- Somewhere in Minnesota, Minnesota, US
- May 27
- Queen of the Blog Goddesses
- Dating Dementia
- Nancy Wurtzel writes Dating Dementia, a personal, slightly-twisted blog about making big changes at midlife. Described as a blog you won't be able to forget -- no matter how hard you try -- Dating Dementia covers issues such as marriage, divorce, parenthood, careers, dating, aging parents, midlife angst and more. Nancy lived in Southern California for 33 years and has recently relocated to rural Minnesota to help car for her Mother.
MY RECENT POSTS
- Caring for My Mom in the Last
Stages of Alzheimer's Disease
November 20, 2013 09:33AM
- God, Please Help My Mother Die
July 31, 2013 03:27PM
- I'm No Longer Defined by My
February 17, 2013 08:08PM
- This is What I Felt Watching
Oprah Interview Lance
January 19, 2013 11:15AM
- Falling Off the Alzheimer's
Cliff: Moving My Mother
January 17, 2013 10:09PM
MY RECENT COMMENTS
- “Thanks everyone. Yeah. I
am pissed and I do worry that
April 05, 2012 06:02PM
- “Thanks for your
comments. Erica, I did the
memory walk two
years ago and
April 05, 2012 12:08PM
- “I agree...I wouldn't
want to live with it either,
but I hope
I would be strong
August 22, 2011 06:14PM
- “Yes, I agree: Sometimes
wine coolers just
August 22, 2011 06:12PM
- “This really resonated
with me, because I've been
lot of my younger
March 25, 2011 11:55PM
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My 92-year-old mother is in the final stages of Alzheimer's disease. Last week, when my sister and I brought Mummy, as we call her, home to live in my house, she was still able to walk with the aid of a walker, say a few words, eat… Read full post »
I am not a religious person. I’m not even sure I believe in a higher power, let alone one true God. Even so, for the past several years I often find myself praying.
When I do pray, it is always about my mother who has Alzheimer’s disease.
My prayers… Read full post »
I’m currently settling into life as a single person with a new home in a new city. I am also looking to make some new friends. Thanks to the internet, it’s now fairly easy to connect with people who have similar interests and also live nearby.
After doing… Read full post »
I felt nothing. That was my reaction to watching the much ballyhooed two-part Oprah Winfrey interview with Lance Armstrong. The big frenzy turned out to be a little fizzle.
Yes, Armstrong admitted to doing wrong, very wrong, and to doing it often.
He told how he systematically, over the c… Read full post »
Deep down, we knew it would happen, but we didn’t really have any other choice. It was just not safe for my mother to continue to live in her senior apartment. She needed more care, more activities, more everything.
My sister and I were exhausted and we’d reached… Read full post »
I’ve always wanted a cool nickname. My parents chose Nancy because it was a fairly popular girls given name in the 1950s. It was a safe choice. However, Nancy wasn’t popular for very long. Today, hardly anyone picks Nancy as the name for their newborn, it’… Read full post »
When I conjure an image of a caregiver, I picture a woman. I know I’m being sexist but I always think female. Why?
First, I don’t personally know many male caregivers. In fact, I can only think of one or two. Also, in my family, the women did all the… Read full post »
As a kid growing up in rural Minnesota, I remember watching Helen Gurley Brown on "The Tonight Show." An insomniac, I'd probably tossed and turned for a long time before finally slipping out of bed and padding down the hall to find my mother sitting in our darkened living room. A… Read full post »
It seems as though I'm always late to the party. In September 2010, I launched Dating Dementia when there were already close to 150 million blogs in existence. Now, just as I begin to hit my stride, I learn blogs have probably had their day… Read full post »
Looks can be deceiving. Mary, a slight, sweet woman, moved into my mother's independent living home about six months ago. Mummy can't remember her name and instead calls her "the little young gal."
Mary's actually 83, so while she is no spring chicken, she might… Read full post »
Divorce brings up all sorts of emotions, and sometimes people find themselves acting a little crazy. Those who have ended marriages have their own personal divorce story — some are sad, some are scary and some are just plain funny.
My somewhat twisted divorce tale starts… Read full post »
I first noticed signs of my mother’s dementia during a trip home to Minnesota. I remember feeling panicked. You see, my dad had Alzheimer’s disease and needed full-time care for more than five years. That long, awful journey took a terrible toll on him… Read full post »
Life in my small Minnesota town is markedly different than living in sprawling Los Angeles. I’ve taken to keeping a journal handy so I can write down some of my experiences that I find amusing, irritating or sometimes just plain startling.
Sadly, I’m probably… Read full post »
Every good dog has his day, and Seamus Romney is finally feeling his alpha male oats. Seamus, the long-deceased Irish Setter who belonged to presidential hopeful Mitt Romney, became famous for one of the Romney family’s annual summer road trips which took place more than 25 years… Read full post »
Last Saturday I had a garage sale in the morning where I sold old clothes, dishes, books, some furniture and just a whole lot of stuff I never should have bought in the first place. In the afternoon, I promptly proceeded to blow some of… Read full post »
This weekend I'm scheduled to attend a blogger event in Orange County -- about 75 miles from where I live. It's taking place on Sunday evening and part of me wants to attend and another part of me wants to stay home, curl up with… Read full post »
My Mom called me this morning. However, this is what we refer to in the Midwest as a mixed blessing. It was encouraging because Mummy has a very difficult time using the phone for outgoing calls and it often takes her several attempts to reach… Read full post »
Now that I officially live in rural Minnesota, I can't help but compare my former life in California with my new reality of small town living in Middle America. For example, when I was shopping at Walmart this afternoon, I noticed that almost all of… Read full post »
I'm leaving on a jet plane. Well, not exactly. I'm actually leaving next week in my white Camry hybrid and heading back to Minnesota, to the little town where I was born and raised.
To give you some perspective, I'm leaving Los Angeles -- a… Read full post »
Hurricane Irene is passing through Boston. Not really not that bad, and hopefully it won't get any worse. It is noon and we are on 24th floor of the Hilton (I'm here getting my daughter settled into her freshman year of college) and the building is creaking, groaning and swaying.… Read full post »
When you think about bad things that could happen in your life, what frightens you most? For me, it is quite a short list 1) My daughter is seriously harmed. 2) I will have a bad accident and not be able to care for myself. 3) I will get dementia.… Read full post »
If you've been reading my blog for awhile, you know that I'm a bit obsessed with dreams. Sure, the experts all say that everyone dreams, but for whatever reason I rarely could tell you about one. I simply don't remember mine.
Which leads me to last week.… Read full post »
I love my new bank. They have a designated guy or gal whose job for the day is simply to greet customers and open the door when someone is arriving or departing.
The young door greeter offers a cold bottled water and a "How can we help… Read full post »
Is it wrong to sneak a wine cooler into the movies? I'm not above bringing a water bottle in my purse or the occasional iced tea, but wine? Actually, it wasn't really even a wine cooler. It was wine with ice cubes -- which were keeping the chardonnay… Read full post »
I’ve long been a Law & Order fan. I got seriously hooked on it two decades ago when gritty cop shows were more of a novelty. The original series with its signature bum bum tones has always been my favorite. Thanks to syndication, I’ve seen every episo… Read full post »