Wondering Who You Are

Our journey to discover what lies beyond who we think we are.


Seattle, Washington, USA
January 12
Sonya Lea
Sonya Lea works with entrepreneurs and artists to envision their wild lives. She has received three screenwriting awards, including the Nicholl fellowship (QF), and she has written for film, television, magazines and anthologies. She has also written a film about something we do not often have a window into -- what happens in a relationship after a brain injury. She lives in Seattle, Washington with her husband Richard Bandy. Contact her at www.sonyalea.net.


SEPTEMBER 10, 2013 10:37AM

Live Like Julia

Positano with the Big Man. I’m writing this in Anacapri, on a stone portico while my husband, Richard, and I watch hawks circle from the top of the chairlift overlooking heaven. When I received the invitation to “Live Like Julia (Child)” for a week, it was on the eve of… Read full post »

MAY 21, 2013 12:59PM

Stories We Tell

His mother on her wedding day to the man who is not his father 

In our 23rd year of marriage, my husband went into surgery for a rare appendix cancer and came out without any memory of our life. Internal bleeding caused a lack of oxygen to his brain, and the resulting traumatic brain injury destroyed his desireRead full post »

MAY 10, 2013 1:01PM

Not Your Mama's Mother's Day

Mother release, Natalie Maines

Years ago, I discovered that the ways I was mothering didn’t serve me any more. I wrote this manifesto, shared it with our children, my husband, and a few mothers. I answered a lot of questions from mothers. About how I could give up principles it… Read full post »

JANUARY 19, 2012 7:41PM

Girls Gone Wild

Photo by Graciela Iturbide, Angel Woman, 1979

     Feministing recently shared a girl’s precocious opinion via you tube, with the headline: “Thirteen year old badass on slut shaming.” Composed of diligent research, and quoting the founders of the “Slut Walk,” a protest that arose out… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 8, 2010 9:03AM

Hereafter, Awash In Shades of Grey

If only a character as strong as the great necromancer himself, Jacob Marley, had been written into Clint Eastwood’s tepid film HEREAFTER, then perhaps we’d care about the characters who live on the fringes of death. Instead,…

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FEBRUARY 16, 2010 8:25PM

Wild Tigress


On our recent pilgrimage to India, my husband chose an adventure that was one of his holy dreams – to go on a tiger safari in Rajasthan. He wanted to tour the national park, and sway his considerable luck toward sighting the near-extinct Bengal tiger. We had twenty-four hours…

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FEBRUARY 3, 2010 1:14PM

Wild Underbelly

Gutka vendor

Photo by Vandana Rajagopalan

Upon return from India,
I discover a new poison for our children

The Stain -- On the morning of the first bath of the Maha Kumbh Mela, when we had returned from the/… Read full post »
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JANUARY 28, 2010 10:30AM

Wild Death


  sadhu at Varanasi

The Buddhist’s Kashi. The Hindu’s Holy City. The citizen’s Banaras. Varanasi: the oldest city in the world, from the first millennium BCE. Named for the confluence of the Ganges with the old rivers, Varana and Assi, now the ghats known as the beginning and the… Read full post »

JANUARY 15, 2010 10:30PM

Bathing with Millions at the Kumbh Mela

Haridwar, Kumbha Mela

Photos by the BBC

On the day before we are to take the bath at the Kumbh Mela, we discover that the town’s security situation has changed. Our guide, Mr. Parikshit Joshi drives us around the site so we can see what we are in for. The main… Read full post »

JANUARY 9, 2010 10:31AM

Becoming Naked as a Kumbha Mela Pilgrim

Haridwar, Kumbha Mela

This morning I board a plane for Mother India. The notion of traveling to this exotic country began ten years ago when my Zen master, Shifu, also known as Dr. Kim Han Suk, suggested that India was one of those places I could clear my familial karma. Not just… Read full post »

OCTOBER 4, 2009 11:12AM

Wild Build Part Deux

Signs of autumn around here include pie pumpkins overflowing a basket, and blankets lying on chairs, and a pantry full of sauces, relishes, chutneys and jams. And sadly, the guys I have spent my summer hanging out with showing up just once or twice a week, while our construction project finishes… Read full post »

AUGUST 29, 2009 4:57PM

Building The Man Cave

The Wild Build started with a simple intention my guy and I set three years ago – to create a sanctuary in our basement for our friends and family. In January of this year the cash arrived, and by the spring we were designing the space on long walks at GreenRead full post »

AUGUST 12, 2009 11:25AM

Wild Encouragement

Art by Teesha Moore

 Art by Teesha Moore.

As part of my Wild Work, I pay attention to synchronicities. Words assert themselves into my life and tend to lead somewhere. In the past week, I’ve heard several people discuss concerns with ‘writer’s block.’ Last night, in my new writing g… Read full post »