When you find yourself completely alone,

then what happens to your mind and heart and soul? It depends a lot upon your belief in the possibility of life-change. Do I believe that people can change at a deeper level? Do I believe that life is a mystery, and that miracles can and do happen? Do I have the courage to reach out to another human being, and share deeply, speaking the radical truth, and abandoning superficiality?

Do I see the value of solitary reflection? Or do I associate aloneness with death of the soul? Do I recognize that I am a person of value, regardless of what others may think? Do I buy into the victim role, or see myself as a puppet in a string?

Do I see myself as weak, or a person of strength.

Solitude can be perceived as a nightmare or gift. A long time ago I read a book by Clark Moustakas entitled Loneliness. It helped me to realize that solitude, when accepted, can lead to fundamental change of the personality, in a positive direction.

Either you believe that people are capable of change, or you believe the opposite. If you see people as fixed and rigid entities, then when you find yourself in a place of solitude, you may give up on life itself.

That would be a tragedy.