As I walked along the neighborhood path this morning I listened. Red Winged Blackbirds trilled their mating calls. Thrush tweetereed from the tops of cottonwoods. Robins chirped. It seemed that the birds were on fire with mating and other noisy spring activities. I watched. Ants teemed around cracks… Read full post »

I'm glad to say that open marriage and polyamory aren't too far fetched in my daughter's world! We have not officially told her that we have an open marriage and that mommy and daddy sometimes have a boyfriend or girlfriend. But somehow it must be seeping into her soul.

A few… Read full post »

"To tell your doctor or not?" that is my question today.

Let’s say that you inform your doctor, in confidence, that you have more than one sexual partner—and plan to into the foreseeable future. In the past I've done this and I felt really uncomfortable. But I figured that she… Read full post »

Here's the year in review:

Hurray, I've written 18 posts and have 7 avid followers (thank you to my devoted fans). I consider my first year as a secret blogger to be a success. I haven't given it up by closing down my account and I've kept up a fairly steady flow… Read full post »

It’s not a new challenge—to find someplace to be intimate with a sexual partner. People probably have been looking for hiding places for this activity for eons—backs of caves, hiding spots in the woods or a stolen moment next to the watering hole. Most humans have a unique need for… Read full post »

It's not the first time I've had too much fun out with you, girlfriend!

With That Moon Language

by Hafiz 

Admit something:

Everyone you see, you say to them, "Love me."

Of course you do not do this out loud, otherwise someone would call the cops.

Still, though, think about this, this great pull in us to connect.

Why not become the one who lives… Read full post »

This topic has arisen on several occasions this week so I’ve decided to get my thoughts out there! When it comes to discussing what poly and open are and are not with the non-poly community, things can be tricky. I used to think I needed to really hammer hard on the idea… Read full post »

Hubby and I had heard about SwingSet—a Swinger’s club in our Fairy City ;--) years before. Some female friends of ours had almost gone a few times, but always chickened out. As single women they were worried about it being too hardcore and being pressured into sex. 

As a marri… Read full post »

The dancing got pretty hot in the basement club on the evening of his birthday. The music was fine and funny, the clientele mixed in age and somewhat diverse in sexual orientation. A bachelorette party mixed in with the rest of us. A few solo men tore it up. What they… Read full post »

It had been 8 months and 10 days since we had seen each other--our longest separation in our six years. Granted it was a mutually agreed upon separation--and a tough one at that.

As opposed to other rendezvous, there was trepidation before this one because I would be meeting with… Read full post »

I tried not to stare at the seven nude male backs I saw on their yoga mats as we entered the shadowy dungeon. Smells of wet concrete, sweat and years of torture accosted me and my two naked-yoga cohorts as we walked through the hidden rainbow door in the warehouse district.… Read full post »

I've started attending polyamorous meetup groups in my fine city. I'm fortunate to live in a large metropolitan area that offers such safe places to meet like-minded people.

My first meeting I was nervous--the usual new Kindergartner variety--fear of the unknown. Who would be there? Would I run into… Read full post »

I read Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha several months ago and want to give my review of it.

Overall the theme was very thought-provoking fascinating and right up my alley. As someone who identifies at polyamorous/non-monogamous/open, I n… Read full post »

This 7-year-old and still-accurate explanation of the reason for many of our holiday traditions strikes a chord with me this year.

 http://www.cannabisculture.com/articles/3136.html

I love that the author tries to explain Santa's big guffaw, "Ho Ho Ho" by comparing it to the laughter i… Read full post »

What is the big deal? People fall in love with someone else’s spouse every single day.  Marriages end in divorce 50% of the time. Even though we all know this, people still get married every day. So why is this story about two people who fell in love while married to… Read full post »

Although you might expect a person in an open marriage to have dealt with jealousy (and I would too). In actuality, it took ten years of that marriage and two to three outside relationships to actually face that green-eyed bastard head on. And I DO mean fucking bastard!

I was jealous when… Read full post »

Hubby and I decided long before marriage that we didn't want to do it like everyone else did. We both came from divorced families. We did not want to end up lying and being decieptful about our attraction to and relationships with others.

We both recognized and understood that one person… Read full post »

In honor of the pending greatest American holiday, focusing on gratitude and feasting, I'm starting my list a week early.  These are the tiny little gifts in my life that can truly make my day.

1) Walking my children to school

2) Yoga

3) First coffee of the day… Read full post »

The human heart has four chambers which fill and empty all day every day, for your entire life – essentially the ebb and flow of life. Think about that. First it’s full, so full, it overflows and must empty. Then it is empty, void of blood and it fills again with… Read full post »

My open marriage is pretty well-defined. We've been at it pretty seriously now for four years. Our first six years we were "open" without opening up to another.

 Now I have been a secondary relationship with someone for more than four years. For the first three or more he was married. After… Read full post »

Everyone has a blog, right? So I'm a bit late to the game. But I'm still in the game. I've held off because I'm just not certain that I really have something to say ALL the time. And really who wants to hear what I have to say all the time?… Read full post »