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AUGUST 16, 2010 7:53AM

The Rejected: Mad Men, Season 4, Episode 4 (Commentary)

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Imagine…your financial future is in the hands of a roomful of 22 year old girls. ~ Freddy

Not mine. ~ Don

What do women want? On being asked Freud’s famous question a few seasons ago, Roger Sterling replied, “Who cares?”  In “The Rejected,” the question is considered by various women, with strikingly different answers:  Trudy wants (and finally gets) a baby, Joan wants an office of her own (that doesn’t double as an observation room), Allison wants Don to face the truth and show her some respect, Jane Siegel doppelganger Megan wants to be able to read a book instead of acting like a dumb receptionist, Dotty wants to be taken more seriously than her name suggests, and Peggy – well, Peggy’s not sure what she wants, other than to keep exploring that very question.

By the mid-1960’s, Freud’s question was also one that advertisers couldn’t afford to ignore, as women increasingly became the decision-makers in buying consumer products – as well as in directing their lives. Yet even with this power, women seem far more susceptible to the fears that all advertising preys on.  (As I once saw an ad man put it in a frank article about his profession: “All advertising boils down to: ‘You suck. Buy this.’ ”) Whether being manipulated into buying household products to make their lives easier and please their families, or beauty products to help them find or retain love, women have continued to be a literal gold mine of insecurities for advertisers and their clients.

Girls, find your places. ~ Joan

While SCDP continues to rely heavily on a very manly product, Lucky Strike cigarettes, to make its monthly nut (unfairly billing the company for most of their overhead), new cigarette ad guidelines prohibit them from using athletes or any type of camerawork “that makes the smoker appear superhuman,” which suggests that marketing to men involves a heroic approach. This provides a sharp contrast with the prospective campaign for Pond’s cold cream that Peggy has come up with, suggesting it as a beauty ritual that allows women to stare at themselves in the mirror without feeling vain, a preview of the self-reflection that will become prevalent in the late 60’s and 70’s. 

How the hell did this get so sad, so fast? ~ Freddy 

But  Peggy is apparently ahead of her time, since the agency’s research instead supports Freddy’s old-fashioned concept of marketing the cream as a way to land a husband. His unexpected ally is Dr. Faye Miller, who runs a focus group with SCDP’s young unmarried secretaries that ends up as a cryathon worthy of Oprah during sweeps week, as not-really-Dotty unloads about the boyfriend that dumped her, and Allison flees in tears over the callous way Don has treated their sofa-sex.  Playing like the Cliff’s Notes of a grad seminar on the effect of the male gaze on women’s psyches, it relies on lines like Dotty’s, “I feel like it doesn’t matter what I see, it matters what he sees” to make the point that women are trapped by gender expectations, especially in regard to appearance.  And appearances do have a large role to play in this episode, including when they are deceiving.

No matter how late I come, I’m always waiting for someone. ~ Peggy  

That includes Peggy’s misread of the weepfest, when she tries to reassure Allison that many people (“even grown men”!) break down and cry in focus groups.  She gets a major misread back, as Allison says she knows that Peggy must have gone through the same hell she is.  Shocked to realize that Allison (and thus probably others in the office) assume she’s slept with Don, Peggy immediately distances herself by declaring, “Your problem is not my problem,” before callously adding, “And honestly I think you should just get over it.”  While Peggy certainly doesn’t want anyone thinking she slept her way from secretary to copywriter, she seems even more horrified at the idea of being a sob sister, weak and weepy over a man, having gone to great lengths to avoid traditional "women's problems."

From giving her baby away to pursuing a traditionally male career to resisting marriage, Peggy has consistently been defined as a woman unlike her contemporaries – which has predictably resulted in the women in the office shunning her (while the men have come to accept her as an equal). Stuck in a no-woman’s-land, Peggy has yet to meet her equal, either male or female, but that changes in “The Rejected” – a word that she observes on a pink slip clipped to a folder, allowing her to strike up a sympathetic conversation with the young woman in the elevator who’s wielding it.  Notably, they bond not over the traditional female rejection arena (romance) but Peggy's comfort zone (career).  After clearing up that she’s not the one rejected for artsy photos of female nudes, Joyce literally gets Peggy’s number and stops by to invite her to a “I don’t even know what to call it” event downtown. The unnamed and uncategorizable happening is our first clue that Peggy’s about to go through the looking glass, into an alternate world that evades common definition, a world that she’s longed for without realizing it.  Here pot is easier to get your hands on than beer, art is revered and commerce is shunned, and both girls and boys find Peggy fascinating and attractive.

Peggy: I have a boyfriend.

Joyce:  He doesn’t own your vagina.

Peggy:  No, but he’s renting it.

Hit on by both genders, the “swellegant” Peggy doesn’t seem to mind getting dissed by Not Andy Warhol, the artist whose nude photos intrigued her, and whose sacrilegious, non-narrative but “rhythmic” film she finds more interesting than she expected -- even though she’s Catholic. (Catholics do set great store by rhythm, after all.)  While Not Andy Warhol disdains Peggy for defining herself as a writer even though she only does advertising and insistently asks her what else she does, a far cuter fellow and fellow writer, Abe, provides a sweet mix of avant-garde politico (having covered a boycott in Harlem) and old-fashioned boy (who says he wants to kiss her rather than just grabbing her).

Who hates nudes? ~ Joyce

Abe is tantalizing as a match for Peggy (at least to have some experiences she hasn’t had yet), but it’s unclear how susceptible she is.  She takes the lead in kissing him and seems enamored of her new social scene, but subsequent developments with Pete cloud the question of what Peggy really wants – as does her toying with Dr. Faye Miller’s wedding ring during the focus group.  But then Dr. Faye is her own bundle of contradictions – a high-powered professional and verbal straight-shooter who can stand toe-to-toe with Don but who also plays manipulative games in order to gain other women’s trust, and a psychologist who feigns sympathy for feelings only to ask, “Who?” when someone worries about one of her tearful subjects. She has no qualms about recommending a campaign to sell cold cream by making a (pun alert) “veiled promise” that it will lead to matrimony, although she’s cavalier enough about marriage to shed her wedding ring as an unwelcome distraction in her client work.

You stick your finger in people’s brains and they start talking, just to be heard. It has nothing to do with what I do and it’s nobody’s business. ~ Don to Faye

Don not only rejects her campaign idea as “hello 1925” but disdains the idea that past behavior predicts future actions. (Gee, why would he kick against that notion?) While Dr. Faye protests that she can’t change the truth, Don considers that maneuver child’s play. He’s confident that in the hands of near-geniuses like him, advertising can – and should – shape opinion rather than reflect it.   Of course, his entire life as we know it has been about precisely the alchemy of making something true that isn’t, as well as vice versa.   Following in the footsteps of Betty, Rachel, Midge and countless other women, Allison tries to enlighten him that pretending aside, “This actually happened,” punctuating her point with a nicely flung tchotchke in her anger at his suggestion that she write her own recommendation letter and he’ll put his name to whatever she says.  Of course, when your name is a lie, this isn’t really much of an offer, but even without knowing his secret, Allison is furious at his inability to say anything genuine regarding her, even professionally. She leaves with the intent to work for a woman boss, presumably to avoid this caddish behavior, but the retrograde sliminess of Dr. Faye reveals that other women aren’t a panacea – sisters will have to do it for themselves.

I’m gonna need a new secretary and this cleaned up. ~ Don to Joan


 

Conflict.  Peter, I’m familiar with the term, you use it all the time. ~ Trudy

But then so do men. In a strand that mirrors and reverses Peggy’s before joining it, Pete learns that he’s going to be a father, news delivered by the father-in-law he’s just been told to dump as a client, since Clearasil is in conflict with Pond’s cold cream. (Isn’t adolescence always in conflict with aging?) Pete initially has trouble making the transition from pseudo-adolescent dependent on his father-in-law’s largesse, but fatherhood literally makes a man out of him. Using the leverage of providing a grandchild to push his father-in-law to hand over $6 million in business for the Vick’s chemicals account, including Vaporub (those free samples will come in handy once the kid is born). 

Tenderly bonding with Trudy, genuinely touched and proud to become a father and bringing in a huge amount of new business, Pete seems to be riding high.  He even makes peace with his old nemesis, Ken Cosgrove (who conveniently indicates he’s not happy in his job, paving the way for his character to join SCDP). After clearing the air over insults that Pete may have slung  (with gossipy, jealous Harry being the obvious conduit of information), they exchange their respective good news, Ken’s being his upcoming marriage to the daughter of a corporate CFO. The ever-cheerful Cosgrove, while admitting that he’s only “floating along laterally” at his current job and would prefer to be a slave to Don Draper’s creative wizardry than to “some old fart” as he is at Geyer, also reminds Pete that their personal lives are “all that really matters” – an idea Pete finally seems mature enough to entertain. Going all gestalt-y, Cosgrove laments the endless chasing of huge clients, a pursuit which yields just “a bunch of little pieces” and not the great white whale of a deal that all agencies hope for. “Look how lucky we are,” he intones before adding, “Another Campbell.  That’s just what the world needs.” And slightly reframed, we viewers can agree – what this world needs is another version of Pete Campbell, one who’s matured past the whiny complainer stage.

Are you in there? ~ Lane to Pete

Like Ken, Peggy seems to have forgiven Pete, but still takes the news of Trudy’s pregnancy hard.  Having put on a brave face and walked to his office to congratulate him, she returns to her own to bang her head on her desk, a desperate gesture that raises questions only heightened by an exquisite silent scene at the end of the episode. Having been summoned by new friend Joyce to have lunch with the gang from “downtown,” Peggy passes Pete in the reception area greeting his new corporate clients. Separated by glass doors, they turn and exchange a long look, passing a message that only the two of them can read. Beyond the emotional connection, we see their divergent paths:  Pete choosing the adult world of marriage and family, conservative corporate life and playing hardball (even with his father-in-law) to get ahead; Peggy choosing the adolescent world of experimentation and exploration, in the realms of drugs, sex, art and politics. Pete looks for all the world like the establishment, a suit stuck in a corporate waiting area, and Peggy the rebellion, entering the 60’s as she leaves the office to go out and explore all the world has to offer.

“Did you get pears?  Did you get pears?” Did you get pears?” an elderly man plaintively asks his wife in the final scene. Has anyone in this show gotten the pair they wanted?  Pete and Trudy seem genuinely happy together, and Peggy has not only met a man who might be her equal, but finds herself an accepted part of a peer group at last – that substitute family that began to replace the nuclear one in the 60’s.  But Don is still stumbling home drunk (looking like Sam Spade in his fedora as he tries to type Allison an apology note but stops when it descends into rationalizing his behavior) and passing out on his couch alone.  Sometimes the handsome guy who seems to have everything going for him is the rejected (not to mention the dejected) one, while the smart unusual girl that everyone made fun of ends up being popular and happy, after all.

 

Nothing else good happened. ~ Freddy

 

 

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You do these so well, Silkstone. Anyone who lived through it knows the hair in that top pic isn't right. Too much Bumpit going on there. Clearasil. Ah, now that takes me back. I can smell it, feel it cracking on my face. remember the horror.
I've always seen Peggy as the hero of this story , since ultimately, her generation is much more the fulcrum of change in the sixties. Don IS being passed by. There's a parallel between Don's arc and Tony Soprano, struggling to remain relevant in dangerous times, though I see no "Peggy" equivalent in The Sopranos (she's certainly not Christopher). I still expect Peggy to be the Last Woman Standing, boss of her own agency.

Does the "superhero" pitch to men really just day the same thing, dressed up in a cowboy hat: "you suck buy this" [so you too can be a super hero]?
Great analysis, as usual. You had to be a Lit major, and would be a great Lit prof.
Gotta disagree with Kathy about the hair. Mine was teased so high in those days it looked like the top of a pineapple. Peggy 's looks moderate to me.
I have to say - opening my home page, with Big Salon as one of the content providers, and seeing your post featured there made me so darn happy! Now - should I read it or wait until I watch the episode tonight? I'm going to give in and read it. Congrats on being featured this way!
After hearing and failing to understand where "did you get the pears" line last night I could not wait for this review to get a clue. I am going to watch that scene again concentrating on the couple. I love these reviews.
So Heather's on vacation? Whatever. You deserve to be there.
I have a slogan for you (Am I channeling Don?) "Nelle Engoron: Making American TV watchers feel smart, since 2008". I did my own anecdotal focus group for that one: I always feel much smarter the second time I see an episode, after reading your posts.
Great analysis, as usual. Thank you for this.

Just a question, do you think Allison's comments to Peggy implying she had slept with Don could be meant to apply to Pete. Didn't Peggy succumb to his late-night, boozy sexual advances only to be met with his nonchalance and oblivion. And, Peggy and Pete's rendevous again was followed by the same sofa-sex scenario Allison too endured. It seems Peggy's "misreading" of words that very much apply to her and as the situation with the baby would indicate - both hers and Trudie's - and frustration over them are signs of lingering unreloved feeling and a lack of closure. It seems that no matter how liberated or free or independent, a hard cold truth is that women exist in the inescapable context of men...and given this, the scenarios we find ourselves in and the emotions we have over them are inherent in the struggle of our sex.

I could be way off base here but just wondering what people think....
sorry, I meant:

"and her frustration over them are signs of lingering unresolved feelings and a lack of closure."
these are the best recaps of this series i've seen, here or elsewhere. i'm a recent fan (all caught up now) of the show. and your posts. thanks for doing them.
Silk, what did you make of Peggy sneaking a peek into Don's office through the transom glass? what was that about?

In an interchange between Campbell and his father in law, the FIL calls him a bastard (something like that) and Pete pours a drink and shrugs. I thought that whole scene was Pete imitating Don, taking on Don's persona - what's your take?
Hi folks! FYI, as some have noticed, this recap is also up at "big" Salon where I'm subbing for Heather Havrilesky, who is on vacation. But you guys get the interpolated quotes, which didn't get carried over there! (And interestingly, I chose a picture of the women and they went with one of Pete.)

Kathy, by the time I used it, they had the "invisible" Clearasil but I well remember seeing my older sister with dried daubs on her face at breakfast as a teen. That stuff was gruesome.

Brian, I also think of Peggy as the hero (and she is by far the most interesting character to me) and agree they are positioning her as "the fulcrum of change." But it's a nuanced position in that she isn't a cliche of the times and will never turn radical, so it will be interesting to see the societal changes refracted through her as she maintains her corporate career. As for the ending you envision, has there ever been an ad agency headed by a woman? I honestly don't know but haven't heard of one, and Weiner is a stickler for historical accuracy, so doubt he'd rewrite history that much. The superhuman thing (a la the Marlboro man etc) doesn't seem to fit the "you suck" model -- unless you consider that men are supposed to feel inferior by comparison and therefore want to buy the product to be more like that superhuman. Which is precisely how many products are sold to women, too -- by presenting a model woman they will feel inferior to in some way, but who owes her superiority to the product being sold (whether it's shampoo or floor wax).

Thanks, Lea. Yes, I had to be a Lit major - I couldn't help myself! Glad all that education has paid off. And I agree that Peggy's hair is mild. Kathy, check out pix of Priscilla Presley in that era! Or, well, a lot of women. The amount of teasing that went on was scary as hell (it looked painful to me as a kid, since I hated having tangles combed out of my hair).

Thanks, Aim!

Dorinda, that couple really did stand out. We have seen few elderly people on MM (Betty's father being an exception) and they also seemed to me urban "types" that served other purposes as well, such as conveying the life that Don has now in a rather dingy apartment where others also lead sad lives, including a suggestion that it's a dead-end, last stop kind of place (altho the nurses live there, too). Also, it is a female dominated couple, with an impotent-seeming male -- Don's worst nightmare!

Steven, your compliments are always the cherry on my sundae of recapping MM. thank you. I actually think Heather's recaps are "swellegant" (just as Peggy was last night); we just have different styles and insights.

Roxy, thanks! And that's a great catch that while Peggy never slept with Don (which is clearly what Allison is assuming and talking about), she did sleep with Pete and endure his callous behavior so Allison's comment "reads over" onto that choice. As far as how she feels about Pete now (and vice versa), last night did throw me a bit. I had felt convinced she was "over" him (especially since I never got why she was "into" him) and initially thought the baby thing was just upsetting to her because it reminded her of what she went through (and like her role model Don, she prefers not to think about the past she's left behind). But then it went a step further with the head banging and the long look at the end to suggest she still has feelings for Pete. It makes sense, plot-wise, for the show (it ratchets up the emotional drama) -- I just hope it doesn't get soapy on us. I liked a Peggy who had moved on.

Femme, thanks!

Gabby, I mostly thought the Peggy transom thing was a comic element - and it made me laugh out loud (as did the exchange with Don and Joan in that same sequence). I think you could layer all kinds of meanings onto it - that Peggy really sees Don, seeing into him in a way other people don't (including, but not only, because she knows things about him such as the Bobbie Barrett drunk driving episode) because of having closer access to him (and not just the office next door) and/or that it shows Peggy's curiosity and boldness, which have gotten her this far and will take her further, both personally and professionally, or that Peggy has vision...well, I could go on. Or maybe it was just a funny idea that the writers came up with.

And yes, I think Pete was partly channeling Don, although I think Pete's witnessed a lot of hardball negotiating in his time from other people and has plenty to model himself on. He has seemed capable of similar behavior before this, but not with his father-in-law, who had him over a barrel due to the twin bonds of family and work obligations. As Trudy says in the lead-up scene (thus giving him permission to go after her father), Pete (and the agency) needed him before and now they don't, so Pete can stop sucking up and stand up to him. I think that's the bottom line. The beauty is that Pete takes a client dismissal and turns it into a healthy chunk of new business. That's a lot more impressive than just having the courage to dump his FIL as a client.
Great analysis Nelle.

The presentation and interaction of female gender roles was so front and center that it was not until the second viewing that I noticed equal, but more reserved, presentation of male gender roles in 1965.

The most obvious was the interaction between Pete and his father-in-law. This was a classic alpha male struggle which ended with the father-in-law muttering "son of a bitch" at Pete, and Pete replying with a grin.

And that grin was the same grin flashed by Don when he replies to Freddy's "Imagine…your financial future is in the hands of a roomful of 22 year old girls' with a smug grin and "Not mine."

Pete, Harry and Ken are meeting for lunch. A group of young Turks on the make for the next best thing with little or no loyalty to their companies. Harry had earlier pointed out to pete that they were all up and comers. Even Pete and Ken have their alpha dog sniping before dinner.

Earlier, Lane had been dismissive of Pete becoming a father. By the end of the episode, Pete is standing among the old men in suits, as a made man. He and Peggy smile at each other. He has gotten what he wants, and she is getting what she wants.

All the partners at SCDP stealing from Lee Garner (just desserts for the Christmas party?). BTW, I'll bet Lee Garner never once thought about getting Don into the Santa suit.

Even at a "I don't know what to call it" event there is some alpha dog sniping. There are the sharp elbows between Abe and Not Andy Warhol.

And of course, there are more references to the fact that there is really only one alpha dog in this series - Don Draper. Even wounded over the loss of his family and drinking like a fish, Don is the top dog - period. And everyone konows it. Even people who don't work at SCDP, such as Ken.

Allison finally tells Don something like, "You are not a nice person." Well, hell no, he is NOT a nice person. In the man's business world of 1965 (and now?), it is eat or be eaten.

So, there was the classic Weiner moment of Peggy peeking through the glass at the top of the wall. Earlier, she (and the rest of us) had peeked into the lives of the world of women, circa 1965, and its ugliness. Now, she (and the rest of us) is peeking down through the glass ceiling at the top of the world of men, circa 1965, and its ugliness. She is fascinated.

Weiner has pushed the dynamics of the man's world into the background of the story, but it serves to highlight and contrast the dynamics of the women's world wich is front and center, and in the spotlight.

A couple other comments.

I swear the "Did you get the pears?" scene was an homage to David Lynch.

One of the best-worst lines of the night was by Pete's father-in-law, "$1000 if it's a boy. $500 if it's a girl."

The reference to to the murder of Malcom X places this episode in the first week of March.
Nelle, congrats on being in "Big Salon," and while I do like Heather's style (she's given me several laugh-out-loud moments) and enjoy most of her insights, I think you're the undisputed champ of Mad Men commentary.

Good catch on the "did you get pears?" thing -- by both you and Tennessee Catfish. Interestingly I thought that when he was observing the old couple, Don just looked lonely.

Actually your commentary and Tennessee's serve as an excellent "point, counterpoint" of this episode. It wasn't easy being a woman in 1965, but it wasn't all that easy to be a man, either. But I guess being human never is.

This season takes place in what was my junior year of high school; I wasn't thinking about Vietnam too much, but I was pretty involved in Civil Rights and knew about the remnants of the McCarthy era. Historically, this season resonates with me more than previous ones, because I was almost really there. And I had the exact sweater that Peggy wore to the downtown "I don't know what to call it," only mine was a heather lavender and blue stripe. I think I wore it with a grey box pleated skirt. The sweater was probably made by Villager or Bobbi Brooks, but it could also have been Jantzen, who made sweaters as well as bathing suits if I remember.

I was struck by Abe, as the rich white kid playing at being a radical --went to jail after a boycott in Harlem, but his sister bailed him out. Again I wondered at how people much younger than I could zero in on so many of the characters of the era. In any case, I'm glad to see our little Peggy being exposed to a different life style. I suspect she's always been a little hipper than we thought; after all, she knew who Bob Dylan was, two seasons ago and really wanted to see him. She is a fascinating character, multi-faceted and not always either empathic or in touch with her own feelings. One of the questions I was left with after this episode concerned her hitting her head on the desk. It seemed an odd gesture to me, one usually used I think when one does something stupid and knows it.

Regarding Peggy's hair, I think it's teased just about the right amount for a business woman of her time. I slept on rollers every night and used about two large cans of Aquanet a week, and couldn't achieve much more pouf than she has.

Speaking of puzzlements, I was a little surprised when Pete's FIL called him a sonofabitch or a bastard when Pete proposed taking over Vicks' drug business in exchange for dropping Clearasil (which fortunately, I never used but was a flesh color that resembled no one's flesh color). I would have thought that Old Tom would have admired Pete's chutzpah. I do love to see Pete growing; who woulda thought that he and Trudy would become one of TV's all time cute couples, but they seem to be on their way.

And speaking of chutzpah, has anyone else noticed that Harry's conversation is now peppered with Yiddish words -- I guess from spending so much time with TV people in L.A.. I have a friend, who calls Yiddish the universal language of show business.

Nelle, I knew right away you were a Lit major -- takes one to know one, I guess, and I, too, would love to sit in on one of your classes or even be in a book club with you.
I do not know what I look forward to more: Mad Men episodes or you analysis the following day! I think things are starting to happen. I am watching with my significant other and he has joined the party late and only watched episodes with limited commercial interruptions. When you see the episodes one right after another the action seems to build faster. Well, on to my point:

I came of age in the late seventies/early eighties and just a little later that the show. I was closer to Sally. In this, however, I identify with Peggy. I actually refused to learn to type because I refused to become a secretary. I spent most of my working life in male dominated positions and I was always more comfortable with the guys than gossiping with the girls. I also flirted with the edgier people while still being very straight laced…it worked for me! Anyway, I understand Peggy and her responses…how well this series captures moments!
Just fabulous commentary. You picked up on threads I didn't see--I didn't think of that connection between the Lucky Strikes male- oriented ad and Ponds et al.

I think Peggy is wonderfully drawn as a "fallen away" Catholic trying to find a place--as one myself, I can say that being in the Church is like being in a cocooned culture--you know your place, eveybody else does too! She is feeling that marvelous freedom of breaking away, but also the pull of the life she has seen, is seeing, of her family, colleagues. The conflict over the child she gave away. But she knows marriage isn't a panacea either. She is drifting a bit, but enjoying the ride, at least sometimes.

I would love to see her Mom's reaction to Joyce et al!
Fantastic episode. Men do what they want and get away with it. Women get fucked and fucked over.

I don't se Peggy as a heorine in that the story is concieved in such terms. She's smart. She makes mistakes and learns from them. She tries to do the decent thing -- like going to congratulate Pete rather than just sign the card. And what does she get? He no more remembers that he knocked her up that Don remembers that he fucked his secretary.

Said secretary clearly has the word "LOSER" emblazoned on her head in big red letters.

Peggy, meanwhile gets hit on by a Patricia Highsmith wannabe, and survives. But as for the rest of her life and career it's up for grabs.

This show is BRUTAL!
I hope they keep your wrap-ups on Big Salon. They are incredibly good. How many times do you watch the show to get such detail?
Congrats on being posted on the main Salon. And while that's nice of you to compliment Heather as you did earlier, your recaps are in a whole other league of writing and insight. Actually, they are the best MM recaps anywhere.

There was one small thing from last night's episode that made me gasp but it seems no one else thought much about it, and that is when Don took the photo that Anna sent him and put it out openly on his desk. Even if it was in a place where most could not see, I was still blown away by that comparatively daring move that could potentially trigger questions. In any previous episode, Don would have hidden something like that instantly.

And as someone who's obsessive about Warhol and the 60s NYC downtown/art scene, I was thrilled to see Peggy out at the happening. I figured that it would have to play out in Mad Men in some way at some time.
Actually if that was supposed to be a Happening it wasn't a particularly intereesting or ambitious one. The film he was screening looked like bad Stan Vanderbeek.

And cops raided not for pot but for "Flaming Creatures." That film was nothing like Jack Smith's classic.

It would be interesting to see Peggy at the Silver Factory. Maybe those german gay guys from last season could take her. Or better still, Sal.
Nelle: Just watched it Enjoyed it. Just some ramblings here ...Peggy has always been so central to my interest in the show so I like the episodes where she goes on a discovery. Up or down the rabbit hole so to speak. Branching out a bit. The whole focus group thing was unnnerving. I think Don actually has some remorse for hurting Allison...he's hitting the bottle too heavy for affirmative action on anything. Pete's on his way up. Why do I so feel it so temporary ... Great analysis as usual. Congrats on the Big Salon post.
Love all the comments - it's great fun to have a dialogue about this show!

Tennessee, I agree that the show really delves into male gender roles and power plays as well. There's a film from the 90's that I really liked called "The Company of Men" that covers that topic in a powerful way -- you start out thinking it's about how men mistreat women, but as it goes on, you realize it's about how men treat other men. Harrowing. I love your calling Pete "a made man" - perfect! (wish I'd thought of that.) Good thing there wasn't a crow nearby (Sopranos ref). And yes, on the eat or be eaten -- that's precisely how Bert Cooper says he was raised towards the end of last season in one of my favorite lines of his. The pears scene did feel a bit Lynchian and surreal, although I'm not sure that was the intent. And thanks for the date reference -- I didn't look it up. (There's always more detail in any episode than I can cover without being tedious.) I was a bit surprised that Peggy hadn't heard of Malcolm X (I think of her as being tuned into news and culture) but I don't know how well-known he was in white culture at that time (at least before his death). I thought fairly well-known, but maybe not.

Adele, loved your "I was almost really there" (aren't we often "almost really there" in our lives, or at least in the historical moments they take place in?) and all the details of that time that you lived through and recount. 2 cans of Aqua Net a week - mein gott ! That company must have made a fortune in those years. I agree with your comments about both Abe and Peggy. I don't know if Peggy's "hip" or something far more interesting -- I think she's genuinely open in certain ways that most people around her are not, which is even more surprising given how she was raised (strict Catholic etc). Of course it's not unusual to rebel against parental strictures, but with her it feels not like rebellion but true exploration. That's what makes her so intriguing. I think Pete's FIL's "son of a bitch" comment was in response to Pete standing up to him and actually engaging in a power play - -and winning. It was the equivalent of crying "uncle." Good catch on the Yiddish and Hollywood -- I noticed it but thought maybe Harry was "coming out" as Jewish (Crane being possibly one of those anglicized names that many Jewish immigrants took) but your explanation makes far more sense. He also had one of the most puzzling lines of the show -- ordering Caesar salad without the dressing. Isn't that like ordering a steak without the meat??

Fran, thanks! I did learn to type (and yes, was told it would provide job security) and was never sorry I did. I did have to work as a secretary (as I wrote about in my "I Was Peggy Olson" piece last season) but not for long. And with the advent of computers, knowing how to type became essential for everyone. I saw a lot of male execs struggling with that lack when computers became ubiquitous in business. So I've never been sorry!

MaryCal, I'm another "lapsed Catholic" (to use the old term) and I agree they do a great job portraying that particular mindset with Peggy. I love your summary that she is "drifting a bit but enjoying the ride" - exactly! I think she's learning to "go with the flow" as people will soon be saying.

David, I don't agree about Pete not remembering that he got Peggy pregnant. I think that knowledge was all over their scenes together this week. But I do agree that seeing more of that scene could be fascinating. I kind of doubt we will, but who knows....

Voicegal, I am not privy to advance screeners, so I watch the show in real time like other viewers. I do watch it twice through and take a lot of notes on dialogue. Then I write like heck for about 4 hours!

Thanks so much for all the very kind words, Various Artists! And great catch on how Don handled that photo - I actually missed it (a casualty of taking too many notes on my laptop while watching, no doubt). You're right that is a big move on his part, and an encouraging one for his mental health. I think it may only have been precipitated by Anna's prognosis, though, don't you?

Scarlett, thanks! And yes, I'm finding it verrry interesting to watch Peggy on her explorations. She's not a predictable character, so her reactions aren't, either.
I love this show. And I really enjoy reading your take on the subtext -- it rounds out the experience for me! Thanks for doing this!
What a great way to return from vacation. Two episodes of MM and two of you commentaries Nelle. And lest I forget, Alt-M[C]!!

I thought that Episode 4 was terrific, the best of this season. I'm glad that it is Peggy, my fave character, who is the first to take the step into the counter-culture. Plenty of ways this can develop. If she takes too big a bite of that apple it'll be tough to hold down a serious and promotable career in the corporate world.

The bit with the significant looks between her and Pete reflected, in my view, only the normal what-ifs. Let's say you had a significant relationship with someone, it's been over for a few years, then you catch them getting married or becoming a parent. And you work together. Even if you're happy with the course you're on, you're bound to reflect on the road not taken.

It sure was a stark contrast when the men were heading out for the power lunch while Peggy was exiting with the counter-culture proto-hippies.

When Don dresses down Dr. Faye, he was also sticking up for Peggy's idea. I hope he's getting a better appreciation for her talent. His was a great little speech.

And that clumsy offer to sign whatever Allison wrote - wholy believable. First, I think you have to allow for a common male ineptness when it comes to emotional sincerity, especially with a woman who now makes him uncomfortable. Second, I've seen this happen as recently as the 90s. Some bosses hate this work and fob it off if they can.

Last comment - I reckoned that Pete's FIL cursed him because he realized that Pete had him. A sense of a permanent shift in the power dynamics and now Pete has him having to shift all sorts of things at his (FIL's) office at the behest of his SIL, not that he can acknowledge that.

Great work Nelle. When is AMC going to give you the timeslot following MM so you can take your observations live?
Most of what I wanted to point out has already been discussed. So I will just leave it as a yes.

One scene that struck me hard was focus group scene. It opens up with Joan (in that lovely blue dress) pulling back the orange (ish) curtains. Such a nice contrast. I tend to over read these things. But it seemed that Joan was opening the world of women. Something I don't think Peggy could do. As it has been pointed out, she's not one of the girls.

Then we have the women. Dottie but not dowdy - who I hate to say this - looked like she was trying to be a table with that awful dress. She looked much older than she was. I was floored when she said she was dating. I thought she had been married for decades.

To her left, I forget her name, the French Extraction girl, looked so put together. Women communicate with their clothing (etc). French girl was shouting I am well put together. I deserve/demand your respect. Dottie, by contrast, was telling everyone to assume she was a piece of furniture - the ultimate blending into the background. After her boyfriend left her, she was going to let no one get close again.

Then we have Allison. She's not a fashionista like French girl but she looks her age. But then she ran to Don's office. By the time he got there, her hair was disheveled, her make up a mess. Even before she peeped (let alone threw the vase-thing), I knew she has completely lost control. Then she ran (clumsily) out of the office.

To think that her (or any of their) appearance was to convey one emotion or style is a gross oversimplification. She wasn't upset, she had lost control.
Pete vis a vis Peggy is not Don/Allison. Remember the scene at the end of 2/13 when he tells her he loves her and she tells him of the baby and of giving it away. He ends the epsiode cradling a shot gun! Those feelings are there and that baby is a huge presence in these scenes.
A few more quick thoughts.

Don did something totally out of character when he bedded Allison. He broke one of his cardinal rules when he mixed his professional life and his personal life. It came back and bit him big time. As some have commented, yes he can do whatever he wants to - but he can't get caught. This is why joan went out of her way to publicly discipline him with the senior aged secretary. She sent him to the corner to sit and think about what he had done. Maybe, she was also telling him something about the consequences of his drinking.

Don's personal life is a mess, and it is starting to bleed into the office. Even so, he and Joan are the only ones who seem to grasp what is coming. Joan decorated the new offices in a spot-on fashion that is almost ahead of its times. Don was the only person to disregard all the advice and all the testing, and see into the immediate future. He was the only one who looked through that two-way mirror and "got". (Maybe Joan too.)
Re: Malcolm X. I'm wracking my brain. As I recall, Malcolm X started to become well-known in the very early '60's. Even as the most devoted follower of Elijah Mohammed, white interviewers loved to have him on their shows, because he was obviously more than a mouthpiece, but a man with real intelligence.

When JFK was assassinated, Malcolm made a very famous statement about how the murder was just a case of "the chickens coming home to roost," (referring to the violence whites had always perpetrated against people of color) and he was banished from the Nation of Islam. That shunning was well covered in the media of the time, but I don't think the spiritual journey Malcolm then began nor all of the death threats he received were particularly well-publicized -- at least not in the midwest. I suspect, since Malcolm's mosque was in Harlem, New Yorkers knew more about him than the rest of the country.

In 1969, I graduated from college and went to work for the Illinois Department of Public Aid -- there wasn't much call for English teachers, and being a true child of the '60's, I thought I had to work at something that might at least help some people (whether it did, I'm still not sure). As a public aid caseworker and later as a child welfare worker (I parlayed my degree in English into an MSW) I worked primarily on Chicago's West Side -- think Baltimore of The Wire or Bedford Stueyvesant before gentrification. Daily, I looked at a tragic waste of human potential, and I've always thought one of the great "what-if's" of American history is what would have happened if Malcolm X and Martin Luther King had not been assassinated. But I don't think I knew what a terrible loss Malcolm was until after The Autobiography of Malcolm X came out,and I think that was either later in 1965 or perhaps 1966.
Whistlergirl, I agree. What occurred between Peggy/Pete and Allison/Don are not parallels. However, I do think that the during the initial days following the tryst (or whatever you want to call it) - Pete's attitude was similar to Don's (to deflect, minimize, carry on) while Peggy, like Allison, emotions ran the gamut from rapture to crestfallen. (Do you remember the scenes in the bathroom??) This is a sort of a universal, coming of age, somewhat traumatic, experience many women/girls (and men/boys) go through. Peggy just handled the situation differently (and perhaps better?) than Allison, which speaks to her fortitude. She is a stalwart; she is ot typical.

But I did feel the underlying presence of the baby throughout the episode. When Cosgrove says to Pete, "just what we need another Campbell in this world"....but alas, there ALREADY is another Campbell. Finally, and most poignantly, the prolonged, knowing glance between Peggy and Pete through the glass doors, as if the bond of the baby connects them despite literal and figurative barriers.

I know I am probably wrong here, but I can see Trudy having a miscarriage. With Pete's seed spread elsewhere, creating a gaping lie - a deceit, to keep with the motif - then , symbolically, this marraige can not be fruitful.
roxyastor that was an amazing point. Peggy's handling of being hit then quit by Pete not once but twice, proved again that she is not just "one of the girls". However, it also brought to light the sangfroid that she seems to share with Don. She did after all hit on Don knowing he was married and fell into bed twice with Pete knowing he was engaged and then married. Didn't seem to bother her. So she may not be a weak, whiny girl but is she really better off with all of the chauvinistic traits of her male colleagues that will have to be dealt with in the near future anyway? I find Allison's demanding to be acknowledged and demanding that Don own his douchiness more contemporary and empowering, especially knowing that she was blowing off her job by doing it.
As always Silkstone I enjoy your writing and insights, but I must disagree with parts of your analysis and offer up my own for consideration.
Peggy was not happy in the last scene; her gazing at Pete was clearly wistful, and it had been established that she was upset over Trudy's pregnancy and jealous. She is clearly fascinated by the world of the rebellion, but she will always be one of the rejected for that self-consciously anti-establishment hippies because her art, copywriting, is dismissed as being unartistic. Her practical stance towards her position in the world, evidenced by her answer to Not-Andy-Warhol's question about why he would work in advertising, that "you could get paid to practice your art", is completely at odds with the idealism and juvenile rebelliousness of the group. This awkwardness foreshadows an uncomfortable alliance between Peggy and the Hippies, and I feel that last glance at Pete is a kind of death knoll for parts of her dream, a goodbye to the life she had dismissed when she gave up Pete's child but now would like to have. Of course the great irony of the Hippie movement was how many of them turned out to be Yuppies a decade later, illustrating that the sex, drugs, and rock n roll revolution were a teenage fit that matured in middle age into a desire for a stable family and professional life. Pete has transformed himself from a sophomoric fratboy to a confident man with it all, and Peggy sees him now as her ideal husband. Dr. Faye's research conclusion, that after all women really do just want a husband, seems to be true of Peggy, who had admitted as much to Freddy. She does not want to be defined by that desire of hers and wants more out of life than the subservience of a wife, but nevertheless she cannot trick herself into believing that she doesn't want the kind of life Pete and Cosgrove are building for themselves.
The odd man out of this equation is Don, who rejects the idea of using the lure of marriage to manipulate his market, showing that as usual Don is light years ahead of his zeitgeist, even though he retains atavistic elements of the old culture. When he confidently declares to Dr. Faye that "you can't predict what people will do by what they have done in the past" he's declaring his ability, and thus humanity's ability, to move beyond the current social structures and create new kinds of interactions based on liberated desires. The deep irony here is that Don is helping to create a superficial world of vapid emotional connection based upon the short-term desires of the consumer just as he himself is more emotionally adrift than ever, drowning his sorrows alone each night and considering himself lucky to not have turned out like his neighbors, a vision of marriage turned to Sisyphean torment and ignominy. Weiner is describing a world coming to be, a world in which the individual's desires trump deep and lasting connections to others, a world in which the Don Drapers of the world take their pleasures where they can, and self-medicate when their desire for a lasting connection becomes problematic. I don't know that Weiner and Co are making a judgment about the beginnings of the dissolution of marriage, a trend that will come to see a majority of marriages end in divorce a few decades later. Here as elsewhere, the change is, to paraphrase Don, not good or bad, but merely is.
What ties these ideas together? Weiner and Co. make the overall thematic arch of the episode clear by their constant referencing of the links between business and personal life. The most obvious reference is the situation between Pete and his father-in-law, Weiner making the thematic tension clear by having Pete remark that their business and their personal relationship should remain separate. To name a few other instances of the dramatic intertangling of the personal and business : Don's personal slip in sleeping with Allison turns ugly in a very public way at his office; the young women in the focus group become quite emotional while getting paid for their opinions; Peggy can't separate her longings for a husband from the presence of Pete in her working life. These assorted instances of business life influencing personal life and vice versa run to the very core of what Mad Men has on its mind - the way that the commercial world reshaped personal relationships. Don constitutes the major link between the business world and the larger cultural zeitgeist of personal relations, as it is his ideas which push the boundary of what it is acceptable to desire publicly. This technique of advertising, to implant, (or is it to release?), desires in millions of unsuspecting consumers is solely motivated by business concerns, but the point Mad Men continually reminds us of is it can't fail to have effects on our identites and the way that we will relate to others. The Hippie generation that Don disdains is in some ways created by his kind of ideas. Advertising is all about satisfying the desires that constitute "me", not a far cry from the basic underlying premise of the hippie movement. That such recreation of the self leads to radical social change, to a world dramatically and irreversibly altered in the fundamental interactions, especially between men and women, is why Don Draper is a maverick, one of the rare individuals at any point in a culture whose ideas are truly iconoclastic. But lest we get carried away with the Myth of Don Draper, Weiner always takes time to remind us of some of the uncomfortable realities of this brave new world being created, a world where materialism trumps compassion, privacy trumps openness, and the selfishness of individualism leads to loneliness and self-medicating with the very products that began the cycle. As with all the arcs on the show, the central irony is that nobody ever gets precisely what they wanted. Is there any greater symbol of this then Don Draper? Sporting an immaculate suit, briefcase, and fedora, easing his anxieties with booze and cigarettes, stumbling home drunk and alone each night only to get up the next morning to radically reshape the zeitgeist by giving people what they think they want, Don Draper is beyond the counter-cultural revolution; he is the man of the future.
Great insights, Ryan. I completely agree with your overall take on Don, contray to some comments. Even with all the problems associated with the divorce,Don remains the lead dog at work and in this series.
Love these blogs. Thank you. I wanted to comment to the previous poster that said that Peggy could not hold a position of power. I think she will. I think she is loosely based on a woman named Myrna who wrote this article for Chicago magazine and was published last year.
http://www.chicagomag.com/Chicago-Magazine/August-2009/I-Married-a-Mad-Man/index.php?cparticle=3&siarticle=2#artanc
I finally watched this episode last night!

That scene with Peggy going out to lunch with her new "bohemian" friends, and Pete joining the "old boys club" was staged to beautifully - a real work of art.

And is it just me, or is an episode without Betty much more pleasant? ;-)
Finally watched this tonight and came right here to read your take on it. I so appreciate your insights-fun and fascinating, you catch so much that I never would.
Even though I am quite late to the party, I'm going to throw in my 2 cents about Peggy & Pete. I don't think the head banging was because she has feelings for him, rather I think she was flying high from her new adventure and then suddenly had to confront a dark moment from her past: oh yeah, I have a kid. and the father is down the hall. and now the kid is going to have a sibling. yikes, it's complicated.
I think she took the mature road by not just signing some card, but facing Pete, congratulating him and very subtly (with her expression alone) acknowledging he already is a dad.
Finally, the last look in the waiting area I took as a simple shared acknowledgement of their secret as each embarked on a different path: Pete with the old timers and starting a traditional family, Peggy off to explore and have some fun.
The thing about this episode that struck me is that almost all the characters are "rejected" in some sense and, like looking at the world through one of those giant multifaceted pieces of glass they sell at novelty shops, who is the rejector, and who is the rejected, changes time and again throughout the episode.

There are the obvious cases, of course, such as Alison. But she runs out on Don, rejecting him as well. And Don himself has been rejected by Betty, as well as, in his current drunken-lout state, by women in general. And the facets turn, and turn again.

But the one that struck me the hardest was the funhouse-mirror situation of Peggy and Pete. Peggy rejected her own child, and Pete rejected her. But Peggy overcomes this, swallowing her disappointment (whatever other emotions she must be feeling), congratulating Pete on his child and then, in the very final scene, with looks only, rejects the choices he has made, and goes out with her new friends/crowd/gang/what have you. Including Joyce, her new lesbian friend; a tacit rejection of the older roles and models on display on just the other side of the glass.

Who is the rejected, and who is doing the rejecting? We all are; we all are.