When Your Spirit Whispers

Pay Attention! _ Write It Down!
Artist: Stefan Strasser 
Since this is such a hot subject because of the Weiner controversy, let me take this opportunity to expose myself very clearly before I go on! 

I am a 62 year old Gay man who grew up in a family of five sisters, one mother/… Read full post »
MAY 19, 2011 12:55PM

In My Life _ A Tribute


 Me With The Katona Twins

In the next few months another rich and rewarding episode of my life will come to an end. I don’t really like the sound of the word “retirement” because it implies so many things I feel would never be applicable to my life regardles… Read full post »


When I remember my childhood, I prefer to leave behind all I have learned in the many decades since my innocence has been destroyed. That feeling of innocence becomes sanctuary from the heavy weight that was laid upon my shoulders when I became conscious of the adult world that existed… Read full post »

MAY 8, 2011 6:38AM

(Repost) MOTHER

Even before we taste that first sweet breath of air, experience the warm yellow rays of the sun rising upon a new life, already we have taken you for granted. As we swim in the embryonic fluid, tethered by the cord that both feeds us and teaches usRead full post »


It happens time and time again. I post a comment on FaceBook or another website, expressing my disappointment in President Obama. Each time I express my feeling that I have been “thrown under the bus” as a member of the Democratic base, I am inundated with White House talki… Read full post »

FEBRUARY 9, 2011 2:51PM

Persians Are Not The Same As Arabs!

  Arash the archer

 Arash statue in Iran

If you read my blogs regularly, you know that I love to keep small souvenirs from different periods of my life. If someone were to find my box of grocery receipts, hand written notes, theater tickets and such, they most likely would put them directly… Read full post »

JANUARY 22, 2011 12:14PM

Annemarie Madison and Mahatma Gandhi



Most people can remember at least one outstanding human being during their lifetime, who represented the best of what the human spirit has to offer. There will always be the Mahatma Gandhis and the Martin Luther King Juniors. They will be forever celebrated in the history books… Read full post »

“This is the price we pay for freedom!” There was a time when that statement would give me a nice warm fuzzy feeling inside. But that was a time when there were different rules of engagement for political dialog, as well as a very different system for the dissemination of information… Read full post »


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  Tibetan Symbol for Eternity

Most studies of childhood development conclude that the first years of life are crucial in the creation of our character. I was born into this world in 1949, with only one grandparent still alive. But my mother’s story of my Grandpa Dreher&rsqu… Read full post »

 I’m sure what I am about to write will ring true for many who read these words. For me, December is always the most memorable month of the year. Each time it rolls around, I sort through the decades of Christmases past, the nearly 60 eves of new years. It is… Read full post »

DECEMBER 11, 2010 11:59AM

Tobacco Bullies _ Does It Ever Get Better?


I hope to tell this story in a way that will finally make most people understand that many unwittingly participate in a dangerous paradigm that needs to end! My story takes place just days after the release of the Surgeon General’s report on tobacco, where she admits that one… Read full post »

Today I almost felt the need to apologize to a segment of the Tea Party. Almost! I know how it feels to be the victim of a government that doesn’t listen when you are hurting. But then, when I think about those in the Tea Party movement with the racist signs,… Read full post »




Dedicated to my NUMEROUS friends and family who are in the sights of the vultures, waiting to be devoured by predatory lenders, greedy speculators and evil health insurance companies. It’s not a reality show! It’s the real lives of the people I love!   

It&… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 7, 2010 11:25PM

The Käuzchen and The Full Moon


 In order to understand the story I’m about to tell, there are a few important things the reader needs to know about my life. First and possibly the most important element to this particular story is the fact that I spent the entire preceding decade, watching dozens of my… Read full post »

First of all I want to remind you of this "Special" presentation by Keith Olbermann after the Proposition 8 vote. After all that has happened in the past two years, please try to understand what it means to people like myself, to have the only network that seems to be on… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
OCTOBER 28, 2010 2:26PM

Bringing Down Walls _ Berlin Was Only The Beginning!

I grew up in Danville, a staunchly Republican town in Central Illinois. Our historical claim to fame was “Uncle Joe Cannon,” arguably one of the most powerful Speakers of the House of Representatives ever! But I had the privilege of growing up in a Democratic “Union” household… Read full post »

Dear Councilman Burns,

I am a 62 year old gay man who now resides in San Francisco, California. I am writing to thank you for your courageous heartfelt appeal on behalf of gay teens and others who may contemplate suicide because of bullying. I was so moved by your personal story, I… Read full post »

Wow! Having family in Fort Worth and having spent lots of important time there, this video tears at my heart!! Seeing those people stand up to applaud really proves it does get better! That's not the Fort Worth I remember, nor is it the Fort Worth I would imagine today! What… Read full post »


 (Title changed from: Is Hatred the New Love? Is Dumb the New Smart?) 

Very recently a line has been crossed in America. I can’t say I’m surprised, because the people marching to that line did not do it secretly in the dark of night. We all saw it coming,… Read full post »

OCTOBER 8, 2010 11:15AM

A Message From My Deceased Husband


 It’s 5:00 AM and I have just awakened from a dream. I need to write it all down before it goes away to that place where dreams go if you don’t immediately grab them and put them into words that can’t be lost or forgotten. I need to… Read full post »

OCTOBER 6, 2010 11:39AM

OS _ constructive criticism _ SPAM

I just went to comment on another Editors Pick and found that the comments were closed due to Spam. On my most recent post in the last 24 hours I have deleted more than 50 pieces of Spam. Is it not possible to delete the accounts of the spammers since some… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
OCTOBER 4, 2010 11:08PM

Gay Suicide _ I Chose Life!

In my Sophomore year at Danville High School I had fallen in love. Like many other 16 year olds, I had fallen head over heals into my first real relationship. I was able to develop the kind of trust that comes with loving someone who loved me back. But unlike my… Read full post »

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SEPTEMBER 23, 2010 10:39AM

Premiums Not Taxes! American Health Care

Today, the Republicans are running a campaign that is focused on the certain possibility that health insurance premiums will go up! There is little mention in the corporate media, of the fact that they will go up because greedy capitalist corporations run the show for profit! But as President Obama a… Read full post »

AUGUST 23, 2010 6:06AM

The Secrets Of Dying _ Revealed

  Jiggs2 copy

 Jiggs in 1972

 Death _ The Greatest Teacher!

When I first arrived in San Francisco in the early 1980s, I came with many of the same expectations of other Gay immigrants. Of course my earliest impressions from childhood were of Tippi Hedren in Alfred Hitchcock’s “T… Read full post »

 For the love of a little girl I used to proudly push around in a stroller when I was an uncle of ten years old.

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cyndi 2 copy

August 10th is the 10th anniversary of the death if my niece Cyndi Testa. At the age of 41, Cyndi died from… Read full post »