JANUARY 14, 2012 9:56PM

OF TWO MINDS ABOUT TAROT

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Once upon a time there was a psychology prof who handed out astrological 'readings' to his students, ostensibly based on their sun-signs, and asked for comments. OMGDZ, so right on! was the response from everyone, and he would have had a class full of *believers* had he not then got them to compare with each other: Everyone had the same reading. Leo, Pisces, Scorpio, whatever – all of them sensitive souls, often misunderstood, deeply spiritual, blah blah.

How this relates to Tarot (IMO) is that everyone has the same few concerns: Love/relationships, jobs/finance, children, health. Only the details vary. But here's the thing: Most Tarot readings are fairly vague. “Oh-oh, looks like an ending of something and beginning of something new.” Most people looking for a reading are in some kind of WTF space. If everything's going well and you're feeling good, it doesn't occur to you to seek out a reader.

Okay – exception. There are people who go for frequent readings. A reader is 'supposed' to tell these people to cool their jets – Tarot gets annoyed if, in effect, you reject the reading and keep coming back for a new and improved version. What happens (and here I'm slipping over into my other, non-rational/rationalizing mind) is Tarot starts acting like the kinda maliciously mischievous thingie that inhabits ouija boards, and will give messed-up messages or stubbornly produce the same cards over and over.

I also morally disapprove of readers who charge money. Money corrupts – no matter how careful you are. I was disturbed when someone I know mentioned that she had customers who came every week for a reading (not to mention the undeclared income). Money or no money, that's bad news.  But the $ meant the reader wasn't going to discourage her regulars. I had a first-hand view of a 'channeller' this same person took me too – a customer asked the supposedly tranced-out guy whether she should tie up her dog or let it run loose! There are people out there with great dark depths of dependency who should not be enabled. (It gave me an inkling of how stupid gurus manage to collect a following, something that had puzzled me.)

Anyway, so you get your reading about your concerns. Either you 'know' what the reader is referring to and colour inside the lines yourself, or you and the reader get into a little psychic dance. There is something called Cold Reading, whereby the reader picks up clues from your reactions. You may think you're maintaining a poker face, but you ain't. A good body-reader with lots of experience can pin down your concerns pretty quick. And, as above, there aren't that many to choose from!

The most blatant cold reading I ever got was from The Witch of Plum Hollow, who used to read for one of our prime ministers, Mackenzie King (a well-known nut, who also 'read' for himself in the patterns of his shaving cream and other activities it's just as well the voting public didn't know about). My friend and I drove out to her lair in the woods, and I remember "the witch" looking at the cards and asking if I was worried about my health. Well, no, I said. Oh, now she could see – it was my job. I shook my head. Well then, my love life...husband?  Okay, yes.  It was as crude as that (which didn't give me any faith in whatever it was she had to say...which I've now forgotten, it being half a century ago).

Oftentimes cold reading is not deliberate – the reader actually thinks she's divining the details. It's then a mutual illusion.

For a related reason, I don't like reading for people I know well.  A friend of mine talks and talks ('talks out') her concerns whenever she sees me, so already I have TMI, and it's hard not to interpret her cards accordingly.

This relates to why it's hard to read for yourself – (a) you know everything, and (b) you know the outcome you want. Much better to get from a stranger.

So, at least theoretically, I'm saying that any random layout of the cards would probably make for a helpful reading.

Add to this the human tendency (often pointed out by debunkers) to remember the hits, or apparent hits, or seize on possible hit, and discount all the stuff that didn't apply.

And add one more thing: People love to hear about themselves, and a Tarot reading is half an hour or more of someone totally concentrating on you-you-you.

And, of course, the little buzz of getting secret information, or to glimpse behind the scenes – akin to insider trading or something. I discourage this when I do readings. I tell people that the cards are only a mirror, and they reflect the past, present and TENDENCIES leading to possible future outcomes. If you like those tendencies or outcomes, go for it. If you don't like 'em, you can consciously take a different path.

THIS POST HAS COME TO YOU COURTESY OF MY LEFT BRAIN. My right brain has a different take. See follow-up post.

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Excellent points. I am waiting now for your right brain to kick in. I go back and forth too. It is just chilling to see the results work in real life that I can't be a complete skeptic but the points you make here are very valid. It is all about me me me. Where is the truth?
Hah! both right brain and left brain are getting slightly fuzzified by cherry wine. Maybe with left brain slightly sozzled, right brain can run free and express its opinion. Your reading (I've only studied the first one) was very much right on - and from an internet site! that's insane.
I've never paid for a reading, I haven't known too many people that read so I don't get them very often. I am often pretty accurate with them but it took a long time to get a sense of them, or me with them. For the same reason as you I don't read well for myself. I tend to want to hear what I want to hear. I don't read them very often and usually only when I'm in a relaxed mood.

The cards are funny, if I keep asking different ways the same cards will come up in new lay outs so if it's something important there's no escaping them. If I doubt myself I leave the reading out for a day or so and come back later to be sure I heard them right. I like them but I wouldn't live my life by them, like everything else I must make free will choices and learn.

Interestingly I dislike seeing the Tower and if I leave a reading with it out the cat will come and bat the card away from the layout. I think she picks up something from me on the card.
Interestingly enough the only readings I've ever had that I thought were valid were done by my sister. She pulled no punches. At one particularly dreadful time in my life I had virtually all sword cards. Another reading years later was kinder, but no less apt.
I always wondered how someone could charge for telling you something that comes to them from a higher place. Just like reiki, I could never charge anyone for a treatment. To me they are both gifts. If they awaken or heal that should be enough compensation. I have had many readings and I have paid for some of them. I don't know what to think if people do this for a living. Yet, somehow I can't quite get over the feeling that it is a gift.
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Bleue - the tower is one of the triumvirate of scary cards (death & devil being the others). It's all in context - sometimes the shattering of the tower is a good thing.

Emma - sometimes people who know what's going on with you can do the best readings. the trick is not to insert personal opinion ... or maybe not. sometimes a reading is a good way to insert a personal opinion that seems (is?) objective.

Romantic - I'm not entirely sure about that 'higher place'. and some people who are full-time healers of various kinds need to make a living. I'm conflicted I guess in that I disapprove of charging for tarot...
This fall, I made a 'Reader'/pyschic giggle a little! Wifey and I were walking down the streets of Harvest Homecoming and Swami Dave had a booth set up and was standing outside, I gave him a reading, "I see....you....and you're talking to someone......oooooo....and you are saying stuff, like, 'I see you....talking....'"

:D He then asked me if I had any training in the 'World of the Other Side....' I told him only what I've seen on TV!! :D

"Myriad, I see you.....on a journey.....you're walking.....towards.....oooh you just got ran over....by a Greyhound......" :D
"...and oh yes, the spirits say....TIE UP YOUR DOG, I'M TIRED OF PICKING UP....HIS SHIT!!!! OOOOOOO!! " :D
Thanks for this article. It is true that one has to take this with a grain of salt because you never know if someone can really do this properly.
Well what do you think is the best way to learn about yourself and your future then, Myriad? In the past month I've seen dandruff readers, nail clipping readers, stray-feathers-from-my-down-jacket readers and dead gerbil dropping readers to name a few. I can't decide who's for real and who's just taking me for a ride.
Interesting post.

I used to read Tarot cards (at no charge) and those I read for found my readings accurate. They'd ask me how I do it, how I'd "learned" to read Tarot cards. I don't believe that there's much more to it than a bit of eidetic memory, a bit of intuition and being able to interpret symbols to make a coherent story. The Tarot has more to do with Jung's collective unconscious than with Blavatsky's theosophy.

That said, "There are more things in heaven and earth...".

I agree with you that most people asking for a Tarot reading are vulnerable and that it is vital that the reader operates with pure intentions on a spiritual level.

These days if I'm feeling "stuck", I visit an online site and "draw 3" for myself. Then I take a walk or meditate on what the cards mean to me and sometimes it helps. I don't read cards for others anymore, too much responsibility.
It's great to read your thoughts on this. I've never had a reading done, but have run into people who give insight in other ways (reading palms, auras, etc) and I do read my horoscope quite a lot. With the horoscope, I always take it with a grain of salt - I mean, what I'm reading is in the back pages of a celebrity gossip magazine; I doubt they're really attentive about hiring an expert astrologer. But I actually enjoy reading my horoscope at the end of the day/week and finding out if it's right. Sometimes it's vague and sure, I could interpret it as right, but sometimes it's dead-on. Whatever the case, I have fun with it, try to glean wisdom from it when I can, but don't take it too seriously.

I have friends who swear by a psychic they visit. My thought is, this woman might be exploiting them, but maybe in a way it's just like going to see a psychologist. They listen to you, they're a way for you to vent your worries, concerns, and aspirations - and maybe something they say or advise could help or comfort you in some way.
I see I see a Rating for this piece bc it taught me stuff I hadn't known. Thanks, Myriad!
Only ever had one reading which involved tarot cards, but must admit it was pretty accurate until right near the end when one statement had me laughing my head off at the irony and inaccuracy.

I don't think I'd pay for one again but will be interested in what your right brain reports.
This is so interesting, Myriad. I had my first and only Tarot reading last year. I'm still digesting it, doubting it, hoping for most of it to come true... ~r
I like that, "money corrupts, no matter how careful you are." I'm trying to get an I Ching group together--a peer group, no one is the expert, no one charges anybody anything.
I'm a big fan of the present, not too interested in the future. If I'd learned at age twenty that I'd be diagnosed with cancer at age forty, I'd have spent those twenty years as a puddle of fear and anxiety and dread. Better to deal with things when and if they arise. Astrology and tarot might or might not have some credibility, so I just steer clear.
As a young person, my grandmother took me to a few psychics she knew. I'm not sure if she paid them to talk with me, but she gave me salt to put in my pocket before the reading. After the reading I was to take the salt out of my pocket and throw it on the ground in order to teach me to take what the psychic said with the proverbial grain of salt.

I was fortunate to learn at an early age not to give my own power away.

Last week a friend asked me, "What do you know that you pretend not to know?"

Only you yourself can answer that question and it relates to the idiom that "You have all the answers you need already inside of you."

So now I pay myself to do my own psychic readings, but I still keep salt in my pocket and then throw it out after I'm done.

Hmmm, a very self-contained system, isn't it?

Yes, but so is your life!
Interesting post, Myriad. I'm curious to see what you say in the next one.
Myriad, Yes, there are lots of charlatans and amateurs trying to make a buck out out there. From my experience, it depends on the reader. You choose carefully and for me, it's experiential -- it comes down to the experience between the two people at the reading. While it's true someone who goes to a reader is looking for something, that doesn't necessarily mean it's a WTF space. Hey, aren't we're looking for something every time click onto OS or opening a bottle of wine? There have been at least 3 experiences in my life when what I have been told was just about spot on. In fact, I wish it would have taken one piece of info more to heart, it would have made a difference. Looking forward to Part II. :)
Dabbling in the occult and mystical requires an unbiased approach. I've not one doubt there is a silver lining in any reading, but I wouldn't pay for someone to tell me what they thing may or may not happen in the future.

False prophets who charge others money are frauds. Especially those celebrity types like Sylvia and sinistries.
Interesting post, Myriam, and I'm looking forward to your next as well!
The only person I've ever had read my cards is Kate O'Hehir, and as I mentioned on her recent Tarot post, she was often spot on, even without having any information to go by from me.
That said, as much as I enjoyed the readings, I would never try to operate my life by the cards, but simply found them a useful way to prod me to look at connections or actions in my life from a different perspective.
For the excellent reasons you've highlighted, I've never been tempted to pay anyone to read my cards, but would someday like to learn the Tarot myself, for fun.
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ooops, I did mean *Myriad, quite sorry!
Tink - reading for you would be an adventure, I think.

I have another friend, who is a full-time reader (and I find it hard to begrudge him his charging because I don't know what else he could do to make a living - music isn't doing it) who has a sense of humor about it, and often says, in some kind of generic accent, "...as I step into your aura..."

Algis - "properly" is a whole other can o' worms

Margaret - I'd go with the dead gerbil droppings. Are they the kind you can make coffee from afterwards?

V. Corso - I think there are ways (which I might opine upon in another post) on how to use tarot to free up intuition... thing about the cards is one can shrug it off if really off-base ("the cards aren't in the mood today") or humbly take the credit while saying "it's not really me, it's the cards (or *spirit* or whatever)."

Alysa - it's like I said in above comment - there are ways to free intuition, or just ways to stop and think about things for a few minutes, an objective opinion from the outside (even if it's mechanically produced, as with astrology columns, etc.)

Jonathan - ...there are things in heaven and earth...

Linda - left brain still dominating. I think I need to do another post from that hemisphere before I let the right brain run loose...

Joan - report back in due time!

Patrick - I remember the first time I tried the I Ching, and was blown away. Not so much since. Must try again. Do report on your group, if and when...

Green - good attitude, I think. At my age, I can't count on too much future to look into, so must concentrate on the present.

mhold - I like that. (when I was reading for inmates, I used to keep a salt-shaker on the table, just for that reason. also, "You have all the answers you need already inside of you" is good advice (tho keep the salt-shaker handy then too). Often when I do a reading, the person sighs and says, yeah, about what I figured, or words to that effect.


jlsathre - soon, soon. I've got waylaid by the Colbert attack ad against Romney. tonight I'll write more about my views on tarot.
Scarlett - I remember your posting about impressive readings you got. Necessary to exercise some judgment about the reader...eat at a greasy spoon, get indigestion...

Belinda = yeah, a lot of those high-publicity types make the whole thing seem pretty sleazy.

Barb - agree: "different perspective" is valuable, no matter what weird way one goes about getting it. (Not that Kate is weird!)

I got a simple way to learn tarot and might post about it too. I used to do a Tarot in Ten Minutes workshop at Pagan fests, and had a friend stand by with a stop watch to make sure I didn't run over...
Great post. You hit the nail on the head about some of the pitfalls of reading, and people who do this sort of thing for money. I think the cards help you hone your intution about some one...but many types of these tools work the same. Maybe we just know each other better than we consciously understand.
I've never had a reading because I'm scared spitless that I'll hear something I don't want to. The closest I've ever come to a reading was when I went with a group of friends to have our tea leaves read. Of all four ladies in the group, (we were five), guess who was the only one who was not going on a trip to another country in the next year?? Guess who was the only one who DID go??
I find many of us are able to predict or forecast what lies ahead of us premised upon our previous actions. Sometimes we're predictable. Sometimes we're not so predictable. In the latter arena, spontaneity will often result in random unconscious ? reactions to seemingly occur to unsuspecting parties. When the random act becomes noticed, we question their intentions often corroborating with others seeking logic. I've always thought that that which cannot be fully understood is abstract.