I never entertained the viewpoint/opinion that people who served food and drink were lesser people because of the job they had decided to do. So what. Do YOU want to pick up garbage and trash?
Likely not. And your kids? So,first realize you'd pay them anything just so you didn't have to do it.
(That wasn't a pleasant choice for my analogy.....as you shall soon see).
As a single Mom in 1968, you know the stories and not likely need another.A good Greek friend , who owned a neighborhood "tavern" gave me my first job and it was near a chilled beer mug. Draught, of course. Thus began about twenty years of working in the service business for me.
Overall,I liked what I did. That's because I respected myself and enough respect to teach, need be, everyone I served. I actually moved up into management in a chain of Class A Dinner Houses. I travelled and I'd train.
The first thing out of my mouth to the new hires was,"If you really don't have self confidence, I'd leave now." Most of the public looks down to servers, because a server 'lets' them. Be yourself.
Just today, a revelation came to me. As my job kept me from the nightly employee drinking . Sometimes at work, sometimes not. I addicted about 15yr.9 No, I won't say I am still, Sorry, and don't bother to write about semantics. My addiction issues are well in hand.
In closing, as I said, if you work around it, be careful. You see, there is a behavior called "catch up drinking" Since I worked late, and the establishment stopped serving at that I felt to be too early. So we'd clock out, and it was bombs away in the bar. That's my theory on giving an addict not a chance in hell at normalcy.
Pretty soon you'll drink that way whether at work or not, to "catch up", but by then, you're only trying to catch up with yourself. That takes many many years, if at all. I'm lucky.
I know if I hear another diatribe about 12 steps, etc, I'll become a radical progressive to get even.
SHH!! I know I am!