Are We There Yet?

Sarah Cavanaugh

Sarah Cavanaugh
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Cedar Grove, Wisconsin, USA
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August 01
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My poems have appeared in Poet Lore, Nimrod, and Southern Poetry Review. Currently, I am trying to reclaim my life after being blacklisted. Don't mess with the Federal Government or defense contractors. Wish me luck.

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OCTOBER 3, 2011 12:27PM

I Loved a Man Much Younger Than Myself

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    The first time I met Adam was at my job interview. I probably would not have given him a second glance had I passed him on the sidewalk. He was tall but average in appearance. The thing I noticed most was that he was young, in his late twenties. I had twenty years on him.

    I was used to having bosses who were younger than myself. This had never been a problem. Young bosses were fun to work for, I had found, and fair-minded.

    Adam hired me on the spot. I was well qualified. It takes time to settle into a new job, though, and I was getting to know Adam and what he was like to work for. I don't think I had been in my new position for a week when I discovered his beautiful singing voice.

    He would burst into song at the slightest provocation. The singing would be accompanied by a gentle gyration of his hips. I began to look forward to the warmth of his hand on my shoulder as he leaned over me to check my work. It soon got to the point where I was looking forward to work just to be in Adam's presence. The weekends seemed long.

    The feeling crept up on me with all due stealth. I wanted more than anything to be in Adam's presence, and I was beginning to sense that my feelings were reciprocated. I had a friend who married a man half her age and a nephew who married a woman twice his age. Both marriages were successful.

    But I was not looking to marry. This was purely about sex appeal, and it was getting out of control. Soon the air in the office was thick with pheromones. They were dripping down the walls and making the floor slippery. Our co-workers were beginning to complain.

    Our attraction bloomed into a full-fledged affair. And then, before I knew what hit me, Adam was gone, transferred to the City by the Bay. A whole continent separated me from my lover. The farewell party the office gave him was the last time I saw Adam. When I came to work the next day the new boss was sitting at Adam's desk.

    Stange how empty a place can seem when the person who gave it life is gone. I felt like a stranger in my own hometown haunts, the places Adam and I had shared. My job was just a job, now. Eventually, the madness receded.

     For a long time after Adam's departure, though, whenever twilight settled over the landscape, I would gaze westward to the golden hues of the western sky and think of him. It was still daylight in San Francisco, I knew, but darkness was rapidly descending like gloom over the place where I felt I had been left behind.

    Strange, I would think as night enveloped me, how heavy is the weight of emptiness.

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Woo, what a lovely affair and soulful ending. The young ones are so mobile and fast. Not a good idea to pin your heart on them. Just enjoy their energy. But the heart knows no age. Thank you for this. It was just what I needed to read today.
Fascinating. My parents used to call girls (and guys) like you "cradle robbers." Sounds like the "babe" didn't mind, though.
This is one of the cleverest funniest truest paragraphs I have
read in quite awhile, Lady S. :
"Soon the air in the office was thick with pheromones. They were dripping down the walls and making the floor slippery. Our co-workers were beginning to complain."

There is a saying about better to have love & lost than never loved at all which I am sure a mature woman like you has run across in her reading, or listening to the sagacity of oldsters...and it is true..and it usually morphs into a mellow bittersweet not unpleasant glow in one's chest..
Sarah, this is some of your finest writing. I have learned that it is just as easy to love a young man as an old one. In a lot of ways, easier. Lovely post.

Lezlie
I loved everything about this.r
'What might have been' is always so difficult. Exceptional writing, Sarah!
"...how heavy is the weight of emptiness." It is a physical feeling and not a pleasant one either. Sometimes even lifting your head off the pillow is a struggle. But wasn't it possible to keep in touch with him? It sounds like this went a little deeper than pure animal attraction - at least on your part. Maybe his too.
I pinned my heart as Zanelle said and it ended ugly.
I never would do it again but your story was lovely.
HUGGGGGGGGGG
Zanelle, It was a long, slow recovery. Thanks.
Chicken, It wasn't like we planned it. Sometimes stuff happens. Thanks.
James, Knowing him once is something I will always treasure. Thanks.
L, Thanks. I value your opinion.
hugs, Thanks so much.
Catherine, Thanks to someone who writes so well.
Margaret, We went to the same college and I always hope he'll show up at a reunion. Sounds like you've been there, too.
Linda, Thanks. I'm so glad you haven't completely left us.
You remind me of me. Sorta.
I know that "climbing up walls"
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And then Fate Changes that Wild`
Wild is Great if Wild Nature's tamed.
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Maybe your Peers had him sent away?
Workers saw You Panting? Perspiring?
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You were under Perspiration/Inspiration`Awe.
You were not observing Laws\Common Senses.
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I am not critiquing negatively. Love can be so Wild?
I fall in Love in Mahone Bay with Linda O.? Heehaw.
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I sense sometimes it's best to sit on a big block of ice.
Certain Women sure have a Potent Way that Huh O.
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I am not recommending ignoring a`Wild Frenzy Wild.
Eros can Lift One up from the doldrums. You go cuckoo.
Cuckoo is great if You and a Lover are not sorta Kooky.
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I am not One who should advise. Nature assigned me to:
Become a rebel Monk. I say I may be married to Everyone?
I know from few Experiences that One Woman can be Wild!
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If She.me lose all our senses - we/you are viewed as a`One?
One?
Who daydream, get little work done, and climb Up Walls.
Fellowoffice workers may look up your skirt and O, Giggle.
Faculties?
Senses can become heightened. They may go Base and Wild.
That is when young puppy love leads to a `Sea Dog's ruff Life.
I vowed to research Family Tree. You ever consider old folks?
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I best sit im my seaside shack and not burn my pants down too.
Pants?
Trousers.
I keep them up.
No go loco loony.
I seek a Woman?
Nature may say:
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No way!
Remember!
You got burned!
M affection is calm.
I enjoyed this post.
There's Wisdom.
Love at own risk.
You fun to ponder.
My intentions are:
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Pure Intentions
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I been in jail,
been saved,
lost, found,
hauled logs,
chopped it,
and got the:
Axe!
I no give up.
I still lookin'
I see seagull.
But they birds.
I be so patient.
N offer self up.
Love One with:
Inner Nobilities.
I best walk beach.
I go watch sunset.
She walk We meet?
She swim from thee
Sea as a `Mermaid?
No love base Sea dog.
P.S.
I don't get out much.
That's easy to sense.
Boondocks hicks, ah!
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Thanks for toleration.
So so beautiful, and I know what you mean about looking at that sky. I lost a lover to San Francisco once, too. Cruel city. I'm sorry you lost him but I'm glad you guys had a chance to act on your feelings, and that this isn't a post full of even more regret than there is already....
Art, Thanks. I always enjoy reading your comments.
Alysa, You may have lost someone to SF, but you found someone in Paris. Lucky you. Thanks.
In the present era of the cougar I don't think it's so unusual for relationships between younger men and older women to work out.

Attraction and feelings have little to do with age or convention.

A shame you lost touch, but maybe it wasn't meant to be. A lovely recollection to read however.
I felt those pheromones. But didn't you guys try to keep it going?
Great post. I think it lasted as long as it was supposed to.
Congrats Sarah, on EP. I rated this early this morning, a good read and good writing.
Your affair, however brief, sounds lovely. I feel the sensuality along with the wistfulness. Did you keep in touch with him?
Steamy! Attraction really has nothing to do with age, and even the attraction we feel for people who will become lifelong friends -- that attraction isn't sexual, but it's very strong and palpable.
Everything about this was great, except you didn't seal the deal, did you?
mistercomedy, Thanks so much.
Linda C, It felt so right at the time, but I think we were both slightly embarrassed by our passion. Thanks.
Lea, It was simply a matter of those 3,000 miles that kept us apart. It took a long time for the pheromones to subside, though. Thanks.
Christine, You're probably right, but oh the pain. Thanks.
rita, Thanks so much for stopping by and for those kind words.
Erica, The 3,000 mile separation was just too great to keep it going, I guess, but oh while it lasted....
Bell, I keep hoping I'll run into him again at one of our college reunions. But he would probably have a wife and three kids in tow. Thanks.
scanner, The deal remains to be sealed--alas. Thanks.
I can relate as I am a notorious cougar. The older guys have more money and lots more to talk about, I have learned. Like James I thought that sentence with the pheremones was way over the top and I loved it!
Excellent piece! Been there done that...still getting over it. Congratulations on the E.P.
Good read :).

Overcoming convention is a bit of a walk uphill and often a lonely trek as well. But that first step, as 'they' say, is the most difficult. Now you've the choice, to move forward with this new-found experience, or slip back into the more acceptable comfort zone ;).

Rated for the fluidity of time and the markings we make on it.
Yuck. Who left this mess on the floor?
Great read. Your style continues to evolve. R.
What a beautiful lust story!! It sounds like the makings of a book!
You share this story with the same stealth it came upon you and in a few short paragraphs my own breathing was slowed and deepened by those thick, steaming pheromones "...dripping down the walls and making the floor slippery." You awoke my own sympathetic memory. And that last line "how heavy is the weight of emptiness." Just loved reading this, Sarah. You evoked the vibrancy of arousing, enlivening, feeling, and all that comes with it.
Wow, heartbreaking as the end was it sounds like a brief time in heaven.
That's quite a poetic rendering Sarah buy my practical (and dominant) side is curious as to whether there was ever a promise, or even a hint of continuation? The parting just seems so abrupt.
"Strange, I would think as night enveloped me, how heavy is the weight of emptiness."
Rated
Miguela, Love knows no boundaries, I guess. Thanks.
M.C. Thanks. I have a feeling that many have had such an experience--at least in their fantasies.
Seer, Love the fluidity of your comment. Thanks.
Jeff, Thanks, but I think I have a long way to go to catch up to your writing skills.
Susie, I never thought about a book, but you could be right. Thanks.
maria, Write what you know, they say, and it probably comes out better than if you try to force it. Thanks so much.
l'Huere Bleue, Heaven it was for awhile, and I learned what a long way down it is from heaven. Thanks.
Abrawang, I think we both felt as though we were caught in the throes of a temporary madness. Thanks.
alexis, Thanks so much.
The tension you convey in your writing is palpable. As is the emptiness you convey when in the presence of your new boss.
Terrific writing. Glad it was reciprocated, but sad he went away.
look what happened to Demi Moore
You're new to me, and I very much enjoy your writing. What I got from the wonderful story was the lack of possession you both had for each other, so that you could let go. That happens so infrequently in these relationships, and causes such great messes in life. You both got to live in the moment, and I suspect you both bathe in the bittersweet memories.
Affairs are so bittersweet. That deep, dark loneliness you so well describe in the aftermath isn't worth the fun of the contact. I don't think I could do it again, no matter what the age. There are lots of other kinds of relationships I'd rather pursue.

R+ for honesty.
Love has no age limits. He will, in all likelyhood, always have a tiny piece of your heart, just as you will always have a tiny piece of his.