Procopius

Procopius
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Rockford, Illinois, USA
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February 05
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I'm a regular middle aged guy, living in a regular middle class neighborhood, in a regular middle-sized community in the middle of America. I am an expatriate Texan transplanted to the Midwest, and wondering how I got here, and where I'm headed.

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SEPTEMBER 23, 2009 10:15AM

When Children's Books Make Me Cry

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When my son was six or seven years old, he was given his first "Magic Tree House" book.  For those who do not have grade school aged children, the "Magic Tree House" is a series of time travel books written by Mary Pope Osborne.  There are about 25 books in the series, maybe more.  Each one takes its two protagonists, six year old Annie and her nine year old brother Jack, on an adventure back in time to a great historical event or era.  The books are terrific, and a great way to plant an interest in reading and history in small children.

My son's first "Magic Tree House" book was called Tonight on the Titanic.  He was not familiar with the Titanic story, and as I read the book out loud to him, he was absolutely enthralled.  I was too, surprisingly so.  Obviously, the story of the Titanic is one that I know very well.  I've seen all the movies numerous times, of course.  Heck, I've even written a post on Open Salon about the last survivor of that tragedy (who passed away earlier this year).  Being so familiar with the story, I never dreamed I would react the way I did.  I got choked up.  As Jack and Annie desperately try to reunite two young children with their parents, their own lives become imperiled.  In the chaos of the doomed ship, they are unable to find the magic tree house that will transport them back to the safety of their 21st century home.  All the while, the ship's orchestra continues to play "Nearer, My God, To Thee", despite the fact that the musicians know they will be in God's presence before the break of dawn.

I could barely get through the story.  Fortunately, I managed to stifle the tears enough to finish, but it was not easy.  The same thing happened a year or so later when the two of us sat and read another entry in the series, Civil War on Sunday.  In this book, Jack and Annie meet Clara Barton, who enlists the children to help feed and comfort the wounded in her field hospital.  While there, they meet a freed slave, a young drummer boy (who turns out to be one of their own ancestors), and a severely injured Confederate soldier.  They learn first hand how tragic and destructive war is, and they witness true heroism in the person of Clara Barton.  And guess what?  I had to take a short break in reading so I could clear the tears from my eyes.

It's embarrassing to cry when you're reading a children's book to your young son!

So why am I recounting these episodes of several years ago?  Because it happened again last night, that's why.  Of course, now that my son is in 4th grade, he thinks he is too old to have Mom or Dad read to him.  Still, I like to know what he is reading, and I will sometimes read a few pages to him just to make sure he is comprehending what he is supposed to. 

His current book is called Defiance, by Valerie Hobbs.  It is about an eleven year old boy with cancer.  Yeah, I know what you're thinking.  No surprise this one would choke me up.  After my son went to bed last night, I decided to read the final four chapters by myself.  Whew!  I had to wait about five minutes before I could even tell my wife that I had finished the book.  To do so sooner would have been pointless, because when I'm choked up, I can't speak.  Really, nothing comes out, at least nothing other than a weird blubbering noise.

So after a few minutes, composure fully regained, I told my wife that I finished the book.  After a minute or so spent describing its conclusion, my wife asks, "Have you  been crying?"  "No", I lied.  Dang, I can't get anything past her.

Well, I'm finished with crying over children's literature, at least for this week, anyway.  No reading tonight.  I think I'll pull out my DVD of "To Kill a Mockingbird", which is probably my favorite movie.  I've seen it at least 15 or 20 times.  At the end of the film, when we see Atticus through the window sitting with the unconscious Jem, and the narrator explains "Atticus would stay with Jem all night, and he would be there when Jem waked up in the morning", I'll cry just like I have cried every other time I watch that scene.  Guaranteed.

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Oh, I cry at the end of To Kill A Mockingbird too. Have you seen UP? You may not be this bad but I cried several times in that movie. I think I'd start to get worried if I didn't cry.

Those sound like fantastic books. My niece is 6 and I think she would like them.
Kaysong, my wife and son went to see "Up" without me, so I haven't seen it yet. They liked it, though. Your niece would definitely like the "Magic Tree House" books. They should probably be read in order -- the books are numbered. They are all very good, and only a few of them are tear-jerkers.
Reading "The House at Pooh Corner" aloud to my kids used to choke me up. Christopher Robin has to go off to boarding school, leaving the Hundred Acre Wood and all his animal friends behind for good. He pretends to make an exception for Pooh, of course, but the reader knows that when it's over, it's over...
You may be crying out of empathy, joy, sensitivity and/or worry, but whatever the reason the main thing is that you are sharing books with your adorable and well-loved son, which could make anyone tear up at the beauty of that simple act.
Alan, I haven't read that one, but it surely sounds like a heart breaker!

Lea, gosh, what are trying to do, make me well up yet again?
That's happened to me. But it's not so much the book itself as the child's reaction, as you note. But then I've felt a little misty at almost every new interest my kids have developed. Movies do it too. Big time.

R.
Crying is a good thing, it shows you care. It could also mean that the writing is good. Some of the best written books out there are "children's" books.
Hi Procopicus,
I give you so much credit for knowing what to read besides what would be classified as typical to your young son. He is blessed to have a father with so much conscious, when I was very young, I loved to read great books. Don't ask me why, but my mother was a pretty honest type of person, someone from the Great Depression. I would read "Joan of Arc" as one of my first books I could not take my young eyes off the meanings of the words, the angles that Joan sees, that tell her what is to become of her. I would read regular things for quite some time, but was always inducted into the realm of magic, "Alice In Wonderland" and other abstract facts and fiction. "The Little Prince" I also find highly suficeing as I would want my oldest son, 28 years old now. Also other childrens classics that come to mind, that could definitely make me cry are "Charlottes Web", "All Dogs Go To Heaven", one of my older daughters favorites.
The best children's literature usually has a subtext that appeals to adults. Your reaction says a lot about Mary Pope Osborne and Valerie Hobbs.
I think adults are often more affected by childrens books/movies because kids just don't have the experiences yet that would make them painful. My husband and I were both bawling within the first few minutes of UP. Of course, we cry at Budweiser beer commercials featuring the Clyesdales too :)
The children's book that made me weep and still does is "I'll Love You Forever", a manipulative tear at your heartstrings kind of book. I had not heard of this series, but my children are in their 20's. To Kill A Mockingbird...a classic that must be seen over and over again.
John, children have a way at bringing out those adult tears!

marcelleqb, maybe we need to be more circumspect when applying the term "children's literature"!

MOMSACOMIC, I think you illustrate that great works of literature don't have to target an adult audience at all. Some of the best are written to appeal to the very young, too. That's a good thing!

Stim, good point, and yes, those are two very good authors, indeed.

bluesurly, you raise an interesting observation. Children may not react with the same emotional intensity due to the limited experiences they have had. I will say, however, that my son was also emotionally touched by the stories I mentioned above, but perhaps not quite as strongly or in the same way.
Mary, I haven't read that one. I don't know if I will, either. I choke up easily enough as it is!
"I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living, my baby you'll be..." ) Love You Forever by Robert N. Munsch (Author). Go for it. Now, where is that damn Kleenex!
Hurrah, I'm not the only one! Some friends once handed me a child's book entitled, 'I Love You Forever'. We were sitting, on the dirt, in a field at the time (watching someone else have a horse back riding lesson). By the end of the amazingly short book I was sobbing out loud, which is saying something as I seldom, if ever, cry in front of anyone. Feel better knowing a midwestern man can be hit by the same circumstances.
the best of children's literature doesn't speak down to them or over their heads, it's just good literature, which is what makes it rewarding to adults as well
magpye, you and marytkelley recommend the same book. It must be a good one!

Roy, well stated, my friend.
"The Giving Tree" makes me cry.
Nelly, that was a great book!
There was a time, when I was in fifth grade, that we read "A Separate Peace", Death Be Not Proud" and "Lord of the Flies." These books had such a profound impact on me, that I had nightmares for years. I think the teacher went overboard in the "life and death" intensity of her reading selections. Coincidentally, my best friend was dying of Leukemia at the time. She passed away when we were twelve. I was never the same after that.
Good grief, Nelly, that is some intense reading for the fifth grade!
In Tokyo, I noticed a Japanese woman looking at a book with tears streaming down her face. When she noticed me noticing, she said, "This is the saddest book in the world," and showed it to me. It was "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein.
Interesting to see how many others were also moved to tears by UP. Like Kaysong, I think there would be more cause for concern if a person didn't cry. I defy anyone to get through "Where the Red Fern Grows" or "Little Women" without shedding tears. Good post and comments!
Benjamin, I remember the first time I read that, and thinking, "Wow, this is sad!" But sad in a good way, if that's possible.

diva, I'll definitely have to rent 'UP" when it comes out. Thanks for stopping by!
When I read to my boys years ago, some books just about finished me off. Someone noted "The Giving Tree"--for certain. There was the Barrett's "Benjamin's 365 Birthdays," for it's exploration of gratitude. And finally Sendak's "Outside Over There," a magnificently drawn and written parable about sibling rivalry and love overcoming jealousy. All three of these were hugely difficult for me to read aloud. Oh, "Goodnight Moon" was adorable but I used to fall asleep....
Kenneth, there is certainly a wealth of quality children's literature. Thank you for your comment!