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JUNE 15, 2010 6:52PM

On Fire

So now we're in the home stretch.  C is coming home in one month, maybe six weeks.

And hey, our apartment caught on fire. 

What do you do when you wake up to your house on fire?  It happened to me, and I still don't know the answer.  In retrospect,… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 11, 2010 10:54PM

What It Ain't

Waiting on a deployed soldier isn't glamorous.  Civilian life continues, undaunted, in his absence, and it's doubly messy with only one person putting out fires.  Guess what?  The cat peed on the carpet, and I didn't check my mirrors when backing out and subsequently hit a mailbox.&nbsRead full post »

JANUARY 7, 2010 11:31PM

Supporting the Troops

I don't have yellow magnets on my car or wear camouflage ribbons, and I don't give money to the USO or write letters for Any Service Member.  I'm proud of my boyfriend's service in the Army, but I don't want to wear it on my sleeve, and I also recognize that… Read full post »

DECEMBER 28, 2009 9:16PM

Plus One

To everyone who has sent me an invitation to a wedding, party, dinner or other social engagement taking place in the next seven months:

I will be delighted to attend.  I'm so pleased you're getting married/having a baby/throwing a party/retiring.  Tell me where you're registered and I'll ge… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 10, 2009 11:41PM

Open Wounds

So my boyfriend, C, is deployed to Iraq.  He's been gone for almost 12 weeks, and I'm finally getting a hold on maintaining our life while he's gone, staying busy.  I started a second job, waitressing nights, to fill the time we used to spend together and to save for the… Read full post »

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SEPTEMBER 14, 2009 12:53AM

Does it get any easier?

I think I'm finally starting to get it.  It's the kind of thing that I tell myself over and over, without emotion, to cement the fact in my brain, and still I wake up in the morning thinking, huh?  Where is he?  My boyfriend is in Iraq, he has been for… Read full post »

AUGUST 27, 2009 10:14PM


On Monday, C and I woke up at 3AM and we got ready.  It was so early and I didn't want him to see me crying, so we didn't talk much.  It's hard to talk that early in the morning.  C looks different in his uniform.  I'd seen it before, so… Read full post »

JULY 20, 2009 12:12AM

Serving Your Country

I grew up in a liberal university town in a semi-rural county in a red state, and I still live there.  When American troops were first sent to Iraq in the spring of 2003, I was a junior in high school and I still remember the protests that were held atRead full post »
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JULY 8, 2009 5:53PM

How to get out of deploying to Iraq

My boyfriend is active duty Army, a specialist with a support battalion in the 82nd Airborne Division.  We've suspected for a while, but he finally got the orders last week.  He's leaving for Iraq on August 25th.  

 C joined the Army in September, 2004.  He served (almos… Read full post »