Outside Myself

I sing the words...the notes are just along for the ride...

Outside Myself

Outside Myself
Location
West Coast Body, East Coast Heart, California,
Birthday
January 19
Title
Mom
Company
Don't even have to knock...come on in.
Bio
I'm proud to be 42 years old (but I still love it when my friends say I look like I'm 35!). I've been a mom for over nine years now. I live a rather simple yet difficult life of trying to make sure my daughters are polite, well-educated and know they are loved beyond question. I do my best to give my family whatever they need. And I'm trying to take care of myself. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx I am infinitely trying to make people happy, make people laugh, make people feel good about themselves. I compliment often, but only with sincerity. I spend way too much time thinking about what might be the "right" thing to do in any given situation. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx This is a personal journey for me. I have grown in ways I didn't know were possible. AND AN UPDATE: Don't forget your worth. This speaks to everyone, not just me. xoxoxo ~~~~ And thx, B. My heart was beginning to thaw but your beautiful friendship has melted it. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx FURTHER UPDATE: - B, darling, you have brought me love and peace. You sent the words, "Be gentle with yourself." I am able to do so only because you have been gentle with my heart. I love you, soul mate.

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Because understanding what love is changes things. The past earned its place there.
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I wasn't planning to post tonight, but my daughter Faith, who just turned 8 last month, said something tonight that for some reason, I can't shake.

She has a friend in school - her "best friend" (I try to encourage my girls not to use that phrase, but I let itRead full post »

"I have a surprise for you," he whispered.

I, loving surprises more than almost anything on the planet - yes, even more than Doritos or the Food Network - was completely enthralled! 

 "A surprise?!"

"Yes," he said, "on Monday, after our second night in Philadelphia."

"OK, don't tell me, but… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 11, 2009 2:14PM

A Restaurant ~ A Gentleman ~ A Moment

Annapolis 

As we walked, you held my hand.

Or did I hold yours?

Neither.

One.

We wandered aimlessly.

Holding hands.

Holding hearts.

Safe.

I always felt safe.

Wandered into that dark wood restaurant for lunch.

I began to sit...

"Here. Sit here."

I knew.

Immediately.

The gentleman assures that the l… Read full post »

JustTheBrother has a wonderful post about helping out a classmate who was picked on, and the lasting effects of that day. It is a beautiful post and if you don't know this writer, please check him out - he is a genuinely kind person.

I'm a firm believer that you just never know how… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 5, 2009 8:33AM

STRONG ARMS ~ A Thursday Haiku

Our first full day in Philly

 

You had no knowledge

of the effect your strong arms

would have on my heart.

 

I have never met

a man who made me so weak

with just his embrace.

 

 I would say in jest,

"You'd better have some strong arms

to hold me up, love."

 … Read full post »

NOVEMBER 4, 2009 9:07AM

I Hate My Coffee!!!

coffee

I'm sitting here, drinking my cup o' Joe (hi, Dad!  That's my dad's name :), and it dawns on me how much I hate it. 

Now, "hate" is a strong word and one I do not permit my daughters to use. 

But I HATE my coffee!!  Flippin' Folgers Classic Blend/… Read full post »

UNBREAKABLE posted an Open Call, saying she wants a man.  Great post. You should read it and all of the marvelous comments.  My own came straight from my heart and I felt the need to share it:

"I had to go back and read my email to him. Two days ago, IRead full post »

NOVEMBER 1, 2009 2:22PM

Oh How I Hate to See October Go...

When October Goes

And when October goes 
The same old dream appears 
And you are in my arms 
To share the happy years 

I turn my head away 
To hide the helpless tears 
Oh how I hate to see October go

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This is all I can muster right now...some words to the song that madeRead full post »

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And it's going to get worse before it gets better. 

I know you know this, but I've been spending the past several months falling in love.

I could be more flowery about that description, but its weight is too important and stands on its own.

I've been falling in love.… Read full post »

OCTOBER 20, 2009 2:44PM

And here...

And here...

...is the moment we embrace

...is the moment you hold my hand

...is the moment you taste my lips

 

...is my heart Read full post »

 Coffee mug

You like to watch, you say?  Hey, I'm not that kind of girl!

But you can STILL be a part of the Love Story!

You all have, in big and small ways, contributed to this beautiful Love Story that has played out on the screens of my OS page.… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 20, 2009 5:08PM

If Misery Loves Company...

...you might want to stop reading right here.

I am SO not miserable.  I'm not even sure what exactly I should write; what's appropriate to write.  I know folks here say they don't judge yet I'm frankly not worried about being judged.

I'm in that "Shout it From the Rooftops" place.Read full post »

I love to sing; it transforms moments into something with wings.  Some days, I sing better than others.  My perfectionism tells me some days, "I can't believe people used to listen to you sing," and then there are days where something clicks ("In the zone" as we called it when I… Read full post »

Kind of Blue has a great post about chivalry that got me thinking... 

I take this very seriously!!

His post was about being a gentleman and I am sad to hear that he was trying to be one and was treated poorly.  That frustrates me TO PIECES!

 

For sixRead full post »

AUGUST 20, 2009 2:37PM

I Have No Words ~ ~ ~

(I'm sorry for the choppy ending ~ my editing skills are rusty. I also don't know why the video says it's 2:42...it's only a short 1:42. The rest is just black for some reason.  Time to reflect, I suppose.  Cosmic intervention.) 

 

 

 

 

I set out on aRead full post »

 

I waited.  I hoped.

I begged in agony in the poorest echoes of my being.

I wanted. I cried.

With no tears to slip down my cheeks.

 

And then a flower lifted her torn petals to find your warmth.

 

There must be a balance.  The gracious friendship… Read full post »

1. Who was your FIRST prom date?

          - Bobby.  And he was my best friend until I got married.

2. Who was your FIRST love and do you still talk with him/her? 

          - Jim.  No, sadly, I don't know where… Read full post »
JULY 31, 2009 6:43PM

"Mommy, Why Are You Crying?!"

My daughters saw me cry about four years ago.

Once.  Briefly.

Never before. Never since.

 

Today, they've seen me cry twice.

Hard.

 

Once for beauty.

Once for pain.

 

They are so confused.  Read full post »

Monarch Butterflies

Monarch Butterflies 

I have over 300 cookbooks.  Don't adjust your screen or your bifocals (but feel free to grab another beer if you think that will help), you read that right.  I've never been a "clothes horse" or a "shoe person" but I have a bit of an obsession with… Read full post »

OM 

Wow.  A really strange thing happened this morning.

Some of you know that I have been working through lots of transformations in my life lately.  (I'm sorry I removed some posts that are relevant to this, but it was time to do so.)

I have been working toward thawing my… Read full post »

JULY 23, 2009 12:28PM

Holy Spit !!

I posted this when I first joined OS and I thank the one person who commented on it (I still love you, Angus).  I thought it would be OK to post again, as I'm seeing lots of "summer re-runs."
 
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I go… Read full post »

I was so flustered by Hells Bells' Open Call that my brain checked out. It refused to choose something.  I felt like I would be betraying all of the other "Happiest Days."

But I couldn't shake the feeling that I wanted to at least try.

I could choose my daughters' birth days… Read full post »

JULY 17, 2009 2:27PM

My Fortune Cookie is Broken

A young girl

The ever-magical fortune cookie

Share wisdom not gifted from the dust

A lesson woven through the heart...

"To be loved, love and be lovable."

 

Painful.

When the magical fortune cookie lies.

 

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Well, no one said I was a poet.  I… Read full post »

Strong words, if you know me.  Sorry about that.

I know it may seem I should have been far more concerned about my dad's angiogram yesterday, and I sincerely was, but there was something that I was growing more and more pissed off about as the hours leading to the hospital… Read full post »

JULY 11, 2009 11:59PM

My Elbows Hurt!

Believe me, I get to the point, eventually... 

I haven't been in the professional working world since I became a stay-at-home mom nine years ago.  When I was adding to the collective bank account, I was an executive assistant.  I worked for CEOs of small (3-person biotech start-up) up… Read full post »