Let's just start right off with a list!! These prejudices are mine. No one else's. I cannot and will not generalize. Jeez, I'm not all that and a bag of chips. My opinions do not rule the world. That's Cindy Ross, of course. ;)
1. I like people who are smart. Including ME! I am not brilliant, but I'm happy to say I have my moments. I also like people who are not idiots, which is often much different from being smart.
2. I don't like people who find me attractive only if I dress myself up. Heels. Hair. Makeup. Look, I'm tired. I don't give a shit about that stuff. I might do that for fun, but if you don't like me when I'm comfy, what kind of life will we have together, either as friends or otherwise? I'd rather you liked me when I was naked if it's that otherwise business. Who cares what I'm wearing before that? I mean, as long as I bathe, of course.
Well, I guess I do like people who bathe with some regularity. So, there's that.
3. I like people who are kind. Really a lot. I like to be kind myself and often fail miserably. I don't mind being 'shown up.' Really. Be nicer than me. It's not that hard, sadly.
4. I like people who are honest. Or at least try to be honest as much as possible.
5. You must not be racist or dislike people who are gay. Or I will not be able to be your friend. Or anything else.
6. You must be taller than I am or own a ladder because I keep forgetting to buy a ladder and I'm short and someone needs to help me with those damned lightbulbs.
7. You must like my child. This one is easy because she's fabulous.
8. I like confidence, but I utterly despise arrogance. If you are arrogant, I'll make fun of you, and you won't know because you're too arrogant to see it. Then, I'll get bored and go to the bathroom and not come back.
9. I like a sense of humor. A really good one.
10. Must like animals. Including cats.
11. Must be willing to trade off chores like housecleaning and childcare. You must not be one of those assholes with a big mouth who swears he is a feminist, but then participates in all the same old shit as all the rest. Remember that thing about honestly. That should extend to yourself, as much as possible.
12. You must not, under any circumstances, be perfect. I'm not perfect. I couldn't be worthy of you then, and that would be depressing.
13. You must be ruthlessly able to make fun of me when I create a list, rather arrogantly stating my preferences in a mate. Because that's completely silly.
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You've made me think what I want in a mate. I think kind, likes my animals, practical about life, earns a living wage, mentally healthy (although really, if I'm attracted to someone, it's inevitable they are a narcissist, it's my one consistency...ick) would be my top 5. On second though, some people shouldn't date. I'm probably one of them. Good luck in your search Odette, it can't be harder than getting a PhD!!
Seems to me those standards are still pretty good. But, the bathing thing? Yeah, I hope that's in there too.
:::wiggling eyebrows:::
And I'm suspicious of any man who claims to be a feminist. I'm more likely to believe the guy who doesn't actually talk about it. (But then, I also have fantasies about men who unload the dishwasher. . . without having first been asked to do so).
I don't ordinarily whore my own posts in comments, but since it's the same subject and today is the post's one-year anniversary, what the hell: http://open.salon.com/blog/mrs_michaels/2009/04/08/my_needs_are_simple
Cindy Ross!
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fun read Doctor Doctor. I think how you describe yourself is just right.
Everyone, I've been thinking about shortening the list to 1) reasonably clean 2) a ladder. Or maybe just 1) a ladder. hee hee
and I would keep the clean requirement... summer is coming and it gets hot...
As for #6, be careful what you wish for. When my husband built our kitchen cabinets and countertops, he made them three inches too high. And I don't own a pair of three-inch heels. And ladders are easy to trip over. And I'm still mad about it.
::raising hand::
ok, ok. it's just brilliant. and hilarious. and because i'm late to the party, i got to read jeff's comment and your answer. heh heh. perfect.