MARCH 11, 2012 12:28PM

It's okay to be happy now

Last night a friend and I rented videos. She recommended 50/50, a so-called comedy about a young person with cancer. We watched it, and it is really good, but the funny only offsets the awful. We finished it and ran back to Video Connections, our locally owned cool place to pick/… Read full post »

MARCH 8, 2012 10:21AM

Gay couples are saving marriage

Proudly, I am a resident of Washington State, which recently signed marriage equality into law for gay couples. We are a diverse state, truly purple when it comes to partisan affiliations; but enough of us agree on this: homosexual couples are entitled to the same legal and financial benefits as stra… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
MARCH 5, 2012 7:53PM

Birth Control Is Not a Women's Issue: It's a Human Right

Our national conversation about birth control has veered into bad science fiction lately, as Rick Santorum has declared the prevention of unwanted pregnancies wrong and Rush Limbaugh accused women who utilize birth control of being sluts. Flirting with some kind of misogynistic dystopian vision of a… Read full post »

MARCH 2, 2012 10:36AM

I Have Large Hands

I have large hands, long fingers. A therapist commented on it once, while I told him a sad story. Resting a palm to my face while I explained something deep, dark and painful, I was startled when the man said, “I’m sorry, I missed that. Your hands are so big…it just… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 28, 2012 7:33PM

Pots of Gold After the Storm

A relative told me in December, “Things aren’t going to be perfect anymore, Maureen. Get used to it.” She was speaking to life after nuclear family: divorce, dating, and family relationships…all of it. Still in shock, dazed and confused, I couldn’t begin to absorb what… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 25, 2012 6:39PM

Why Creative Geniuses Self-Destruct

Whitney Houston was laid to rest this week, and the world of pop culture is left mourning the fall of another great artist. At one time, she was unbelievably beautiful and talented: a phenomenon. In the public’s unyielding eye, she slowly destroyed herself with drugs and a bad marriage. Like ot… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 20, 2012 11:12AM

Grieving for the Living

It feels like a funeral around here lately. What my children and I are grieving isn’t a person; it’s a thing, an invisible and infinitely precious thing: our nuclear family. Reborn will be a new family, of course, like a phoenix rising from its ashes. But until the rising, there's moments… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 10, 2012 10:02AM

How to Be a Diva

A friend and I went out last weekend to Alberta Street, one of the culturally richest districts in Portland, to see a show. The act was called The Liv Warfield Experience. Truthfully, I hadn’t heard of her before I bought the ticket…it was a whim. But why not, you know.… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 6, 2012 10:39AM

No Autopsy Needed

A few well-meaning friends have suggested I seek therapy as a prophylactic exercise following the end of my marriage. Introspection with a trained professional is certainly a task I’ve completed before; and truly, it was worth every dollar and hour and tissue. But I’m not feeling it with… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 2, 2012 10:29AM

California's Been Good To Me

Last weekend I spent with family in San Francisco. I try to make it down a couple times a year, but this visit was unique because of the state I’m in. I hadn’t seen this branch of my family since my husband left; and I was seeking solace in their warmth.… Read full post »

JANUARY 27, 2012 10:48AM

We Are Heroes in Our Neverending Story

 

Tonight I brought my boys to see The NeverEnding Story, which was playing at a local art house theater. I saw the flick at the same venue when I was eleven, and it was a second-run theater. I’ll never forget what it felt like to see the Luck Dragon for the… Read full post »

JANUARY 23, 2012 10:49PM

A Peek Into My Studio

 academy 2 My Fair Place, 2011

I've loved this building for years. It was built by the  Sisters of Mercy and local builders and masons in the nineteenth century. This is the most important historical building in the entire  area, as it was the home of the first hospital, insane… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
JANUARY 18, 2012 1:41PM

My Day in Court

Last Thursday, the state of Washington provided a court date for me. It was Family Court, which is a term that sends shivers down the spine of anyone who’s gone. Security checked me in an hour before my appointment. Not knowing exactly where it was or what would happen, I showed… Read full post »

JANUARY 13, 2012 12:37PM

Reading Tarot In A British Pub

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JANUARY 10, 2012 10:54AM

Cold and Broken Hallelujah

I met Matt when I was fifteen years old. We were both invited to a “philosophy meeting,” which was a Friday night gathering of turbo dorks, geeks, and geniuses. Which of these I am, I’ll never know… but I believed him to be the latter. I still recall that moment of… Read full post »

JANUARY 7, 2012 11:50AM

Becoming a Crazy Cat Lady?

Coping strategies for intense stress are something on my mind lately. In my early twenties, when I was upset I’d run ten miles, smoke a bunch of cigarettes, then drink in excess. Often, I had a boyfriend, so there was the ultimate stress reliever at the end of the night.

 

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"Mendocino" Maureen J Andrade

Sometimes, it's easy to feel tiny and for… Read full post »

DECEMBER 31, 2011 6:40PM

Tori Amos Gets the Last Word for 2011

As Asia and Europe ring in 2012, all of us little hippies on the West Coast nurse the last drops out of 2011. Here are my favorite tiny events from 2011:
  • I was ID'd while buying beer yesterday...by a woman! Usually we know the difference between a twenty year
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DECEMBER 30, 2011 12:06PM

2011..I'm still alive

Last night, it was time to fill out paperwork. Deciding to take the longer but hopefully less contentious path of legal separation and then divorce, my husband and I downloaded the forms from Washington State’s website. With cold, sweaty hands, I took up a pen and wrote down my family’s d… Read full post »

DECEMBER 27, 2011 7:15PM

A Shaman's Good Advice on Divorce

 A few weeks ago, after my husband told me he was leaving me in the new year, I went to a local new age shop. I was out of a certain type of candle I enjoy, which is thicker and shorter than a taper, but comes in rainbow colors. Guessing they’d… Read full post »

DECEMBER 23, 2011 11:19AM

A Tarot Reading for 2012

Recently, I designed a deck of Tarot cards meant for youth and adults. I’m working out the meanings of the cards to explore conscious and subconscious issues; but it’s also a game meant for amusement. I thought it’d be fun to do a general reading of the upcoming year: the mythical… Read full post »

DECEMBER 20, 2011 12:58PM

Songs to Mend a Broken Heart

I believe in love. Pure and simple. St. Teresa stated boldly, hundreds of years ago, "God is love." To her, I thank for summing it all up. Though I've been hurt badly lately, I won't forget this sagely advice, nor will I shy away from what I know is my nature.… Read full post »

DECEMBER 19, 2011 12:23PM

Live Like Your Hair's On Fire

Saturday I spent the day with my mom. It was awesome. She’s one of those parents that gets better with age. Working as a nurse for thirty years, currently in end-of-life care at a VA facility, she’s got a better than average grasp on mortality and life. Unlike most people, there’s… Read full post »

DECEMBER 17, 2011 1:30PM

Christmas in Indigo Blue

 A few weeks ago, my husband told me he was leaving. It was evening, and we were in our bedroom. I think he was sitting on the floor because I recall him being in a submissive position. There was nothing submissive about what he had to say though….his words were as… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 22, 2011 10:12AM

My Heart Is a Bloom

Copy of summer2010 35 Me last year on Tahoe 

 

This past weekend, I went through an eighteen gallon Rubbermaid container where I keep youthful mementos. I was looking for photos for an art project. Sifting through the contents, I was astonished to find evidence of something I never dreamed I possess… Read full post »