odetteroulette

odetteroulette
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Currently wishing I didn't have to do any grading. Before that, graduate student and new mom. Now an actual Dr. of Something or Other and the Kid is two and some months. Before that, a Southern girl in the West. Now a Southern girl in the South, dreaming of being in the West. Before that, I can't remember. Still waiting for the flying car.

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APRIL 30, 2010 3:11PM

Waving Goodbye for Now

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After much consideration, I've decided to take my leave for now. I guess that this is, in fact, a flounce. I'm not telling anyone for attention. I'm telling everyone so that you can consider this a Facebook invitation. Come friend me. I'm happy to see you all there. PM me and I will send you the address. 

I'm sorry, but I cannot seem to avoid the arguments. It would be nice if they were all labeled well, so that they could be avoided, but alas, they are not. People here either believe there is some psychic connection to their emails to each other which is broadcast here and so everyone has infinite knowledge or they deliberately do not include the pertinent information of "oh yes. This post is actually a stab at someone else. If you post, you'll get to be included in that argument and it will be assumed you're on my side." I can no longer do it. I do not like feeling like a rube or a patsy, but I do feel like one because I have had this situation happen to me over and over again over the last few months. 

For the record, I have not, nor would I ever, call someone a name that disparaged them. Well, I might call someone an asshole, but that's pretty much the extent of my namecalling extravanganza, and mostly it's in mutual humor. And I'd do it to his or her face. I do not appreciate being roped into having accidentally called anyone a name. This happened on Facebook recently, and I am very very VERY angry about it. Consider yourself de-friended. I mean it. That was very manipulative. I don't like that. Although I don't like it when ANYONE does it. Hello? Not anyone. (For those of you who don't know to what I am referring, if you post here, you are not participating in any way. There are no 'sides.' Only me here.)

If you do friend me on Facebook and pull that crap, you will be de-friended faster than you can say "jack robinson." That wasn't right, and now, because it is clear my innocence in this matter is not really believed, I have to deal with that fact, one which might very well affect my friendships with other people here. It bothers me, and I don't like it. Any of it. 

So, I have to quit for awhile. Maybe I'll come back. If I do, it won't be as an alter. (I DON'T HAVE AN ALTER. WHO THE FUCK HAS TIME FOR THAT?)

I know many of you won't care. I know some of you will feel I'm wanting to be asked to stay. (I'm not.) I just cannot be someone else's cannon fodder for his or her own personal vendettas. I do not need ego-soothing either. My ego is okay, although I feel a little humiliated for not catching on very quickly to some things. I do hate feeling like a stupid idiot even when I am one. Today is my birthday. I'm going to go enjoy it. I'll check comments for a few days and emails for some time after that. If you say something mean, I'll erase it, so you know, even here as I leave, I'm the dictator of my blog. Don't like it. Tough shit. 

For everyone else, I've really enjoyed it here except for this manipulative bullshit. I'm leaving up my old posts. Maybe I'll roll back this way when I'm not so angry or so cynical or so furious. But my reputation, as small and as insignificant as it is, and as anonymous, means something to me. And it's just too much trouble to wade through it all right now. 

 And finally, here is HWIH. He is still not fully well from his cancer experience, but I know jane wanted to see him. So, she gets to do that because she's a good friend.

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His tail is shorter, and he is annoyed with the photography. But He is still handsome.

 

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good luck all! I do mean that.
Happy Birthday! And Bon Voyage...
This happened to me recently, yesterday. A few OS friends asked about my faith and I put a post up. Some guy came on there and beat me half to death, or so he thought, with his condescending, rude-self, went on this huge soap box thing, to which he had every right...ON HIS SITE! I was flabergasted to say the least. I wanted to go on his site and raise hell..y'know something that would really get him like the words to the hymn "The Old Rugged Cross" or something. But, instead I deleted his sorry self and emptied my mind of him. (Incidentally, my write was not to preach, it was just telling how I believe, I wasn't trying to convince or persuade.) Idiots are around, we just have to delete, delete, delete. Hope to see you again. (I am kinda new, but already see the issues Os causes themselves). Good luck!
:) Cindy, if you get on Facebook and feel comfortable about it, let me know and I will friend away.
Odette, let me say here and now that I have been told that later on you made it obvious in the comment that was made in Facebook that you did not know it was about me. I publically apologize for assuming that you participated. I am certain that you understand how the context could be misunderstood if one only sees the first comments.

Even if you had said it, it's not my right to police your Facebook usage. I own up to my mistakes and I am honest. Neither of us had much responsibility for what happened there and I'd like your name cleared.

This will be repeated on my blog.

You have a happy birthday.
I missed this as I have not had the energy to deal with all the crap still happening around here. I will miss you and hope to see you back soon. I will be Pming my facebook thingy so watch for me!
I have no idea what this is about, but very sorry you're leaving.
Jodi, thank you for that. :) I appreciate it. I will say I do not think that it is acceptable for me to insult anyone on my Facebook page. Unless it is Dick Cheney. That is a rule. You may hold me to it.

Lunchlady--yay! You are one of my favorites!
The cat is the reason, of course. He wants you to spend your time serving him instead of being here, which is why he used his kitty powers to make you even more annoyed with this place than you would have been.

I've seen it before. Anyhoo, good luck and catspeed!
we have a long friendship here Odette, and your leaving saddens me. I hope that things will be different at some point, that you can return, but OS is being whittled away. My best to HWIH and the Beautiful Child, and, of course, to you.
Sorry to see you leave. God bless and God speed.
Rated.
Sorry, I have no cue what happened. I am puzzled why so many think Facebook is so great as I don't get it or like it. A whole bunch of ass over there. Good luck and Peace to you.
he still is a very handsome boy
& your words and perspective will be sorely missed :(
There's been a rash of this lately. Sad to see you take a temporary leave, or whatever. Good luck down the road.
I'll miss you, but dude . . . real life and real sanity ALWAYS come first. So be good to yourself, k? Also, HWIH has clearly not lost a step when it comes to pure handsomeness . . . if anything, he's even more distinguished, and you can tell him I said so (but tell him not to tell my cats, because they get a little jealous).
Thanks again, guys. :) You are so kind. And please, send me emails etc. anyway. I'll check in for that some and I will be on Facebook as well.
Yea!! I already have you on FB!!!

And HWIH, I LOVE YOU!!! Your facial expression makes odette's FB status that much more 'giggle' worthy!! Thank YOU!!!

:)
Happy birthday, Odette. Your puss is handsome indeed and I hope he recovers quickly.

I have always respected your integrity and resolve, and do even more so today. It isn't easy to lead with your integrity and principles, but it's worth it.
there was a hilarious segment in South Park on this. friends and enemies on the net.com. I frankly don't give a shit what people think about me, actually, but I do appreciate having my writing taking seriously, rather than dismissed, or over looked.

I like to write. That's why I'm here.

I like how you write odelleroulette. I find it very honest, and not pretentous. I hope you have fun wherever you go, because that's what you provide.

Gee, will I still be your friend?
Happy Birthday Odette! I'll miss your fun and pithy posts and hope that you return soon to give me some good things to read. It's getting harder and harder to find good posts.
I don't know what happened, but I get the general idea. Have a great birthday, and I'll see you on the other side!
I have always liked you and will miss you. I have a page on facebook but almost never use it, except to read an article and post it to my facebook and then no one reads it and I'm beginning to think all this digital crap is a waste of time and am going back to snail-mailing people I actually know in real life. Your cat looks great, BTW.

About your last dustup, I have an idea what happened, so it's not true what you say about if you don't know you're not participating in ANY way. I am participating Lite. I like to post, I like to read, but no--getting caught up in the silliness you write about does happen and is frustrating. it's kind of like walking in on a big argument, best to just duck out unnoticed if possible and stay out of that house/room in future. Do you really have to leave the whole neighborhood? I like you and will miss you. I guess I will friend you on facebook, but rest assured I am too lazy to pull any shit.
It's really sad.. another long time member of OS leaving because of some BS. I am getting more than a little tired of it. Look me up on FB, (if you haven't already) and I hope that one of these days you will find your way back here to us.

Happy birthday, my friend.
You are all wonderful. :) Of course. Now find me on Facebook. I'm odetteroulette there, too. So, it's easy peasy. Ric, I will absolutely look you up. Ben Sen, keep sending emails. I'll check and read occasionally because I hate to stop reading my friends. I just can't deal with the foolishness right now. I think it's me as much as anything.

janie, I cannot believe you took an ativan and didn't pass me one! ;)

Everyone, thank you. Really. You are very kind.
Happy Birthday! Very sad to see you go.

I wish you all the best.
I'm sad about your leaving, too, Odette. But I do understand. I hope you find peace elsewhere, with HWIH and HWIS and The Beautiful Child. Oh--and give HWIH a delicate little hug for me. We wouldn't want to hurt him in any way. And oh, dear me, he IS handsome! Happy Birthday! D
Repeat the mantra: I will not leave....I offer much...I am loved...
Some time off won't hurt you none. This place reminds me of Congress sometimes with all the bickering and seeing who can pee the farthest, too. Still I love this place and will likely always come back for more. I just don't play in the same litter box where people are crapping.
you will be missed.
Dang! I will see you at facebook. I check in there with one other former OS buddy and you'll be my second.
Time off can be good. Take it. Enjoy your life, your birthday, everyone in your life that you love, furry or otherwise. Then please come back and grace us with your presence again.
I hope you come back...the nice thing about os is that it's not a (conceivably) exclusive club like facebook...yes there can be dustups but your writing gets to be democratically distributed...

and because I like your writing, I prefer this more generous (and random) dispersal.....

I like autumn leaves too.

hope you come back soon.