- Santa Barbara, California, USA
- June 11
- Shannon Kelley and her mother Barbara Kelley are both journalists, and have just written a book called "Undecided". Together. (...Right??) This blog is a taste of what you'll find in "Undecided", a book about choice overload, analysis paralysis, grass is greener syndrome, longing for the road not traveled, and how the success of the women’s movement has left women stumped in the face of limitless options — and how to get over it. The book comes out on May 3: if you like what you're reading here, get the book here: http://www.amazon.com/Undecided-Endless-Perfect-Career-Life-Thats/dp/1580053416. And subscribe to our blog here: http://undecidedthebook.wordpress.com/
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Shannon Kelley's Links
Does fashion reflect the culture, or does it sometimes shake it loose?
I bring this up because we were recently on a decadent vacation and somewhere between a tamarind smoothie and a full body massage, I picked up the latest issue of Vogue and found a fashion spread entitled “Risky Business.… Read full post »
I woke up this morning to a message from a former student who’d sent me a link to Anne-Marie Slaughter’s cover story in the new Atlantic.Â If you haven’t seen it yet, it’s a brilliant piece that lays out the reasons why women still can’t have it all — and what… Read full post »
I was shocked and saddened this weekend when I clicked on an email telling me that Erica Kennedy–fashion publicist turned writer turned author–had died. How I wished I could unclick itâ€“the email, and the news. Today is no better: my head feels clouded, like Iâ€™m thinking through mud. M… Read full post »
When your best intentions go south, new research suggests that it wasn’t the devil that made you do it.Â It was your brain.
Will power, the study found, is a finite resource, one that can be easily depleted.Â Which is why, when faced with a “do-I-or-don’t-I” kind of decision… Read full post »
My sister is running a marathon. Iâ€™m thrilled for her and have no doubt she will pound out those 26.2 miles in a red-headed blaze of glory. (And without crapping her pants. Seriously, itâ€™s, like, a thing among marathoners. And I worry about this immensely.)
Whatâ€™s weird is this: Iâ€™m not… Read full post »
Thankfully, I heard no references to roads not taken nor endings-versus-beginnings.Â (Though I would have enjoye… Read full post »
If rules were made to be broken, why are so many of us so afraid of breaking them?
They have their function, after all: if everyone took a red light as but a minor suggestion, drivingâ€”or merely riding inâ€”a car would be a seriously risky endeavor. Actually though, it occurs to… Read full post »
Good news alert:Â The Paycheck Fairness Act, which passed in the Democrat-controlled House back in 2010 but died after every single Republican in the Senate voted against it, is back on the table — or more precisely, in the ring. Over at Bloomberg News, Elizabeth Dwoskin writes:
Legisl… Read full post »
In a meeting last week, another editor and I got to discussing the state of the food section of our paper. (Perhaps we were hungry.) He immediately went on a tangent (okay, we were hungry), talking about how he was so interested to learn recently of the history of food criticism;… Read full post »
You know the saying:Â the best defense is a good offense?Â I’m thinking, instead of expending our energy on the war on women, why donâ€™t we wage a war for women?Â Right?
I sometimes wonder if we women â€“ roughly half the population and half the workforce too â€“ have been… Read full post »
Between “Are You Mom Enough?” (aka the extremely controversial Time MagazineÂ breastfeeding cover)Â and Elisabeth Badinter’s extremely controversial book The Conflict, which cast a critical eye on the current trend (among some sets) toward attachment parenting, and the Daily Mailâ€™… Read full post »
I came across an interesting study the other day that found that, when it comes to independent work â€“ freelancing, consulting, you name it â€“ those indie workers are more likely to be women. According to MBO Partners’ Independent Workforce Index, some 8.5 million women are choosing to… Read full post »
Last week, I attended an alumni/student networking event at my alma mater, UC Santa Barbara. The event consisted of about 50 working professionals (I was in this camp), and 100 soon-to-be-grads, sniffing around for some intel on what the â€œreal worldâ€ might have in store. The kids (umm â€“ ouch … Read full post »
I donâ€™t know about you, but I am unbearably tired of phrases like â€œaging gracefully.â€Â Or worse yet:Â â€œEmbracing your age.â€Â Define please, could you? And while youâ€™re at it, please tell me why such phrases are often accompanied by a photo of a woman with white hair.
It seems th… Read full post »
Last Sunday, after a particularly wild weekend out of town weekend with family and friends, a small group of us convened for brunch before going our separate ways. I looked at the menu, and while the chilaquiles softly called to me, I opted for my standby: huevos rancheros. But when the… Read full post »
Give it a try:Â n-n-n-n-n-ooooooooooooo.
Can’t say it, can you?Â Like me, you are probably over-extended, over-committed and over-booked. Which makes me wonder: Why is it that we can’t give ourselves permission to ever respectfully decline?Â And, w… Read full post »
So, the Mommy Wars. They’re back. Again. Or still.
A superquick recap: As you’ve undoubtedly heard by now, last week Democratic strategist Hilary Rosen said on CNN that Republican Presidential hopeful Mitt Romney’s wife Ann, a stay at home mom, had “never worked a day in her l… Read full post »
I’ll bet you do.Â That’s right: you, over there.Â The one who just fished a shirt to wear to work out of the pile of dirty clothes on your bedroom floor.Â Trust me, I do not judge, having worn the same running clothes for three days straight.Â (Right.Â Ew.)
Seems to… Read full post »
One of the problems with decisions is we sometimes make them before weâ€™re ready. Sometimes weâ€™ve forced ourselves into a box. Sometimes we entered that box with a skip and a smile. Sometimes itâ€™s been a full-court press to please the iconic self. But as the saying goes: Decide in haste,… Read full post »
Everyone else seems to be. They’re talking about women and sex and “Girls” and sex and feminism and sex and HBO and sex and the sexual revolution as failure and the sexual revolution as success.
It feels a little weird to be writing this, honestly, being that it’s 2012 and all… Read full post »
The other day, I ran across an interview with Susan Sarandon over there at ontheredcarpet.com that reminded me once again that good things are often born of chaos.Â Or, as we so often write: We are our failures, those blips in the road that can propel us forward.
But only if… Read full post »
When, over the span of little over a week, two huge studies find that, based on rankings by peers, supervisors, and direct reports, women are viewed as better leaders than men — and that, the higher the professional level, the wider the gap between the woman and her male counterpart (i.e.,… Read full post »
Sure, thereâ€™s been a lot of chat about everything thatâ€™s wrong with Mad Men and why women in general and feminists in particular should hate its unrepentant misogynystic guts.Â And letâ€™s face it:Â this is a show that glorifies gin, Lucky Strikes and getting laid (by anyone but one̵… Read full post »
Bryce Covert’s recent post on The Nation’s website got me thinking today. It’s about an Accenture survey of Gen Y working women which found that
-they have the most positive outlook for women in the workplace of any other generation.
-when it comes to their careers, they… Read full post »
We’ve been hearing a lot about the ambition gap lately: the fact that, as Sheryl Sandberg notes, only a paltry 15 to 18 percent of women occupy the top spots.Â But there’s a dirty little secret that impacts the number of women who ultimately become leaders, or who hope to ascend… Read full post »