I've witnessed a fairly new phenomenon going on in blog world..and Facebook world, for that matter. People admitting they feel upset, frustrated and anxious if no one replies to their posts. Although I suppose this feeling has been around for a while, since blogs in general are at least ten years old..but it seems recently I am running across more people posting that the lack on feedback and interaction leaves them feeling empty and ignored. Doesn't it remind you a bit of a high school popularity contest. SHE got most comments than I did!Waaahhhhhhh!!!!
It's so interesting how to reaffirms what social beasts we are, demanding to be acknowledged and heard. Our very first interactions with the world was as such..as babies crying for momma. Now it's a collective cry, millions of voices wanting to be heard and responded to.
And when that doesn't happen in the number or the frequency hoped for, a new sort of sense of isolation happens. No matter how connected we are, no matter how many people we *know* are actually reading our words and know we are here..if we don't hear anything from them, we feel like we're in a sort of an emotional prision cel. Doesn't anyone like what I wrote? I spent a whole hour toiling over that grand point! Where is everyone? Now I'm hurt and embarrassed...I shouldn't have said anything at all!
I wonder if we could coin a new term for this feeling. Someone will make one up, someone who works for Yahoo news will tell you you're not alone, that we all feel this sense of frustration and dissapointment when there isn't that exciting "10 New Comments!" alert. Therapists will take training courses in how to deal with it. Facebook haters will scoff and laugh at the incredible neediness of their online junkie counterparts.
Is there any hope then, in coping with the crushing silence? Maybe not, beyond having some realistic expectations about people's time and attention spans. One must also realize that there are more people out there than you think reading your stuff, but this won't always lead to visual applause. Most importantly, it is YOUR blog and this should be a creative and emotional outlet forYOU. And didja forget..it's supposed to be FUN?
Do we even know how to have fun anymore?