Yesterday after a long day of unemployed work I came home to find out that Proposition 8 had been upheld and this has pissed off a lot of my homo brothers and sisters, as it should. I understand their anger over this issue. It's almost as if this is one more way for the Christian conservatives to metaphorically punch us in the gut and say "Hey, you're different and we hate you. Don't you dare forget that!"
I get being upset about it, I really do. There is totally a part of me that just wants to scream out "God, really how stupid are you people? Do you truly think that allowing queers to get married will bring on the end of the world?" But then I remember ‘oh wait, they do believe that and sadly they voted more than the people who don't believe it.’
Before I get into what pisses me off about gay marriage let me just throw some facts out there for those of you who may not know me.
1. I'm a big ol' lezzie and proud of it. Go Pinks!
2. I'm agnostic and have been for a very long time. Being an agnostic nowadays is usually compared to being bisexual, in that both groups can't make up their minds. But though I'm pretty grounded in the fact that though I believe it's possible for there to be a 'god' out there, I do not believe (nor would I worship him even if...) the Christian god is real. I love my Christian friends and family, but that cup of tea is most definitely not my flavor.
3. I believe whole heartedly that before we go to one protest for gay marriage we need to have attended a lot more for the rights of gay service men and women. They risk their lives in this ridiculously unnecessary war only to get shit on by our country. That's just more important to me than a piece of paper and a tax break. (And yes, I'm aware there is more to it than that. It just sounded better to make a generalization.)
4. I'm a Virgo who likes wine, candle light and long walks on the beach. Well that probably wasn't necessary, but it does help to lighten the mood.
And that's probably all you need to know about where I'm coming from.
This is why gay marriage pisses me off. A couple of years ago we had one of the biggest ignoramuses in the country in the office of the presidency. He had gotten us into debt, ignored warnings of the terrorist threat that would lead to 9/11, tapped our phones without warrants, pissed off nearly every country outside of the US, and declared war on a people who had nothing to do with anything he accused them of.
Russell Brand pegged George W. Bush better than anyone when he called him a 'retarded cowboy'. So how the hell did he get re-elected given everything he'd screwed up?
Well to me the answer is simple: gay marriage.
There is a small portion of the Republican Party who vote simply to make sure they have better opportunities in life. Namely rich people that don't want to be taxed more. You know, the people who love tea bagging so much. They can't be bothered to protest the killing of innocents in Gaza, but they'll put on their Gucci sunglasses and their LL Bean jackets to make a really lame attempt at getting the President to go back on a decision to tax them more. Poor guys making all that money and being taxed so much. You know, I'm a nice person. I'll offer right here and now to make hundreds of thousands of dollars a year even if I do have to pay more for it. Shmucks.
Anyway, those people are the intelligent Republican voters. They may not be very cool with their Lipton laden message, but they are fairly smart. But there is also another group of conservative voters; these are the ones who vote on three issues: Religion, Abortion, Guns and Gays. Now these people that are 'on the RAGG' do not seem to understand that they are simply being used by rich people at the ballot box. The tea baggers rile up the people on the RAGG about some moronic social issue that's gonna piss off baby Jesus and Hallelujah, we're somehow saved from the wrath of God by putting a retarded cowboy in the office yet again.
People voted George W. Bush back into office because he stood against gay marriage. They liked to say they voted on a candidate for his 'morals', which pretty much reads "I don't like queers."
Every time I heard this horse shit I got more and more angry. Innocent people were dying on all sides in the war Bush started and all we could focus on was gay marriage. Now, believe me, if I were offered the chance to be married I certainly wouldn't say no to it. And I do get pissed off at the fact that this country is still too bigoted to just put it through. But what really cheeses me off is the fact that were it not for simple linguistics, we might have already had the rights of married people.
Why aren't we fighting a battle that is easier to win?
You got me.
Some of my gay friends say that the simple word switch wouldn't make us equal. That even though we'd have all the same rights, we still wouldn't be equal to straight people just because it wouldn’t be called marriage. This is the best argument to me, but I just don’t care that much about language.
Some of them are Christians and they need the title. And that's fine, but they can fight for that later. I just don’t care that much to be a part of an "institution" rooted in a myth that condemns me anyway. The Bible may condone slavery, incest, and mass murder but it’s not down with the gay lovin.
And some of them are so self centered that the only politics they get into are gay politics so they just follow the rainbow flags. I don’t have many of these people in my circle. These are the ones who won’t give a buck to the HRC at Pride festivals, but then bitch about issues involving gay rights.
Though it may be unconstitutional the entire institution of marriage is based in religion and the stipulations are that it is between a man and a woman. It's not unconstitutional that gays can't get married, but that anyone can get married. However this is not something you can simply undo. Marriage has been a part of this country since before it even was its own country.
When you take away the word 'marriage' the enemies of gay unions have less ammunition to fight us with. Why are we arming them?
The California courts did nothing but uphold the will of the people. Last I checked, that was kinda what we wanted for this country. We can't be mad at them in any case because we damn sure would be pissed if things were the other way around and they did decide to overturn the voters.
Does it suck that we don’t have the same rights?
Yes. I don’t care what they end up calling it, we absolutely should be entitled to all of the same rights as straight people whether it be about shacking up with someone for life or not losing your kids because you left your hetero life partner for a homo one. But we need to realize that you will never get the entire country to recognize gay marriage if we have to vote state by state. The south has literally fought to keep black people enslaved, it will damn sure figuratively fight to keep gays from ruining God’s sanctified union.
We need a constitutional amendment and we need to bite the bullet on that god damn ‘M’ word.
But that’s just me.