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SEPTEMBER 27, 2009 6:40PM

Yom Kippur 5770, Forgiveness and Life

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Recorded in 2007,Temple Emanuel in Beaumont, Texas.

Kol Nidre: 'All vows,' the opening words of the declaration, largely in Aramaic, at the beginning of the evening service on Yom Kippur in which all vows that will be uttered in the coming year are declared null and void. ... An interpretation given to the Kol Nidre is that the congregation declares, by implication, at the beginning of Yom Kippur: "See, O Lord, what miserable sinners we are. We make promises to live better lives each year and yet always fall far short of keeping them. Therefore, help us, O Lord, and pardon us for our shortcomings." Rabbi Dr. Louis Jacobs

Yom Kippur: sundown, Sunday, September 27 to one hour past sundown, Monday, September 28.

I've often thought that on Yom Kippur, the holiest day in Judaism --the Day of Atonement-- the whole world should be Jewish. Especially our world's leaders. This year more than ever, they could all benefit from a good, hard look into a personal and national mirror.

Yom Kippur is about much more than Religion. It's about Humanity. Personal faith. Humility. Empathy. Responsibility. Accountability.  Putting yourself in another's shoes. Doing not harm, but good.

Understanding why your actions could cause distress, or worse. Trying to be a better person. A better member of the human race.

I can think of many people around the world who could use a day to reflect on the value of humanity and responsibility to oneself and others.

A day to atone for sins committed this year. A day to vow to try harder next year. To be more honorable, more decent, more understanding. To take responsibility for our own actions.

A day to honestly and sincerely request another chance.

One full day to put the world aside and take a hard look inside ourselves. No excuses. No distractions.

I can dream, but it won't happen. Too many apparently incompatible self-interests, political and economic agendas. Too many animosities, too much rage. Intolerance. Hatred.

But I can hope that for Jews around the world at least, it will happen. Tonight. Tomorrow. On Yom Kippur.

After the evening meal many Jews spend the next 25 hours fasting, praying, reflecting on our behavior during the past year, asking forgiveness for our sins and transgressions.

Especially personal ones. Why? Because they signify we didn't take responsibility for our behavior. We were selfish. Put our own needs first. Didn't consider --or worse, ignored-- the consequences to others.

I have many friends and family members to whom I've already offered my sincere apologies for any and all offenses. I have pledged to do better. I will spend tonight and tomorrow figuring out how.

I have made wonderful friends online whom I can't call or see in person, so these genuine, deeply sincere words of apology will have to do.

If I have offended, hurt or otherwise caused any kind of distress, I am truly, sorry. It is not in my nature to cause pain or discomfort in others. Yet, I am often guilty of perpetuating unintentional cruelty in the name of humor or in the heat of debate without fully realizing the unhappiness I might have caused.

I should know better. I want to be a better person. I pledge to cast pettiness and selfish goals away. To use my gifts --my words-- with kindness and care.

Please accept my heartfelt apologies for offering anything but support, comfort, applause, appreciation, civility and, most of all, friendship.

With faith and love, I say to all:


If you fast, May You Have An Easy Fast.

Whether you are Jewish or not, May Your Name Be Written In The Book of Life For Another Year.

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It's all there above. Good Yom Tov. And Shalom.
Thanks for this, Sally. Shalom.
I'm not even Jewish and I'm hungry for more of this already. Do I need to fast to get some. Beautiful words.
Thanks so much for this. Shalom.
"I've often thought that on Yom Kippur, the holiest day in Judaism --the Day of Atonement-- the whole world should be Jewish. Especially our world's leaders. This year more than ever, they could all benefit from a good, hard look into a personal and national mirror."

I just LOVE that. I will be the first to admit to knowing little of Jewish faith, but we can all use a day like this. In fact, we could use many throughout the year.

You are forgiven for all those horrible things you've said and done to me over the last few months. See? I feel better already!

Seriously, Sally. You are the goods with a heart of gold. I wish nothing but the best for you and yours during the difficult trial in your life. Bless you, Sally Swift. You are a keeper.
This is wonderful, Sally. A day of reflection and repentance is good, healthy practice for anyone. Although I am not Jewish, I stand with you and yours, and many others, praying for another year in the book of life. Shalom.
Dear Sally:

First, I am surprised to hear that the whole world isn't Jewish. : )

Second, what would happen if we were all from the same lineage? Would wars cease? Would we be one big, happy family? Would we then be less willing to hurt one another? Would we be more able to take responsibility for the behaviors we demonstrate that may be hurtful to one another?

On this night and on most other nights as well, my last thought as I place my head on the pillow, is this: Please, Lord, forgive me for any harm I may have done today. It is my intention to lead from Love, and if I have not done that, I pray for a gentle message, showing me how I might do better tomorrow.

I believe that every day we live is an opportunity to recommit to living a peace-full life, creating and expanding community and recognizing that whenever we hurt another, we hurt ourselves. And it follows that, whenever we love another, we nurture ourselves as well.

L'Shona Tovah, Sally and my other OS colleagues. May Peace be a recurrent theme in all of our lives.
One day a year when we truly consider how we have harmed others, and how we will do better in the year to come.

Imagine.

May it be.
May the year be filled with peace, virtue, love and wisdom. Shalom.
Sally, thank you for this exposition of the meaning of this most holy day. You are correct, the world would be a much better place if everyone celebrated Yom Kippur in the way that you have described, and strove to abide by it for the whole year. As the poet/musician once sang, "Imagine".
I admit, I never knew anything about this celebration, so thank you for sharing. Now I understand why it is so important.

Peace,
As I resolve to be kinder, more patient, and more understanding, I try never to forget the person I sometimes hurt the most -- myself. Thank you for this, Sally.
Sally, I think about the above prayers and say - Amen. May I be forgiven for my tresspasses, sins and my general selfishness in the past year and I hope to do better in in 5770.

May you beinscribed in the Book of Life my friend.

L'Shona Tova.
In the absence of food, your lovely words are superb nourishment for thought today and always. Good Yom Tov and Shalom back to you. xoxo
גוט יום־טובֿ

Good Yom Tov, Sally (for our non-Jewish friends :-D).

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers as always.
Good Yom Tov and Shalom. This is a wonderful tradition I came to know because of Lance and his family and friends. My world has been made better because of it.
Beautiful, ancient and yet ageless, and so comforting - thank you for posting this. I love the last sentence; the same also to you.
Thank you to one and all. I've been offline since last night, so give me a little time to catch up and dig into your cornucopia of recent posts.
Usually when you have two Jewish people in the same room, you have at least 3 opinions. Not on this topic. Shalom.
May you have a year of peace and everything good, Sally. You have been nothing but wonderful and supportive as far as I can tell. I feel I have known you for so long, just from reading your fascinating posts and your wonderful comments.
I broke my fast with sushi!