Sparking My Own Evolution

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The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars... *************************************** -Jack Kerouac ***************************************


MARCH 2, 2010 2:46PM

These 5 Words: Settling the Soul

Kissing his breath of spirit

I cloak him in  fire sending his soul



Spitting on murderous graves

of innocence rapers sends me far



I will stay

I will stay

I will stay.

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FEBRUARY 27, 2010 2:08AM

Dear Me

Oh, dear me:

There are no words which will still the insanity of what you already have, and will continue to,  survive.  

I am sorry.  I am sorry you have had to endure the travesty of what will later be described as "being a child soldier in your own home." … Read full post »

FEBRUARY 26, 2010 1:26AM

Are We Death Managers?


Moon of Life



I have lost the ability to hold many I love to death's grip.   I didn't get to choose how any of them left this planet, but it felt the same each and every time-unearthing. 

Each loss shook a place inside of me which was fragileRead full post »

FEBRUARY 25, 2010 10:15AM

Gorgeous Suffering

I know many who are suffering through this recession.

The actor who is a spokesman on the Allstate commercials makes me cringe when I hear him voice the words "how will you let this recession define you?"

I want to know how he is showing up in this  recession… Read full post »


Greetings Open Salon!

This week, two of our beloved OS friends will be turning 60:  Trilogy and  Risa Denenberg! AND, upon getting the correct information , Dr. Spudman44 will be turning 59!


Please join me in wishing them a


Happy Birthday!

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Editor’s Pick
FEBRUARY 19, 2010 5:23AM

Bringing the Sexy Back to MBA

Cruising down the Interstate at seventy-miles per hour, I was juggling treats for my daughter Sunshine and looking at a map for my husband.  It is the stuff American women co-pilots are made of.  In the midst of getting the goldfish to Sunshine, after some weird, faintly electrical smell beRead full post »

FEBRUARY 14, 2010 1:12AM

I Didn't Hire a Husband

 Disclaimer:  I did NOT clear this post with  my husband before posting.

Good Wife & Good Husband


My family is pretty chill.

Nah let me rephrase.  My husband is pretty chill.

I am not.

I am not chill.

I am, however, incredibly stubborn.

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FEBRUARY 12, 2010 2:43AM

Snarky Sharky Valentine

If red is the favorite hue for this fanciful holiday, it is no wonder sharks consider it the highlight of their year.

Think about it.


What better to tempt a shark's heart than a complete feeding frenzy one day out of the year?  It is the coup`deRead full post »

While I never considered myself incredibly modest, I will say I was never the opposite of that either, whatever that is. 

I was one of the girls who "developed early."  What the hell kind of saying is that anyway?  What is "developing on time" exactly?  It always made meRead full post »

Editor’s Pick
FEBRUARY 4, 2010 2:15PM

Standing in the Schoolyard Screaming

Her hands are clasped over her ears as she stands in the middle of her seven and eight year-old peers screaming for them not to go. 

They can't leave. Don't they understand? I need to help them. It's my job.

The duty comes over to assist as oneRead full post »

FEBRUARY 3, 2010 3:59AM

To Far East Russia with Love

Flying across the International Date Line is a discombobulating experience when you do it for the first time.  In 2004, it was my first time.  Add to this the fact I was leaving my eighteen month old daughter for the first time for an extended period to go to the U.S.S.R.,Read full post »


birds and bees


Just when I thought I was over the hump of big talks and decisions in our home, my precocious second-grader decided it was time for a whole other level of questioning about the ever-dreaded birds and bees discussion.  Let me set the mood for you...

On Mondays,Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
JANUARY 31, 2010 5:00AM

A View of my Own

I have had a sinus infection from hell that set in almost two weeks ago.  I knew the stress had settled in my sinus cavity and began sucking the life force out of me when I couldn't make it to my computer to even read Open Salon one day; that wasRead full post »

JANUARY 24, 2010 11:36PM

Open Salon, Teapots, and Natalie

Dragonfly Teapot
As I scrambled up to my porch in the pouring rain, I saw a box waiting patiently by the front door.  My daughter, affectionately known as Sunshine, was going to be on my heels soon, as I had just sent her off to feed the chickens after picking… Read full post »
Editor’s Pick
JANUARY 22, 2010 7:44AM

A Survivor's Take on: "The Trauma Myth" by Susan A. Clancy


The Trauma Myth


Salon did an interview with the controversial author and researcher, Susan A. Clancy, former Harvard psychologist and current Director of research for Harvard-related Center for Women's Advancement in Nicaragua, this week.  As I have read her other work, I was anxious to reRead full post »

JANUARY 21, 2010 1:53AM

Brass: My "Diner Honey" Award

Yes, it's true, besides my few downhill ski medallions and a couple soccer plaques awarded during middle school; my life was empty of the tiny, brass-looking golden statues I always coveted to declare the mediocrity of childhood memories.  Oh, there was also a 6th grade camp "completion" ribbon.Read full post »

JANUARY 19, 2010 3:43AM

What if There is Nothing to Forgive?


The question I am asked often is how my son was murdered.  I used to think this was out of morbid curiosity and I resented it.  Then, I believed people were curious and wanted to relate to me on an emotional level and I still resented it.  Finally, I threwRead full post »

JANUARY 14, 2010 3:00AM

Teapot Karma

Once upon a time, in American suburbia, there was a little girl who grew up with two parents who were sociopaths.  She did not know they were sociopaths at the time, nor that her brother would become one too, but she learned very early on different life skills than other childrenRead full post »

JANUARY 13, 2010 10:32AM

Race Still Matters

Senator Harry Reid

                                                        (Photo:  Google Images)

After hearing the private words Senator Harry ReidRead full post »

Upon heading out into the windy, dank Seattle evening, I rushed around trying to find my splashy red rose to pin on the coverlet I was wearing over my bright poppy dress.  I felt as if I was going on a date.  Well, in essence, I was!  It was another amazing OpenRead full post »

Dear Brit Hume,

Buddhist here.  As a result of your now infamous, heart-felt call to Tiger Woods to lay down his malignant, womanizing ways and come to your effervescent JESUS for eternal salvation, so as to be blessed by all that is Holy in country club America, I have seenRead full post »

Since the beginning of time, man has been espousing truths about the nature of God and directing other human beings on how to follow in the divine footsteps to “earn” their salvation.  Today, I am here to share with you, that any rules or law keeping a man or woman ofRead full post »

DECEMBER 31, 2009 6:48PM

The Magic I Found In 2009



Kashmiri Refugees

        (Photo from Central Asia Institute, amazing educational  non-profit)


 I can not paint 2009 with one sweeping description - it simply was.

Life is an experience which I mine for richness of emotion and wisdom to record.  While,Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
DECEMBER 29, 2009 6:02AM

The “Teens” Decade; Pole Dancing with a Side of Crack?

This is what awaits me when you wake up at 1:30 a.m. with a histamine headache?  What is that you may ask?  To tell you the truth, I don’t know, but I take Benadryl and drink water like an elephant in the Mojave Desert and then it magically disappears in aboutRead full post »


I bet you’ll never guess, this person is amazing, talented, touches the hearts of many; writes with passion, ferocity, kindness, and humility; shows up to be a part of this community with their best foot forward at all times; creates pieces with range and depth; holds hands of their &ldqRead full post »