Nancy Wurtzel

Nancy Wurtzel
Minneapolis, Minnesota, US
May 27
Dating Dementia
Nancy Wurtzel writes Dating Dementia, a slightly-twisted blog about making big changes at midlife. Described as a blog you won't be able to forget -- no matter how hard you try -- Dating Dementia covers baby boomer challenges, aging parents, midlife angst, feminism and more. Nancy lived in Southern California for 33 years. In late 2011, she returned to her native Minnesota to help care for her Mother who had Alzheimer's disease.

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About eight years ago my mom began to demonstrate personality changes and memory issues.  Mummy, as we affectionately called her, was repeating herself, having difficulty communicating and had begun hoarding -- plastic bags, Kleenex, pennies and even little pats of butter.

Looking for answer… Read full post »

A new study about death and Alzheimer's disease made headlines yesterday.  It revealed what all of us in the Alzheimer's community already knew: Alzheimer's disease is a "sleeping giant" and it is dramatically under-reported as the cause of death, especially in older Americans.

The study, pu… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 10, 2014 1:13PM

Bloggers, Be Careful When Posting Images

It was last November.  I was writing a post about my mother’s final days on this earth. Mom had battled Alzheimer’s for more than eight years, and her sad, long journey was almost at an end.

The image I chose for my post was a beautiful Tree of LifeRead full post »

When my mom was still alive, my sister and I often visited her in assisted living and later in memory care.  Many times, we would be the only outside visitor.

In fact, there were many residents whose family didn’t visit them.  Sitting hour-after-hour in the lobby, these aging… Read full post »

Post image for Midlife Bloggers Want a Seat at the Table

It is that time of year again.  Almost daily, I receive an invitation or update in my inbox about upcoming blogging conferences.  Since I started blogging three years ago, I’ve attended my share of blog events, from small gatherings with only a handful of attendees to huge conferences… Read full post »

Post image for To Clean or Not to Clean: The Winter Vehicle

Last week, I did something stupid.  I had my car washed.  Less than a day later my white Camry hybrid was completely filthy again.  The outside looked as though it hadn’t been cleaned off in many a year.  Inside, the pricey, molded floor mats were again a melty sea ofRead full post »

Post image for Vocabulario Veirnes Takes a Stand on the Oxford Comma Conundrum

Some grammarians love it, while many others believe it is superfluous, outmoded and should be relegated to the last century.

France, Italy, Russia, Australia and Spain don’t use it.  Neither does Norway.  We are bitterly divided on its use in the United States.

Educators, writers and… Read full post »

My 92-year-old mother is in the final stages of Alzheimer's disease. Last week, when my sister and I brought Mummy, as we call her, home to live in my house, she was still able to walk with the aid of a walker, say a few words, eat… Read full post »

JULY 31, 2013 3:28PM

God, Please Help My Mother Die

I am not a religious person.  I’m not even sure I believe in a higher power, let alone one true God.  Even so, for the past several years I often find myself praying.

When I do pray, it is always about my mother who has Alzheimer’s disease.

My prayers… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 17, 2013 8:09PM

I'm No Longer Defined by My Divorce

I’m currently settling into life as a single person with a new home in a new city.  I am also looking to make some new friends.  Thanks to the internet, it’s now fairly easy to connect with people who have similar interests and also live nearby.

After doing… Read full post »

I felt nothing.  That was my reaction to watching the much ballyhooed two-part Oprah Winfrey interview with Lance Armstrong.  The big frenzy turned out to be a little fizzle.

Yes, Armstrong admitted to doing wrong, very wrong, and to doing it often.

He told how he systematically, over the cRead full post »

Deep down, we knew it would happen, but we didn’t really have any other choice.  It was just not safe for my mother to continue to live in her senior apartment.  She needed more care, more activities, more everything.

My sister and I were exhausted and we’d reached… Read full post »

JANUARY 17, 2013 10:06PM

Have You Ever Wanted a Cool Nickname?

I’ve always wanted a cool nickname.  My parents chose Nancy because it was a fairly popular girls given name in the 1950s.  It was a safe choice.  However, Nancy wasn’t popular for very long.  Today, hardly anyone picks Nancy as the name for their newborn, it’… Read full post »

OCTOBER 16, 2012 1:46PM

Caregiving: Not Just for Women Anymore

When I conjure an image of a caregiver, I picture a woman.  I know I’m being sexist but I always think female.  Why?

First, I don’t personally know many male caregivers.  In fact, I can only think of one or two.  Also, in my family, the women did all the… Read full post »

As a kid growing up in rural Minnesota, I remember watching Helen Gurley Brown on "The Tonight Show."  An insomniac, I'd probably tossed and turned for a long time before finally slipping out of bed and padding down the hall to find my mother sitting in our darkened living room.  ARead full post »

JUNE 27, 2012 9:17PM

Please Tell Me: Is Blogging Dead?

blogging It seems as though I'm always late to the party.  In September 2010, I launched Dating Dementia when there were already close to 150 million blogs in existence.  Now, just as I begin to hit my stride, I learn blogs have probably had their day… Read full post »

memory loss dementia

Looks can be deceiving.  Mary, a slight, sweet woman, moved into my mother's independent living home about six months ago.  Mummy can't remember her name and instead calls her "the little young gal."

Mary's actually 83, so while she is no spring chicken, she might… Read full post »


Divorce brings up all sorts of emotions, and sometimes people find themselves acting  a little crazy.  Those who have ended marriages have their own personal divorce story — some are sad, some are scary and some are just plain funny.

My somewhat twisted divorce tale starts… Read full post »

Alzheimer's and dementia are awful diseases.

I first noticed signs of my mother’s dementia during a trip home to Minnesota.  I remember feeling panicked.  You see, my dad had Alzheimer’s disease and needed full-time care for more than five years.  That long, awful journey took a terrible toll on him… Read full post »

Main Street in Minnesota

Life in my small Minnesota town is markedly different than living in sprawling Los Angeles.  I’ve taken to keeping a journal handy so I can write down some of my experiences that I find amusing, irritating or sometimes just plain startling.

Sadly, I’m probably… Read full post »

Every good dog has his day, and Seamus Romney is finally feeling his alpha male oats.  Seamus, the long-deceased Irish Setter who belonged to presidential hopeful Mitt Romney, became famous for one of the Romney family’s annual summer road trips which took place more than 25 years… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 30, 2011 1:36PM

We're Living in the Nail Polish Economy

the nail polish economy Last Saturday I had a garage sale in the morning where I sold old clothes, dishes, books, some furniture and just a whole lot of stuff I never should have bought in the first place. In the afternoon, I promptly proceeded to blow some of… Read full post »

fear of missing out This weekend I'm scheduled to attend a blogger event in Orange County -- about 75 miles from where I live. It's taking place on Sunday evening and part of me wants to attend and another part of me wants to stay home, curl up with… Read full post »

Clock My Mom called me this morning.  However, this is what we refer to in the Midwest as a mixed blessing.  It was encouraging because Mummy has a very difficult time using the phone for outgoing calls and it often takes her several attempts to reach… Read full post »

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NOVEMBER 30, 2011 12:22PM

Cars Are Not a Status Symbol in My Small Midwestern Town

dirty car in winter Now that I officially live in rural Minnesota, I can't help but compare my former life in California with my new reality of small town living in Middle America.  For example, when I was shopping at Walmart this afternoon, I noticed that almost all of… Read full post »