jabs at work and in the grocery store, and other places where people can make casual comments, that yes could be taken out of context. This is the 2000's, if you ask someone "out" loosely implied to lunch, you can rest assure this is like a piece of meat on a open barbeque. People will talk and want to know is he or she married? what is the state of the relationship, and more yadda yadda yadda.

      Do people ever have enough of rethinking how they reflect to themselves? When we do catch the gaffes and the gaffaws that cause others to ridicule or berate our behavior it makes us self conscious. Certain personality types aren't into cringing or at least they don't do it publicly. As a younger person, I can remember encountering a "first" of sorts. I was a club with my then sister-in-law, I was not happy in my first marraige, and was just out for a a change of pace. The woman I was casually speaking with, stated that she was in the club for a pick-up. I was thrown by her comment, and I am not sure if I would've found it somewhat offensive.

       I am a lady, and even though things may not look like they seem, people make assumptions, "all the time". One of the things upon entering "adult land" is definitely learning to make assumptions. It is sad, that people can't just trust themselves with being their own keeper. But the sad reality is that every time you sleep with someone, you become someone else. Sleeping with people is heavy business, it is an act of intimacy. It is an act that defines sharing, it is an act that requires us to take off our clothes, and become intimate even if for short brief periods of time, you know are privvy to a whole bunch of other information you did not have before.

       Maybe that is one of the key differences between men and women, men tend to not want to "think" in terms of heavy duty facts regarding what intimacy is regarding sexual fancy as to whims, and daring women into that maleness is like asking a sheep to come to the wolfs den. It isn't the same for women, that are mostly groomed to think in terms of what their DNA is regarding for later training, going right into motherhood. Men go to war, men are prone to feeling sorry for having not gotten it right, but with out triggering on the sense of aloneness, what is a male to do? Certain men are asexual and make for terrible sexual partners.

        There are the English that will cast a glance and make subtle English humor as though to say a man like that would make a great lamp post. Like who would accept that kind of relationship. Well according to many researched studies, there are many people that are living in sexless marraiges. For reasons but not limited to people not liking the way they look, their mates are bored, they are feeling unfufilled, unconnected and out of touch with how to remedy the situation. It is kind of like watching Jack Nicholson, either in "Post Cards from the Edge", or even with Helen Hunt, after men and women are of a certain age, and the sadder sense of having been through a divorce, rectifies what we allready know.

        Love is risky business, people have lost fiances, they have lost fortunes, homes, children, family members that will no longer speak to them, and alimony... the list goes on and on. So now you meet someone that you think "might" be a good fit, good even great now keep it. That is it, plain and simple, live with it, go to church with it, laugh with it, cry with it, and make the best with it. Because at the end of the day, life is not getting longer, there will be that elusive day  that we said, how, who what and who cares...

      Be true to yourself and don't accept no less, people are too pre-occupied with technological items and gadgets, these items have no soul, they have no conscious, but "you" do. So stay away from mirrors, and naked innuendos, you never know who is looking and you wouldn't want to. Things that seem secure are hardly, the techological gadget has no clue what secure means, as witness with a recent politician. It is not anybodys business about other stuff, what stays in the bedroom of most decent people, notice  I did say people, is their business. If they're smart they'll keep it that way, good luck trying to figure out the close lines of intimacy, sexual provocation, sexual attack, rape, and a bunch of terms that most good people would not want in their vocabulary.

       The business of "other" types of mens enjoyment such as "Hustler", "Penthouse", and other sexually explict magazines is for that type of reader who is looking to educate him or her self on certain types of sexual etiquette. Many of the articles are thought provoking, and they are written for a wide audience of people that know where they stand, and when they are standing in certain pre-ludes to situations. Those people will and can decide how high are the stakes, who should or shouldn't know, who will or will not find out, and in a perfect world, people would agree to mind their business when the issue is not "safe".

        There are many classifications for people on the lam in dealing with affairs, why? you may ask, who knows for sure? People are  hard subject with much knoweldge that they choose to use at the wrong time, but rest assured if they go too far, they break the bounds of both private and public trust along with both natural and man made laws, and then well the universe steps in and at to answer to that is a bit like over looking "you're destiny" over the edge of Grand Canyon. The view is not pretty when you can't fabricate enough of panaroma for people to get an idea about lurid behavior, or about acting in a in-appropiate way.

       Explanations can make ploping noises like those that come out of ones derieer after feeling like ones guts are going to be auctioned off at the next signing that says those who live in sin, will and deserve thier just consequences, I would say desert, but seldom are those deserts sweet, seldom is looking at ones self, after a fall from grace pretty. Learning to like ones self takes true courage, and true grit, before a man can come along and trap most innocent doe like creatures (just ask any man who has young daughters, how his daughters look like to him). Until they come back as different beings...how? they now know, carnal knowledge.