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APRIL 11, 2009 7:33PM

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A couple of months back, I was killing time on the internet, and I saw something that caught my eye: "Springsteen to Tour with New Album". For the record, I love Springsteen. Have for years. I've seen him several times, and if I get the opportunity to see him live, I take it.

I called the Future Mrs. Wonderhorse. Ever since I moved out to be with her, we have made it a yearly ritual to try to see one big-ticket concert per year. A couple of years ago it was the Police, last year REM. This would be perfect.

"Hey," I said, reaching her at work. "Springsteen is coming. I want to see him".

"Sure," she replied. "When is he here?"

"April 10th."

There was a pause as I hear her checking her calendar. "Uh-oh. I have a show on the 10th, so I can't go."

My turn to pause. There was one of two ways this could have gone. Number one would be to say, "Oh well, that's too bad. Maybe we can catch him next time."

I chose number two.

"Springsteen is coming. I want to see him."

Luckily, the Future Mrs. Wonderhorse is a kind and loving soul and didn't hold it against me. She knows I'm a big fan, and I'm not one to treat myself to something like this on a regular basis. She said I should find someone else to go with and have a good time. And therein lie the problem. 

I've lived in Colorado for two years, and I don't have any close friends out here.

As I said, I moved to be with her, and you would think as a guy nearing 40, making new friends would be old hat. Sadly, that just isn't the case. Don't get me wrong, I have made friends since I've been out here, but not the tight bonds like I had back in Chicago. That's very understandable since most of my closest friends there were people I had known since college; people I had spent years and years with. So while I do actually have friends here, it's not quite the same. There's not that same history and we haven't had the time to develop our own shorthand yet. I had no idea if any of the new friends even liked Bruce. I asked one guy about going, and he said he would like to, but since tickets were somewhat pricey and he had an 18-month old kid, he thought he should take a pass, which I completely understood. Soon, the day the tickets were going on sale arrived, and I still had no one to go with. I logged on to the Ticketmaster website (don't get me started on those fucking criminals), and found the site for Springsteen in Denver. The box that read "Number of Tickets" taunted me in bold type. Fuck it, I thought. 

One, please.

Don't get me wrong - I love doing things by myself. I probably see the majority of films by myself, I've seen plays by myself, have even gone to a few weddings by myself. I do a lot of things solo, if for no other reason that our schedules don't always mesh up, so it doesn't bother me in the least to be a party of one. But a concert is somewhat of a different beast. Concerts are, by nature, a social animal. As someone who is fairly shy by nature (I know, I know. The guy with all the dick jokes is uncomfortable around people? Trust me, it's much easier when you can hide behind a laughing horse), this was going to be tough.  

I drove to the Pepsi center, Bruce blaring from the speakers. Found parking right away, and made my way to the arena. Now, in my head, I'm always about 21 years old, regardless of what I look like and however a 39-year-old guy is supposed to behave. I love art and theatre and culture, but a good fart joke will still have me on the floor. Naked boobs in a movie will always get my attention and appreciation. So, I'm standing in line waiting for the doors to open, and I look around. Who are all these middle-aged bald guys, I wonder, not yet grasping the ironic reality.

Doors open and I made my way in. I hadn't eaten all day, so I thought a $6 brat was about as good as I would do, but of course, I had to stop for a t-shirt for the Future Mrs. Wonderhorse. Finally, I grab a dog and a beer, and decide to eat out in the lobby and not take it all to my seat. I find an empty cocktail table and dig in. Soon, a guy and his wife come up and ask if they can share the table. "Of course," I say, and make room. Soon we're chatting and discover that he is from the same place in Colorado that I'm in. Small world. I finish up and head to my seat.

I find my aisle seat and am soon joined by my row-mates, a group of four who all came together. The woman sitting next to me turns and says, "Are you here alone?"

Oh shit, I think. 

"Yeah," I said. "My fiance couldn't come, and I didn't want to miss it, so I came by myself."

"That's cool," she said. "You can be part of my group." She then introduced me to everyone in her party, which was pretty damned nice of her. She asked if I had ever seen the band before, and I replied I had. She was a Springsteen virgin, had never seen him live, and I told her she was in for a treat. He's one of those guys that even if you don't necessarily care for his music, everyone should see live once. We chatted a little more, and it became clear that the show was about to start.

The lights began to dim, and a roar rose out of the crowd. Through the darkness, you could see the band start to take their places onstage. I looked around me, and saw thousands of people all screaming, clapping, and yelling their admiration, just like I was. I smiled as Bruce and company tore into "Badlands" and remembered: 

 

No one is alone on E Street.

 

 

 

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"I probably see the majority of films by myself."
Same here and prefer it that way actually.
Concerts are meant to be shared though.
Nice of the foursome to include you.
I'll put on "Nebraska" from my iPod in tribute.
Rated
Totally cool! Glad you are comfortable enough in your skin to attend alone rather than miss something you wanted to see.

Rated for the great story!
Very nice. Oddly, I prefer to attend concerts alone, though I enjoy Mamie's company when she's free.
I love that you didn't let your apprehension about going alone stop you from doing what you wanted to do.
good for you. back in teh day, i used to go everywhere by myself, but i was motivated by being a big 'ho. i'm so glad you were included. i went to a kathy griffin performance alone and this fag hag and her gays sat behind me and i tried to include myself but this bitch would have none of it. she would not include me or share her gays with me. it sucked. bad experience. comedy needs to be share too.

sorry for going on. and so happy for you. love lvoe lvoe
I bet it was worth it!
I'm filing this thought for future reference - next concert I want to see, I might go alone!
You're right...........no one is alone.....
From one tramp to another: I do a lot of things alone and find
the very same reaction as you did,it can happen anywhere, not
just at a Springsteen concert.
Ya jut gotta remain open to the possibilities. I'm glad you went.
Haven't see Bruce live, but I can't believe what that old bastard subjecting his body to at the Super Bowl show. He's GOT to be doing some HGR or somethin', man.

Nothing like the power of music -- especially live music. I was at the Whiskey in LA one night back in the 60's. It was a Monday, and there were maybe fifty people in the place including PR guys, managers, and girlfriends of the band. This band got up and started playing and absolutely blew me away; I sat there dumbfounded, thrilled and stunned. Who the fuck are these guys?

The marquee out front had said CTA, but neither me or much of anybody else had ever heard of them -- but me and the rest of the world soon would. Turns out they were debuting their first album that night, an album with songs like "Does Anybody Really Know What Time It Is?", "Beginnings", and "Questions 67 and 68".

Yeah, CTA was short for Chicago Transit Authority, and to their everlasting regret, the real CTA refused to let them use the name -- so the band shortened it to Chicago.
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Baby you were born to run.....into other fans at the Springsteen concert.
Great story. :)
The future Mrs. Wonderhorse gets a thumbs up from me!

Personally, I prefer to go to movies or concerts solo. Unless it is with friends who also *really* want to see whatever band or movie as I do.
I once bought a ticket to the New Orleans Jazz and Heritage Festival with the understanding that a friend of mine would do the same, but she pulled out last minute. It was the first Jazz Fest post-Katrina, so I decided to go anyway.

I'd done a concert by myself before, but a sixteen hour road trip and a weekend at a music festival are probably best done with company, FYI. I had a great time regardless, thanks to similarly friendly people I met at the hostel.

Rated for believing you'd have a good time regardless. At the end of every hard earned day people find some reason to believe.
good for the future mrs. STWH! sounds like you have an amazing woman and excellent taste in concerts :)
BGB - the 3 things my husband says make a good movie - blood, guts and boobs!!!

I'm a Jersey Girl, but I've never seen Springsteen live - perhaps someday. Good times!!!
I'm glad you had a good time :) We used to have a 4 season passes for a NFL team ... sometimes the hubs would go alone and hawk the 3 others to hot girls looking for seats and then become part of their party too ... ;0

rated for ironic reality!!!
I love that you went by myself. I've done a lot of things like that by myself and I always have fun. Too bad you didn't find a way to meet our OS Joe Cantwell who was also there. Fun that you got included in the group. This is why I love people. And...bring your fiance or not, but we're meeting up in Denver Thursday night to celebrate the OS 1st anniversary. Come! Come!
Now THIS was a Sheldon the Wonderhorse of a different color. I like it! No, you are not alone.
Since I married a chef, whose schedule is pretty much opposite of the entire rest of the world, I pretty much have to do most activities by myself including most major holidays. It sucks and I'm not quite used to it yet, even after six years. At least I have my daughter and a few friends.
Rated for relating.
Oh man. I can't tell you how much I enjoyed this. Reminded me of the Steve Martin movie where he went into the restuaraunt and said "table for one". . .

This is saying a lot---but this might be your best ever---and I am a regular reader.
Great post. Some people can pull off the solo good time and I am definitely one of them. I've been to many concerts alone and I always have a good time. I've seen Nas, Janelle Monae, Phish, Trey band, Destroyer, DBT, Isaac Hayes, Lauren Hill, Sigur Ros, The New Pornographers, Common, Ozomatli and others alone at one point or another. Not one was a bad expereince. I like going solo to NBA games, because you can get half price single seat Hawks tickets (about $35 for 10-25 rows back off the baseline) on the day of the game. I repeated this little number just last week. I always make friends at my solo events. Only one bad expereince: solo NASCAR at Daytona in July of '04. The race was cool (and I had a scanner to listen to the drivers and a great seat), but I ended up having to sleep in my car for lack of a DD (eight warm Busch tall-boys will do that). Can't make friends when the cars are too loud to allow any form of verbal communication.
oh, and has your shoulder recovered? My buddy went solo to Bruce at Giants Stadium a few years back (I couldn't make the overnight trip) and he complained for a solid week about fist-pump related soreness. (He also made friends on E Street)
I love Bruce and the whole band, and have for over 30 years, but sadly when I saw them here last year, the sound was cranked up so high it was painful even with earplugs in and I just couldn't enjoy it the way I did the other times I have seen him - including several years ago in the same venue. It wasn't normal rock concert loud - it was about 30% louder, just ear bleedingly loud and completely distorted his music.

Sadly, I had taken my partner K who had never seen Bruce and didn't know his music well and he said he literally couldn't understand what Bruce was singing, and I could tell he thought I'd seriously oversold the whole experience for him in advance.

So I won't see him again live unless it's an acoustic show or smaller venue (this was a large sports arena but sub stadium size). Should I mention I spent over $200 for the 2 tix?? It was heartbreaking, as well as ear splitting.
"baby we were born to pun"
I know what you mean about making friends gets harder as you get older. I moved West after a whole life in NYC, and its been an adjustment. That said, the friends I have made here are tight.

I am way impressed you saw the Boss by yourself, and love that the people around you made you one of their own. Wow.

Someday, someday I will write about meeting Bruce in a club way back in the day...
I saw him last year also. It never gets old, nor am I when I am there! Like you, we always try to have a set of tickets on the ticket shelf. After Bruce and Bon Jovi last year, we hit a drought. Some new-fangled band is on the agenda for next weekend - Nickleback? LOL My guy and my friends are a little younger than me.
this is wonderful.