Life after leaving the Mormon Church

Rachel Velamur

Rachel Velamur
February 15
Born and raised in a strict Mormon family. I write about what life was like as a Mormon and what my life is like after leaving.


OCTOBER 16, 2014 9:36PM

Re-Learning Normal: Post-Mormon Edition

        When I was twelve, my Sunday School teacher was a very sweet woman with short silky hair and a wry sense of humor. One day she mentioned how happy she was in her marriage. At the time, I doubted her words: after all, her husband wasn’t Mormon.… Read full post »

JULY 1, 2014 4:51PM

Mormon Control

             I have tried three times to have my name removed from the membership rolls of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, more commonly called the Mormon Church, only to have my requests go ignored. Technically, I am still counted as a me/

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JUNE 25, 2014 11:07AM

Caged: Growing Up A Mormon Girl

              Kate Kelly, leader of the Ordain Women organization, was formally excommunicated from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, more commonly referred to as the Mormon Church. Kate Kelly’s crime was to start an organiza… Read full post »

MARCH 4, 2014 12:31PM

Empathy Pizza

              On Saturday, I attended a mandatory training session for my teacher certification program.  The program was supposed to provide a pizza lunch.  When lunchtime came, the pizzas had not arrived, so the directors shuttled us into our next t… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 1, 2014 5:29PM

The Girl With The Mormon Background

        “When people talk to you, the first thing they want to talk about is Mormonism.”

          Last summer I attended a writer’s workshop, where one of the participants made this comment over lunch. Of all the many things that I a/… Read full post »

JANUARY 25, 2014 4:37PM

Mormonism and Bullying

        I have been having long-running issues with a co-worker, one that I have been trying to ameliorate for a full six months, ever since starting a new position as a teacher. I don’t want to go into details, other than to say that the relationship has been… Read full post »

JANUARY 12, 2014 1:43PM

Mormon Busywork

              Back in the days when I was a believing Mormon, my church-mates and I often touted the busy-ness of our lives as a mark of pride.  As high schoolers, we woke up early every morning for seminary, showing up at the church building at 6:30… Read full post »

JANUARY 4, 2014 7:56PM

Attendance Lessons

Last month, my bosses at work decided to institute an attendance competition.  As high school teachers, we are required to submit attendance electronically every period.  In order to improve our record, which factors into the amount of funding our school receives, the deans of instruction s/… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 30, 2013 4:07PM

A Hunger Games Thanksgiving




          Last weekend I went to the movies and saw The Hunger Games: Catching Fire. Now, on the Saturday following Thanksgiving, as I come off a turkey and stuffing induced coma, I find myself a little disconcerted by the juxtaposition/

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OCTOBER 26, 2013 5:49PM

Fake It 'Til You Make It, Anatomy Style




Recently, I started a new job teaching anatomy and physiology.  I have a pretty comprehensive background in developmental biology – I can lecture for hours on the development of the heart, brain, and muscular system.  I can talk about the structu

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SEPTEMBER 23, 2013 7:29PM

Book Review: Into The Jungle


          The process of doing science makes for some wonderful stories. In his book, “Into The Jungle: Great Adventures in the Search of Evolution,” renowned scientist Sean B. Carroll tells some of the stories behind great discover/…

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          I started writing in college, while taking a creative writing course.  The lecturer, a woman who had just received her MFA in creative writing, was a very gentle about introducing us to the beauty of stories and languages.  I enjoyed her class and even aft… Read full post »

Blogger has an analytics section that tracks how people find this particular blog.  As a numbers/factoid geek, I like to keep an eye on these statistics.  Most of what I see is not surprising – most of the hits from this website are coming from ex-Mormon community forums.&nb… Read full post »

JULY 2, 2013 9:53PM

Ex-Mormon Metallica




        I first heard Metallica back in the days when I was trying my hardest to be a good little Mormon girl. The music sounded illicit, almost forbidden, especially in an environment where all the leaders seemed pre-occupied by how sinful and worldly… Read full post »

          As a teenager, I attended a self-defense class.  Our group was made up of Mormon girls between the ages of 12 and 18.  The instructor, also a Mormon, chose to end the presentation by telling us “The greater the number of earrings in your ear, the… Read full post »

APRIL 29, 2013 9:07AM

Monday Morning Guide To Coffee

Coffee is my favorite part of the morning - hot, fragrant, and flavorful, a warm cup puts me in the right mood for the rest of my day.  Over the years, I have developed a few key principles that allow me to consistently brew good coffee using my trusty French press. … Read full post »

APRIL 13, 2013 1:42PM

Growing Fruit In A City

        I grew up in the country and live in a city.  Growing up, we had blueberry, raspberry, and elderberry bushes, along with four gnarled old apple trees.  Moving to a large city, what I missed most about home was all of the green - the trees, the flowers,… Read full post »


“Mormons don’t drink coffee or tea because caffeine is a mind-altering substance, right?  That’s what I was told.”

          I was sitting with a group of students waiting for class to begin; we were talking about our different o

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MARCH 28, 2013 8:29PM

Marriage Just Makes Things Easier

“Marriage just makes things easier.” 

          My husband and I were visiting with an old friend, a physicist who was getting serious with a woman, when he made that statement. In this particular context about marriage, our friend was talking about health i

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          I have stated multiple times that I was in my mid-twenties when I found out that Joseph Smith had married multiple women, including teenagers and women who already had husbands. Although this is technically true, I find that my… Read full post »
FEBRUARY 15, 2013 10:54AM

Susan B. Anthony & Me

Susan B. Anthony was born on February 15th, 1820, 165 years before I was born.  I have always had a deep admiration for Susan B. Anthony, one that goes beyond the simple coincidence of sharing a birthday.  Even as a stubborn pre-adolescent girl with tangled hair, I understood the huge debt/… Read full post »

JANUARY 18, 2013 3:43PM

Renaissance Woman

          In high school, I met with a college admissions counselor, who asked me about my extracurricular activities and academic performance. For sports, I had done ballet and track and cross country. I had won an art competition, performed in the school musical, and playe… Read full post »


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          A couple weeks, I watched a Bollywood movie called 3 Idiots.  The plot centered on the adventures of three friends who are attending a top-ranked engineering college in India.&nbs… Read full post »

JANUARY 1, 2013 10:39PM


          When I first left Mormonism, I called myself an atheist.  I walked around saying “I know there is no God.”  Faced with the difficulties of transitioning out of Mormonism – the fights, the sorrow, the preaching – a hardline appr… Read full post »
DECEMBER 19, 2012 5:14PM

When Mormons Leave

          When I came home from my first semester of college, my sister-in-law asked me about college and if I liked the people at church. I looked at her, puzzled, until I realized she didn’t know. “I haven’t attended church in over a year.” I t… Read full post »