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Blogging with PTSD --------------- "Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." - Leo Buscaglia _____________________________________ All works ©Phyllis45, the author of this blog. _____________________________________ Also posting at Our Salon http://oursalon.ning.com/ http://oursalon.ning.com/profile/Phyllis

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NOVEMBER 10, 2012 5:54AM

Winding Up, Not Winding Down

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Winding Up 50 Years of Life

As of 11:30 p.m. this coming Tuesday, not factoring in whether or not Daylight Savings Time existed in 1962 and whether or not I am actually at the same time as we were then even though I’m in the same time zone now, I will have completed 50 years of life. It will, in fact, be a complete circle as my birthday and my birth day will be on the same day of the week. I am a Tuesday’s Child.

Tuesday’s child is full of grace.

I used to think that meant graceful, and graceful meant being able to walk across a flat surface without falling, so I wasn’t full of grace. Looking back, though, I see that I was, in fact, very graceful. Just not at walking.

If you Google Tuesday’s Child, you will find a few charities and a couple of books. Both of the books are thrillers, which I like. I wonder why Tuesday’s Child didn’t garner a song. So I added the word “lyrics” to the search and found several songs, all bad. Meh.

Tuesday’s Child

Tuesday’s Child

Where, oh where, did you go

Grace is an interesting word. Yourdictionary.com has a lengthy definition.

noun

  1. beauty or charm of form, composition, movement, or expression
  2. an attractive quality, feature, manner, etc.
  3. any of the Graces
  4.  
    1. a sense of what is right and proper; decency
    2. thoughtfulness toward others
  5. goodwill; favor
  6. Archaic mercy; clemency
  7.  
    1. a period of time granted beyond the date set for the performance of an act or the payment of an obligation; temporary exemption
    2. favor shown by granting such a delay
  8. a short prayer in which blessing is asked, or thanks are given, for a meal
  9. a title of respect or reverence used in speaking to or of an archbishop, duke, or duchess: preceded by Your or by His or Her
  10. Music ornamental notes or effects collectively, as appoggiaturas, slides, trills, etc.
  11. Theol.
    1. the unmerited love and favor of God toward mankind
    2. divine influence acting in a person to make the person pure, morally strong, etc.
    3. the condition of a person brought to God's favor through this influence
    4. a special virtue, gift, or help given to a person by God

Origin: ME < OFr < L gratia, pleasing quality, favor, thanks < gratus, pleasing < IE base *gwer-, to lift up the voice, praise > Sans gṙṅāti, (he) sings, praises & OIr bard, bard

transitive verb graced, gracing

  1. to give or add grace or graces to; decorate; adorn
  2. to bring honor to; dignify
  3. Music to add a grace note or notes to

I can see where a person could be full of grace, here, and I like this definition. “A sense of what is right and proper.” “Thoughtfulness towards others.” “To bring honor to.” Those are more important, to me, than “beauty or charm of form, composition, movement, or expression,” unless expression is in regards to communicating.

Another troll has come forward accusing me of whining and hating men.

I am making progress in getting my house straightened up, in the physical sense. I need to accomplish this vital step before I invite anyone into my life. At this moment in time, there is one place to sit in my living room, and it is where I sit on the sofa. We won’t even discuss the kitchen table. I have taken Monday and Tuesday off from work and so will be spending most of this weekend sorting stuff out. I will also be spending time with my family today, getting a haircut, renewing my driver’s license, having the three pine trees cut down, and getting my teeth cleaned. I could probably use a hand, if anyone’s interested.

I’m going to sign off now and get up, at 5:30 a.m. on a Saturday (closer to 6:00 now), and get busy. I need to put the bow on the first 50 so I can get on with the next half century.

 

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Indiana has great sunsets.

 

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As a guy who loves to stick his head in dictionaries for fun, rather than, say, help friends with yard projects (sorry), I adore this piece. This word ‘grace’ has always fascinated me. I shall leave the question of Supernatural Grace to the theologians. I got some ideas on it. Has something to do with Karma, etc.

But there is Human Grace, too…it comes from people, or social groups, or our own hopes, wishes,and imaginings projected outside ourselves and somehow persisting in the psychic medium, …some quality we can “put out there”, that we can COMMUNICATE. Something that is created by repeated acts. MOVEMENTS, in other words…

Nobody graces the world more than our Phyllis. Brings beauty of thought and feeling. Makes painful things better and ordinary things lovely by communicating them & creating that, uh, abovementioned Vortex of grace.
James, you are very good for me. I'm glad I dawdled away this past hour so I could read your comment. I still have trouble seeing myself as more than ordinary, but I'm getting there. And if you wanted to sit in a chair and read stray thoughts to me while I garden, that's okay. Could you make them thoughts on gardening, though? I just had a thought to hang little plaques with quotes on my new fence, when I build it, so that as a person is wondering about enjoying the flora, they can also be enriched with verbiage. Thanks for that inspiration!
• The love of gardening is a seed that once sown never dies, but grows to the enduring happiness that the love of gardening gives.
o As quoted in Dig, Plant, and Grow! Gertrude Jekyll
o ~
• Charles dudley warner
My Summer in a Garden (1870)
• To own a bit of ground, to scratch it with a hoe, to plant seeds and watch, their renewal of life, this is the commonest delight of the race, the most satisfactory thing a man can do.

• Let us celebrate the soil. Most men toil that they may own a piece of it; they measure their success in life by their ability to buy it.

• No man but feels more of a man in the world if he have a bit of ground that he can call his own. However small it is on the surface, it is four thousand miles deep; and that is a very handsome property.

• Mud-pies gratify one of our first and best instincts. So long as we are dirty, we are pure.

• What a man needs in gardening is a cast-iron back,—with a hinge in it.

• Lettuce is like conversation: it must be fresh and crisp, so sparkling that you scarcely notice the bitter in it.
• The love of gardening is a seed that once sown never dies, but grows to the enduring happiness that the love of gardening gives.
o As quoted in Dig, Plant, and Grow! Gertrude Jekyll
o ~
• Charles dudley warner
My Summer in a Garden (1870)
• To own a bit of ground, to scratch it with a hoe, to plant seeds and watch, their renewal of life, this is the commonest delight of the race, the most satisfactory thing a man can do.

• Let us celebrate the soil. Most men toil that they may own a piece of it; they measure their success in life by their ability to buy it.

• No man but feels more of a man in the world if he have a bit of ground that he can call his own. However small it is on the surface, it is four thousand miles deep; and that is a very handsome property.

• Mud-pies gratify one of our first and best instincts. So long as we are dirty, we are pure.

• What a man needs in gardening is a cast-iron back,—with a hinge in it.

• Lettuce is like conversation: it must be fresh and crisp, so sparkling that you scarcely notice the bitter in it.
I love your gardening. I am disgusted with most men this morning so phooey on them. Just be on your own and enjoy your birthday. When I turned fifty I draped grey crepe paper streamers limply around where the party would be. Im not in a good mood this morning but I enjoyed reading about Grace. It is something I lack sometimes. There are moments of grace but then there are long times when I am clumsy and mean. I have no answers. Please keep writing.
James, excellent quotes. I will keep them.

zanelle, I'm sorry you're in a grump! I hope the day works it's magic on you with sunshine and gentle breezes. I do my best to keep the naysayers at bay, and I try hard to not spread angst, but every once in a while I get tired of explaining myself to short sighted people, in this case another man. Why do they think I hate "men"? I don't hate "men"? I hate certain men's attitudes. There's a really big difference.

Off now to clean up and look pretty for my early birthday lunch.
Now this is grace: "I need to put the bow on the first 50 so I can get on with the next half century."
Chicken, you think so? Thanks for that. I'm seeing it as a break, as in a page break, between what I've been and what I want. Time to stop talking about it and just do it.
Indiana does have splendid sunsets! I am a Tuesday child too. It's one small part of the reason I named my first child, Grace. The family thinks she's named after my grandmother. She thinks she's named after my grandmother. But I know the truth. She's named after Grace Slick. It's all good.
Sorry about the double tap, Phyullis. OS is unusually squirrelly this morning. I think the way you put it is graceful as is the mindset it expresses, which is another double tap, or more accurately, a twofer. You seem to be sidestepping the classic mid-life crisis during which men buy sports cars and take a mistress and women act out the fantasies in 50 Shades of Derring Do. Not that there's necessarily anything wrong with either approach, except they're so predictable and they practically scream fear and denial. You're taking a realistic look at the situation and your options, and that, my friend, is grace under pressure, as Hemingway supposefly put it, and, ironically, seemed to have trouble living up to in his later years.

So, in the event OS has sunk to the bottom of the Innanet sea by Tuesday, please accept my premature congratulations on having arrived thus far with clear head and good humor, and by all means have a rip-roaring wonderful birthday.
Nice pic portraying: “A sense of what is right and proper.” “Thoughtfulness towards others.” “To bring honor to.” You are full of grace, enjoy that... Happy B'day.
Happy Birthday a little early, Phyllis!
You've read my take on the 50s -- I so hope it's as good a turn into a new decade as it has been for me. It helps if you're looking forward at 50 instead of looking back and mourning, of course.

"Why mourn for any day of your life gone by? You'll forget to enjoy the one you're in."-- the one saying of my mother's I have taken to heart -- it's been so true!
Your putting on the bow sounds like the perfect attitude for the next 50.

As for trolls, rise above, rise above.
It seems like certain types get jealous when a woman's writing is continuously on top of the feed every day, or on most viewed for months and they come out with the bullying, while they don't seem to mind when it's the same man on top of the feed every day for a year (nothing personal, Jon, but it just something I've noticed around here).
When one of my posts was on most viewed for 2+ months, some male came out of the woodwork to tell me it must all be lies for attention....when I write lies for attention, it will be
labelled 'fiction.' : )

I'm a Tuesday Child too -- Grace is an action, to me:
1) a blessing handed down from above
2) a challenge to rise above and be kind-ish to others (whether or not deserved) for me...notice my 'kind-ish' ? I have some work to do on my own actions of grace : )
I'd even add "the act of rising above in the presence of trolls" to the dictionary's definition.
nilesite, Grace Slick is a good role model for a young girl.

Chicken, I like your ideas for midlife! I just need to get past the whole fertile thing or else find a vasectomized male. Seriously, though, I am figuring out how to plan, finally, and finding the patience to see them through. And I fully intend to have a fun life. I'm tired of being boring.

jmac, thanks! :)

JT, looking back (hah!) I can see that everything I've gone through has had a positive impact on myself, even if living through it was torturous. Keeping that in mind will be key to getting me through the rest of it. And you mother seems like a very smart woman. Kind-ish, def. to do no harm, even if you can't do good. I get it.
Ack, I missed Jonathan! Hi, Jonathan! Thanks!
That is a great sunset. We have 'em this time of year here too.
I "liked" this over at Our Salon, plus commented.
Happiest of Birthdays to you, dearie
I'd throw a party for you here today if only things weren't still so wonky.......
*sighing*

I miss the way things used to be here at OS.....
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