Gay marriage, like many important social issues of the day, has true believers on both sides, and they usually aren't very open to compromising their values.  Both sides hunker down, nobody gives an inch, and the issue remains unsettled for years or decades to come.

An old saying regarding negotiating states, and I paraphrase, that a "good outcome is one in which neither party is completely happy."  Often times the sensible middle ground, while upsetting to the activists, provides the solution that has the best chance of working out.

My solution will please one group more than another, but having said that, I propose that gay marriage should be legal in all fifty states, but for women only.

Let's face it, lesbian sex is cool but gay guy sex is gross.  Since 50% of gay people are women, and 50% are men, this seems like a fair and equitable compromise. 

Pardon me for bragging, but it makes me feel very good about myself when I am part of the solution rather than part of the problem.