Oryoki's House

Where's the Mojitos? I have the guac!

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Oryoki Bowl
February 03
Quaker buddhist, kinda quirky, loves cooking and knitting and movies. Dr Who fan, Scandinavian-aquarian and cat lover. Would love to be paid to travel around the world and write about local healing cultures. While eating and drinking and dancing. One day I will have a health cruise in the fjords.


OCTOBER 1, 2014 12:53PM

Bierotosphere: A desert oasis, part one

"Women may be from Venus, but I'd rather see Uranus," Richard announced to the team.  His punchline was delivered in the same manner as many of his other jokes, as a form of aggression.  A few snorts and guffaws made it up from the downturned heads of the males of the… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 25, 2014 7:43PM

Please, don't ask (bad poetry)

You cannot offer another what you cannot give yourself;
You should not ask from another what you will not ask from yourself.


Always the yearning to be understood. This intimate connection across space and time, perhaps transcendent, or just luminous in its exuberance.  Eac… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 22, 2014 9:19PM

The MOO Club

I spent Sunday in the company of long married people.  It was the occasion of the 50th Wedding Anniversary of some family friends.  I am close friends with their daughter and son, and they are close friends of my aunt and uncle.  The wife and her sister went to grade school… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 4, 2014 5:07PM

Action, Reaction, Attraction

These are either really interesting times, or they are so boring, there is a black hole where your attention would be.  Which, if you have been reading any of what I've been reading lately, is the gateway to the universal consciousness.  Win for me, eyeroll for you.  

This summer has… Read full post »

JULY 26, 2014 1:47PM

The Feminine Feminist

This year I embarked on a journey of becoming a meditation instructor.  Aside from learning about what it is, and what it isn't, I have learned much about the different styles of meditation and what they are focused on.  There is so much overlap, and yet those subtle differences may be… Read full post »

10.  I did everything you suggested, and it all worked out perfectly.  I would love to pay you more money than you asked for your good advice.  

9.   My ex was also an underwear model, but your mind is so much sexier than hers/his.  (Could be on the giving… Read full post »

In my work, I often find myself in the position of cheerleader.  I listen to the issues that my patients (usually women) bring in, and help them sort them out in a way that is useful.  Usually this means looking at them from another point of view, which means reframing them… Read full post »

MAY 5, 2014 4:43PM

A Girl and Her Cat

I am a cat lady.  Not yet old or crazy, I am on a life path that will include feline companionship more often than human.  For some, a relationship must have certain elements, and for me, one of those elements is "Must love cats".  

I have had lots of kittens… Read full post »

APRIL 23, 2014 4:17PM

Whose mass delusion is this, anyway?

I usually make my commutes in silence, a time where I have no persons or animals to tend to, no chores to be done, no "thing" to accomplish- other than get my body from home to work, in a timely fashion.  I used to use this time for phone calls with… Read full post »

APRIL 22, 2014 3:15PM

Wellness Burnout

The healing arts cannot be driven on science alone.  Bedside manner is only one way in which delivering health care is dependent not just on the information given, but the way it which it is given.  Understanding the complexities of the individual patient in front of you is key to making… Read full post »

Many of you may know that I am generally a pro-peace, choose non-violence kind of person.  I have had a long friendship with Quaker community, and am now actively a Buddhist practitioner.  I grew up with a fair amount of verbal and physical violence in my home, directed at me, at… Read full post »

I had a notion to write a blog today with this title, and as I sat down to formulate what thoughts and ideas I would put into it, I saw that Phyllis had managed to be similarly inspired today.  Live the Life You Want to Live

Personally, I have had a… Read full post »

APRIL 3, 2014 2:47PM


These days, the word narcissist is thrown around like a dollar store diagnosis.  Narcissism, historically, has been considered a male disorder.  The female companion diagnosis, is Borderline Personality Disorder.  Narcissism evokes the Greek Mythology from which it derives its name. &n… Read full post »

MARCH 30, 2014 6:08PM

Please, stop stepping on my spinach!

(This is not about leafy green vegetables) 


There is a wonderful danish expression "at traede i spinaten" which roughly translates to "to step on the spinach".  The meaning would compare how when one is out viewing the garden of friend, we have crushed the spinach patch with our big… Read full post »

As a recent returnee to the single life , I have naturally met with all sorts of advice and insight from well meaning folks.  "Learn to be on your own"  "Learn what you want to do" "Focus on yourself" "Learn to love yourself"  Etc.  While I understand why these things are… Read full post »

MARCH 16, 2014 7:59PM

Dating is for Suckers

I have learned a lot these past few years, and a lot of what I have learned is how awful dating is.  It was pretty bad back when I was trying to do it, and I hear no good things about it now.  I am a woman of a certain age,… Read full post »

MARCH 13, 2014 4:14PM


If you don't change when you are in a relationship, you really aren't in a relationship.  You just know somebody, probably killing time, waiting for something else to come along.  Some of us are so into protecting who we think we are, we refuse relationships.  Fear of intimacy is about… Read full post »

Online Free Community College, Open Salon, is revving up to graduate its final class of bloggers, journalists, novelists, poets, memoirists, diarists, artists, commenters and trolls.  With the first week of May in just under two months, getting the graduates sorted and situated with their post S… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 25, 2014 12:28AM

I am done with you, kale, done

Let me be the first to admit I am totally sick of kale.  I say this as I eat my last kale salad, at my desk, wishing I had just gone for the romaine or mixed greens.  

I eat healthy, and I love my vegetables.  Every week I am at… Read full post »

Today marked a first for me.  I was asked to convene the Vipassana group I sit with on Sundays.  Our "leader", who founded the group many years ago, and who has dedicated hours of her time each Sunday to overseeing the care of 1 to 2 sits, has asked others to… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 17, 2014 12:26AM

Latenight Valentine Fauxrotica: Vincent

"Today's the day!" Eliza exclaimed, turning over the just delivered envelope in her hands.  Thick padding, silver paper, sealed and embossed.  Emotrix Industries.  "Today's the day, Vincent," she called again, turning her head back over her shoulder to catch his attention.  He was… Read full post »

What makes you click?  

This is the question I am asking you, personally, to take the time to answer in the comments section.  

What makes you, demographic information here, personalization there, decide to click on an ad, follow a lead, print out a coupon, show up to an appointment,… Read full post »

JANUARY 30, 2014 2:25PM

A Rose By Any Other Name...

I have a friend who changed her name a few years ago.   Twice.  First, she went to change her name, after her divorce.  In filing the paperwork, it turned out that she had never legally changed her name after the marriage.  Despite living as Mrs... all these years, with all… Read full post »

This question popped into my head the other day, as I was ruminating over a series of recent incidents in my life.  

When is it the best choice to just shut up and let things go without making a comment or forcing a conversation?

I hear people say that… Read full post »

My sister called, a little disturbed.  She had been on a date recently (good) that went well (great) with a guy she met on a new dating app for her phone.  She hadn't looked into it, but a friend insisted she try it.  After a second, good date and phone chat,… Read full post »