FEBRUARY 12, 2015 5:46PM

Polyamory in the News (Feb 2015)

As time hurdles onward, I seek out and appreciate all mentions of alternative relationship styles—non-monogamy and polyamory—ways in which people resolve the confining societal belief that someone must only love one other person. Here is a collection of three such bullshit-blasting storie… Read full post »

I awaken too early on Thursday—8:15 am after only 5 hours of fitful Ambien-induced sleep. I fall out of the side door of the minivan in my crumpled, worn last night skirt and bustle. I don my pink cowboy boots for a quick run of the 2 blocks to the port-a-potty.Read full post »

OCTOBER 25, 2013 5:26PM

Burning Man Lights Me Up!

LED-EL wire jittery lights recline strewn amongst dust-encrusted handmade stickers, ribbons, beads, a poker chip necklace and the coup de grace—a pair of stilts. Real, 3D things remind me that in fact it wasn’t just a dream, but instead a reality so far removed and unreal that words, pict… Read full post »

MAY 21, 2013 11:59PM


Blanket World is hot. It beckons us from the hatchback of my minivan. It taunts me when I open the back to fetch groceries.

Although we can enter it as we choose, we also must be in the right frame of mind. It empowers us to experience heightened awareness, enterRead full post »

MAY 24, 2012 6:01PM

Seeking Transcendence

As I walked along the neighborhood path this morning I listened. Red Winged Blackbirds trilled their mating calls. Thrush tweetereed from the tops of cottonwoods. Robins chirped. It seemed that the birds were on fire with mating and other noisy spring activities. I watched. Ants teemed around cracks… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 13, 2012 8:00PM

Casual Sex Serves Multiple Purposes

I read this great Psychology Today article titled "In Defense of Casual Sex" which really struck me as right on.

In his article, Stanley Siegel argues that the shameful depiction of reckless and addictive sex portrayed in the movie "Shame" is not the only interpretation of casual sex.

Sie… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 13, 2012 7:51PM

Barbies' Ken Is a Lucky Man

I'm glad to say that open marriage and polyamory aren't too far fetched in my daughter's world! We have not officially told her that we have an open marriage and that mommy and daddy sometimes have a boyfriend or girlfriend. But somehow it must be seeping into her soul.

A few… Read full post »

JANUARY 31, 2012 5:40PM

To Your Poly Health!

"To tell your doctor or not?" that is my question today.

Let’s say that you inform your doctor, in confidence, that you have more than one sexual partner—and plan to into the foreseeable future. In the past I've done this and I felt really uncomfortable. But I figured that sheRead full post »

NOVEMBER 13, 2011 6:22PM

Happy Blog Birthday Spaces Between!

Here's the year in review:

Hurray, I've written 18 posts and have 7 avid followers (thank you to my devoted fans). I consider my first year as a secret blogger to be a success. I haven't given it up by closing down my account and I've kept up a fairly steady flowRead full post »

It’s not a new challenge—to find someplace to be intimate with a sexual partner. People probably have been looking for hiding places for this activity for eons—backs of caves, hiding spots in the woods or a stolen moment next to the watering hole. Most humans have a unique need for… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 27, 2011 9:42PM

Oops--Did I Just Come Out to You at GNO?

It's not the first time I've had too much fun out with you, girlfriend!

 You started it early in the evening with your comments about that handsome gentleman's dimples. And I thought I was randy. Girl you put me to shame! Next it was our hot young lesbian server--we both agreed we… Read full post »
SEPTEMBER 10, 2011 2:16PM

Poetic Interlude

With That Moon Language

by Hafiz 

Admit something:

Everyone you see, you say to them, "Love me."

Of course you do not do this out loud, otherwise someone would call the cops.

Still, though, think about this, this great pull in us to connect.

Why not become the one who lives… Read full post »

This topic has arisen on several occasions this week so I’ve decided to get my thoughts out there! When it comes to discussing what poly and open are and are not with the non-poly community, things can be tricky. I used to think I needed to really hammer hard on the idea… Read full post »

JULY 30, 2011 12:18AM

Newbies on the SwingSet

Hubby and I had heard about SwingSet—a Swinger’s club in our Fairy City ;--) years before. Some female friends of ours had almost gone a few times, but always chickened out. As single women they were worried about it being too hardcore and being pressured into sex. 


As a marri… Read full post »

JULY 17, 2011 6:28PM

Kiss Her

The dancing got pretty hot in the basement club on the evening of his birthday. The music was fine and funny, the clientele mixed in age and somewhat diverse in sexual orientation. A bachelorette party mixed in with the rest of us. A few solo men tore it up. What they… Read full post »

JUNE 17, 2011 12:48PM

Upon Meeting My Lover's New Lover

It had been 8 months and 10 days since we had seen each other--our longest separation in our six years. Granted it was a mutually agreed upon separation--and a tough one at that.

As opposed to other rendezvous, there was trepidation before this one because I would be meeting with… Read full post »

I tried not to stare at the seven nude male backs I saw on their yoga mats as we entered the shadowy dungeon. Smells of wet concrete, sweat and years of torture accosted me and my two naked-yoga cohorts as we walked through the hidden rainbow door in the warehouse district.… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 25, 2011 11:19AM

Polyamory means OPEN

I've started attending polyamorous meetup groups in my fine city. I'm fortunate to live in a large metropolitan area that offers such safe places to meet like-minded people.

My first meeting I was nervous--the usual new Kindergartner variety--fear of the unknown. Who would be there? Would I run into… Read full post »

JANUARY 8, 2011 12:58PM

Sex at Dawn: Not poly enough

I read Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha several months ago and want to give my review of it.

Overall the theme was very thought-provoking fascinating and right up my alley. As someone who identifies at polyamorous/non-monogamous/open, I n… Read full post »

JANUARY 3, 2011 7:30PM

Green-eyed continued

In fact I became engorged with jealousy after my extra (M.E.) found an S.O.

I have been in a relationship with M.E. for four years now. I love that man. I love him so much that it truly does hurt me sometimes. It's not like I haven't analyzed why and how… Read full post »

This 7-year-old and still-accurate explanation of the reason for many of our holiday traditions strikes a chord with me this year.


I love that the author tries to explain Santa's big guffaw, "Ho Ho Ho" by comparing it to the laughter i… Read full post »

DECEMBER 21, 2010 7:46PM

Why does this love story hit a nerve?

What is the big deal? People fall in love with someone else’s spouse every single day.  Marriages end in divorce 50% of the time. Even though we all know this, people still get married every day. So why is this story about two people who fell in love while married toRead full post »

Although you might expect a person in an open marriage to have dealt with jealousy (and I would too). In actuality, it took ten years of that marriage and two to three outside relationships to actually face that green-eyed bastard head on. And I DO mean fucking bastard!

I was jealous when… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 19, 2010 1:12PM

Polyamory is about more than sex

Hubby and I decided long before marriage that we didn't want to do it like everyone else did. We both came from divorced families. We did not want to end up lying and being decieptful about our attraction to and relationships with others.

We both recognized and understood that one person… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 18, 2010 3:41PM

Life's little blessings

In honor of the pending greatest American holiday, focusing on gratitude and feasting, I'm starting my list a week early.  These are the tiny little gifts in my life that can truly make my day.

1) Walking my children to school

2) Yoga

3) First coffee of the day… Read full post »