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February 03
Quaker buddhist, kinda quirky, loves cooking and knitting and movies. Dr Who fan, Scandinavian-aquarian and cat lover. Would love to be paid to travel around the world and write about local healing cultures. While eating and drinking and dancing. One day I will have a health cruise in the fjords.


Part of Insight Meditation, or Vipassana, is being aware in the present moment without thinking or judging.  Our naturally busy mind is always quick to think think think, plan plan plan, judge judge judge.  Some folks get stuck in worry worry worry, others in sorrow sorrow sorrow.  I t… Read full post »

OCTOBER 23, 2013 1:11PM

Opening up and closing down

The fall change has brought in a new whiff of self awareness.   I am always a little more introspective in the fall, a little more prone to melancholy and seclusion.  This year, different in how it shows itself.  Always, it comes these first few weeks of October.  Always, the ligh… Read full post »

OCTOBER 21, 2013 1:50AM

Disposable People

I spent most of my weekend at a buddhist retreat, Vipassana, in silence with a large group of "strangers".  I have sat with many of these strangers before, at different sits, another retreat, another gathering.  I liked that I knew the faces of more than half the people there, and that… Read full post »

OCTOBER 12, 2013 5:23PM

But I Vaaaaaant to be Alone

I feel like I have been surrounded by a lot of angry women lately.  Some of this is the nature of my work, which is primarily weight loss and hormone balancing or replacement.  Most of my patients are women, and lots of these women are angry, fat, hot, tired and mostly… Read full post »

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. 

- Benjamin Franklin 

I am for universal, socialized medicine.  I have seen the difference living in two continents on the impact it makes on the quality of life for any person.  I have… Read full post »

If you can't stand the heat, stay out of Phoenix.  Or the kitchen.  

During a little roustabout chat, Another Steve S  made a sly reference that I was not familiar with.  He referred to another member of the chat as a "prairie muffin" and this led to my unfortunate use o… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 25, 2013 11:47PM

Child of Two Alcoholics, Daughter of PTSD

When I was 12, my mother entered rehab for the first time.  Among the dozens of other adjustments, including having just moved into a new community, I faced the beginning of my adolescent years without a mother.  Eventually, she returned, but it was years before we lived together again. &nb… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 22, 2013 1:43PM

How we are, and how we want to be

"How  much exercise do you do?"

  • I used to exercise a lot.  
  • Not much lately.
  • Not as much as I should.
  • None, that is why I am here
"How much water do you drink? This is 16oz or about 1/2 liter, how many of these.  Of just water."… Read full post »
SEPTEMBER 16, 2013 1:53PM

The Perfection Delusion

There is no perfect way.  

We plan and scheme, we imagine, it always begins with "If only...."

If only I was a better than I am now, life would be perfect.  If only you were a better person, we wouldn't have these problems.  If only they would do something about… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 10, 2013 3:35PM

How could it be any other way?

I have started an 8 week course in "Mindful Living".  The course is to help people who suffer from chronic anxiety and depression learn better tools for managing their moods and stressors.  The negative voice, the inner critic, the "loop" of self destructive thoughts are lessened as we lear… Read full post »

While the murder of over a million Syrians in an extended internal civil war has gone by noted but unmoving to most of Americans, the recent attack with nerve agent sarin has suddenly been the key to bring us to "The Red Line".  It has become the talking point, with two… Read full post »

It's your life. And it's your money.  People are worried about what will happen if/when Obamacare kicks in.  There are lots of other changes afoot in the medical world- required EMR (electronic medical records) for offices of a certain size or anyone taking Medicare/Medicaid, and similar; I… Read full post »

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AUGUST 26, 2013 10:02PM

Sluts are empowered women, go Miley!

It turns out that the most important thing that happened this weekend was not that 1000s of Syrians have been poisoned with chemical weapons.  It was Miley Cyrus dance performance at the VMAs.  

Seriously, we're reporting on that?  Wow.  

I grew up with the idea that feminism mean… Read full post »

AUGUST 20, 2013 10:14PM

No more third wheel

I am one of those women who maintains her friendships even when totally into a relationship.  It may be a good quality, as most of my friendships have lasted longer than my relationships.  There have been ups, downs, trying times along the way.  Not all men are equally good at having… Read full post »

I have lived in Arizona for just over 13 years now, having moved here from Copenhagen, Denmark.  The two places couldn't be much more diametrically opposed- with a strange exception.  In both places, there is a strong emphasis on personal freedom.  However, their expression can come at… Read full post »

I have signed up for an 8 week class in mindful living.  You'd think, from what I write here, I think I know all about that.  However, there is a whole level of training in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, where if you are a professional you can go get training.  I… Read full post »

AUGUST 13, 2013 12:20PM


Naturally, now that you are here, you are wondering, what is Oryoki talking about?  Has the country been taken over by swirling legs and implants, and a lot of overlong hair extensions?

I was thinking today about how we have come to that special place in the public lexicon where we… Read full post »

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AUGUST 5, 2013 3:44PM

Leaning In, Opting Out, Staying the Course, Moving On

Women's advocacy has to do with a sense of personal agency and empowerment.   The Right to Choose is not only about abortion, or even about birth control.  It is about the Right to Choose one's individual destiny, to make the daily decisions over the body and path we alone must… Read full post »

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AUGUST 1, 2013 1:58PM

Power, freedom, and being who you are

I reflect on my life of being a feminist, and wonder what it all means.  There are those who tell me what it should mean, what I should want for myself, for others, where it must go.  I reflect on my life of choosing Quakerism, and later Buddhism as my central… Read full post »

Last night, I was at one of my meditation groups.  It is a small book club, focused on reading books about meditation and mindfulness, with sitting and then talking about our response to the chapters.  The chapter was relationships, from the book Going to Pieces without Falling Apart&n… Read full post »

JULY 21, 2013 4:56PM

Don't go changing.... me

There seems to be this constant demand for our attention, and it's beating to two different drums- love and accept yourself for who you are, and, make yourself a better person so other people will like you. 

For the most part, people seem to want to be happy, or be happier… Read full post »

I had thought to compose a list of "The One Habit of People who are totally Better than you", but I think Huffpo beat me to it.  Go Oprah!  She always wins.  

But is Oprah happier than me?  I don't know.  Am I happier than others?  Perhaps.  Am I better… Read full post »

Has veganism become an acceptable form of judgmentalism?  

I have been observing for some time the rise of veganism as a new type of holier than though, far beyond just a preference for eating.  For myself, my first attempt at veganism was living in Denmark in the late 90s.  I… Read full post »

JUNE 27, 2013 12:39PM

Non-violence begins at home

It started with The Accused, with Jody Foster and Kelly McGillis.  I can't remember the where and when of first seeing it, only that when I saw it, I felt violated.  The rape scene was terrifying, mostly because it looked like it could happen so quickly, so easily, to any woman,… Read full post »

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JUNE 24, 2013 3:29PM

I Forgive You, Now Let Me Be

Who am I to forgive someone?

I have a catalog of hurts and rages, slights and injuries.  It would probably help if I wrote them down, starting from my earliest years.  Nanny hit my head on faucet while bathing me, brother slammed my fingers in the door while I was chasing… Read full post »