Hi, E,

Thinking about you and this post. If I may...

I know those anniversaries are hard to ignore - I am so damn good at remembering dates, even the really bad ones, so, I understand how the dates serve as big reminders. But, what about the idea of acknowledging the other dates, too, and just as much? The date you forgave him. The date he shared all of his fears with you and you shared yours. The day you recommitted to each other with full knowledge of what happened. The day you knew you trusted him again.

I can't help but think that you, your husband, and the two of you deserve a real recognition of those dates, too.

xo

Hello E, the hurt does diminish. The trust is so fragile to build again. Don't know if I can say that part is easier. What is easier is the knowledge of my strength in saying, I will not be party to it, I will not lower myself to partake of things that are beneath me to do, I will work on me because that is all I can do. The other party has to come through with the rest. It must be earned. Love to you,