We wake up where the hell we wake up!
Contemplations on Marriage:
"Marriage is a wonderful institution" is a line I have spent the great majority of my life saying on a fairly regular basis. I have routinely followed that statement with "When I am ready for an institution I know where Bellevue is!"
Many heterosexual men refer to their wives as "the old ball and chain"... I know many heterosexual (and bisexual) women who refer to their husbands as "the collar and leash." I do not wear either a leash or a collar...and yet...
I, and the men and women in my life, consider myself to be married. To each and every one of them. We refer to it as "group relationship."
I can hear the howls of outrage and the curious "how's that work?!?" Suffice it to say "It works for us" and leave that one right there because it is both simple and complicated... depending on where you stand.
Standing where we are standing.. it is simple. We love and support one another irrespective of gender and sexuality. Period.
If one of the children yells for a parent, irrespective of whose child it is, there is someone with parental responsibility and authority available to answer the call. Our children KNOW who their biological parents are... they ALSO know that no matter what they can turn to any of the adults in their life and get the same response they would have gotten from a parent.
I can hear the cogs turning... I can almost hear all of the "but what about sex" questions... Puerile aren't you? Might I suggest reading Is that ejaculate in my coffee cup?
They're OUR bedrooms... if you aren't having sex with one of us your nose does NOT belong in THAT part of our, or any other, relationship.
There is a point here...
Just as the intimate details of OUR relationship are nobody's business other than our own... The intimate details of EVERY relationship are NOT the business of ANYONE other than the participants IN the relationship.
I don't care if John is married to James... or Amanda is married to Jessica... or Eve is married to Adam... or Mary is married to Joseph and Samantha... or any OTHER combination of relationships... It's not MY business and I flat don't care.
The argument is made frequently that marriage is a "social contract"...To that I say *cough*bullshit*cough*. I also suggest you look up the definition of the word social.
Marriage is - a means of control devised about the time that men figured out sperm is needed for conception and they wanted to make sure that "their" children were, in fact, THEIR children coupled with wanting to ensure that children "not of their loins" did not inherit "the fruits of their labors" and nothing more.
As Wifey says... "it's bugger all to do with anyone what people do in their relationships YOU get invited in YOU can fucking comment" followed rapidly by: "MIND YER OWN FUCKING BUSINESS AND STFU BERK"
Wifey also added: "I am *annoyed* by people commenting on *private* affairs of which they have NO fuckin' concept - they miss out on SO much but if they are happy being monogamous, that's THEIR business."
For those who put up straw filled arguments about forms of relationships they are not active participants in I suggest discussing the matter with the ultimate strawman...