Maureen Andrade

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"Love is a radical act." -Sam MacKenzie

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OCTOBER 4, 2013 11:31AM

Unconditional Love Needed Now

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Recently, I went to the memorial service of one of the most wonderful and generous local leaders in my community. Rob Figley was a professional Santa, a political leader, and he officiated over a thousand weddings. The first gay wedding in our county was performed by him last December. It was covered in local and national media. At the end of all things, what his loved ones stressed at his service was his commitment to unconditional love.

As the representative of both Christmas and marriage in my community, Rob’s belief in unconditional love was for real.

On every level, our communities, our families, and our nation need unconditional love like a marathon runner needs a drink of water at the mile marks. There is a powerfully dark movement in our culture against this ancient understanding of the interdependence and need for connectivity in all things. Like most, I have suffered with others who believe unconditional love is just like Santa: a fairy tale for little kids. As Rob showed us, both Santa and unconditional love exist.

I know many people’s eyes roll when they hear me talk about things like unconditional love, and the need for a deeply abiding commitment to it. But having gone through all the things I have gone through in my life so far, I can say for certain love is truth, and those who are cynical of it are mistaken.

We don’t have to enable each other’s bad behavior or turn a blind eye to each other’s utter personal failures in order to love unconditionally. This kind of spiritual love is bravely honest and strong as to the center of the earth is deep. Unconditional love leads to separations sometimes, but only by leaving the possibility of reunion. This kind of love has healthy boundaries that may be impenetrable sometimes and porous at others.

Real love that moves beyond this life to live on with those who have passed is a transformer of worlds and a shifter of paradigms. As humble humans, those of us who aspire to it just as often fail as succeed on some days. Everyone struggles with ego and pain and fear- sometimes we don’t get the better of these devils. But when we keep our eyes on the prize of unconditional love, and stay connected with others with the same goal, we will find ourselves in this state more often than not.

I believe in unconditional love because I have lived in homes where “love” was conditional to moods, circumstances, and addictions. I grew up in places that were so absent of love they were abyss. Bringing the light of love into my life is a commitment I have chosen, and every day when I get up in the morning it is renewed.

On every level and in every place in our communities, we need to plant and nurture the seeds of unconditional love; just like every great leader in human history has implored us to do. At this time of deep divisions, it is more important than ever to listen to the wise men and women who came before us. It is time for us to take a hint from people like Rob, and put our minds and hearts in the right place. Who knows what kinds of miracles can happen when we do.

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Oh this is so powerful! I like the idea of instantaneous, unconditional forgiveness too.
I find many are incapable of finding unconditional love when their egos are easily manipulated. Can you imagine a world where nobody ever committed a hateful or hurtful deed against another? Your words are encouraging on many levels if only because you don't define what unconditional love really is. Love that! :)
Hard to give and harder to find. Sometimes when we realize we are imperfect ourselves it's easier to love others unconditionally.
I have only known unconditional love once in my life and he is 3000 miles away. One is conservative and one is right out there but we always meet in the middle.
HUGGGGGGGGGG
Beautifully put. May Mr. Figley rest in peace, and his message go on.
Unconditional love is rare and it says more about the lover than the loved. Sometimes, people don't even recognize it when it's given because they confuse love with permissiveness, lack of judgement, or enabling. Unconditional love happens when we love even without approving of the other's behavior, even when giving advice or advocating change, even when it's hard. You are blessed to have been the recipient of it.
I find in life it is easier to give unconditional love than it is to receive it but that can't stop me from looking for it...if only everyone could feel like Mr. Figley.
just read a good defintion of love this morning..
the will to extend yrself
for the purpose of nurturing yr own or someone else's
spiritual growth...
this will extend your self...hence it is an overcoming of yr limits...
an act of growing into a larger state of being..
but exceeding limits involves effort..it takes willpower...
~
under this definition, 'conditional love' is not love at all, really...