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JUNE 2, 2009 11:24AM

I helped Teenagers get Secret Abortions

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I spent my first year as a law student helping teenagers get abortions.   I worked the phones at a small non-profit called Jane's Due Process, which as far as I know, is the only organization in the country that helps teens navigate the judicial bypass process to get abortions without parental consent or notification.   (You should Google it and make a donation right now.)  I am now a volunteer attorney for them.  It is righteous work.   I am  paranoid about telling people I about it.  I often leave it off my resume.   

Bill O'Reilly may snarl that the "left wing" is trying to silence him, but he has a TV show.   Its people like me, and the girls I work with, who have truly been silenced.   We are the ones who are staring down the barrel of a gun. 

Everybody loves parental consent laws for abortion.  They are an easy sell. Who wouldn't want parents involved in the medical decisions of their daughter; and as the pundits are quick to point out the vast majority of teens approach their parents first anyway, so this law only affects a small number of young women.  What that means in practice is that the only people truly affected are the people you would least like to see affected: abused teens, abandoned teens, and teen in situations of novel dysfunction. 

Judicial Bypass is supposed to be the safety valve on parental consent/notification laws.  It's supposed to be a way for abused and abandoned teens to opt out.  Of course, it’s often a spectacular failure.  Several county and district clerks in my state flat out refuse to accept teens' applications to speak to a judge: a completely illegal act.  These are often the same people who accuse clinic staff of disregarding the various restrictive laws that have been woven like a web around them.  There are also a fair number of judges in my state, who have publicly declared they will reject any applicant that comes before them, and then do so.  (They are elected after all.) 

The people who help, the clerks and judges who make an effort to listen before they judge, they don’t speak up much.  Discretion, moderation, even humility about personal fallibility, are all anathema where abortion is concerned.  If you can’t concede the ethos and pathos of the argument to those who “truly believe” it's always murder, it's best not to say anything at all.

The very first call I took at Jane’s Due Process (again: Google and money) was from a 17 year old who said bluntly, “My mom’s in jail and my dad’s in Iraq” she was living with her older sister who was 22, but the clinics were not allowed to accept the sister’s consent because she was not the legal guardian.  Both sisters thought they could get either of their parents to consent, but there was a timing issue.  My state only allows abortions up to 21 weeks.  It routinely took two or three months for mail to circulate from the base address the girls had to the frontlines where their father was, and then back to them.  Their mother, they said, couldn’t receive registered letters at all.  So, by the time the permission form got back, a legal abortion would be unavailable.  We set her up with a lawyer to try and get a bypass.

I received more than one call from grandmothers who had been turned away by the clinics.  They had often been raising their grandchildren from the time they were toddlers.  The parents were MIA, but the relationship was informal.  They’d been allowed to enroll their granddaughters in school, to claim them as tax dependants, to get them vaccinated, to make every medical decision before this one, but not a decision about abortion. 

These of course, were the easy cases.  Abuse was much trickier.   First off, though abuse was a reason for circumventing parental consent/notification, if a teenager admitted that she was abused, the judge was required by law to open a protective services case.  This then triggered an investigation, at which time parents generally found out that she had gone to court and obtained an abortion.  (Defeating the whole point of a bypass.)  You might think that getting an abused teen out of the household would be a universally good thing, but these are older teens, 15, 16, 17, and the system hates them.  There is no good place for older abused teens to live when they are removed from their family.  Often they are sent to juvenile detention centers.  Rarely is the effort made to ensure that they stay in the same school and receive the continuity of education that is necessary to graduate.  They are low priority.

Secondly, these are kids who have survived abusive households for more than a decade and a half; they often think it’s normal.  We were trained to ask these young women what the worst punishment they had received was.  I still remember the 16 year-old who scoffed at that idea that she was abused and then when asked about punishment said “well, he once threw me through the bathroom wall.”

The last type of call  was often from immigrant kids, who protective services would never consider abused, but who faced dire consequences if their families discovered their pregnancies.  We had one Ethiopian 17 year-old, a girl with a full college scholarship, who faced being sent back to Africa, denied the chance to go to school, and “circumcision.”  She was quite forceful.  She told us about a beloved cousin, who when faced with the same situation had been persuaded to tell her parents by a “crisis” pregnancy center; the cousin was  gone.  Her parents had arranged for her “treatment” in Ethiopia and for her marriage there. 

 

I even sent a girl to Kansas once; she was a marathon runner and a track star.  She lost her period every year during training season and so really did not know she was pregnant until the middle of the second trimester.  Her parents were hard core religious, and she knew that they would turn her out on the streets no matter what happened with the pregnancy.  She didn’t want to be homeless.

 

None of these teens get to speak out, it wouldn't be safe for them to.  We get to pass laws that endanger their lives, but they can’t protest.  I worked for them, tried to protect them, but have always kept a slight veil of anonymity because I’m afraid of the personal and professional consequences of doing the right thing, of talking about doing the right thing, in a world that bombastically declares it wrong. 

 

I know I am helping the right-wing make something private into something shameful by being discrete.  But I don’t have a T.V. show, I don’t have security guards, all I have is the residual fear that somewhere there is a man with a gun, looking for our office, who is absolutely certain he has the right to shoot me, because I help teenagers get abortions.  

 

When in this “debate” do my deep convictions get honored?

 

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I hope this goes front page. Excellent. Thank you for your service to this important cause.
Is this the organization I read about that was called "Jane"? What amazing work you did. I'm so sorry you feel unsafe, but I hope you feel proud. Thank you.
I have sent the link to this post to my connections at feminist blogs. I hope that we are able to shine light on your amazing work. Thank you again.
Thank you so much for bringing the work of this organization to our attention. Parental notification laws are just another roadblock created by the No Choicers to make getting a safe and legal abortion as difficult as possible.

Not all of your potential employers would be displeased by reading of your involvement with this organization, and if they were would you really want to work for them? I do understand where you're coming from though.
I wish this was the sort of post that would make the cover rather than the usual pulp about pop culture. This is the reality that most people don't want to face - the reasons why some teenagers cannot get parental approval for abortions. Usually, those teenagers have reasons which most of us could never even contemplate in our worst nightmares. Years ago, I knew a woman had been raped by her father on a regular basis since she turned 14. I know her mother refused to believe her story and refused to help when she became pregnant by her father. I know she had an abortion but never figured out how. As she was raised in rural Louisiana with no hopes of escape, so I think I can guess. Sadly, stories such as hers are not uncommon.
Also, rated, digged and reddit. This story shouldn't disappear.
this is brilliant. the people who believe in parental consent laws, because of the experience of kids who aren't abused, lack imagination. this is a post they need to see.
This is an important story, and you are doing important work. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is an important one to hear.
I admire your courage. There are loonie's out there that really don't care about abortion. They are just crazy and think they will get a hero's welcome if they do something radical. Thank You for taking care of the young ladies. What pisses me off as much as anything, even the O'Reilly's, is those fucking judge's with there high moral authority that probably knocked up some young girls them selfs. Keep up the good fight.
Thank you for all that you do for these girls. I am deeply impressed and moved by your activism on their behalf. How terribly tragic that it has come to this...
There can be no compromise on abortion. This parental notification law is "compromise" and look at where it gets us. I googled and donated.
Thank you for writing about this and for your very critial work wtih this organization. am going to google and donate now.
"Its people like me, and the girls I work with, who have truly been silenced. "

Thank you for bringing your voice here -
Bravo to you for all your work to help these teens. We need more folks like you, willing to help kids who aren't ready to be mothers. I will google and I will donate.
I've done the same thing, as a social worker working at a small non-profit law firm. We represented abused and neglected kids, and teens who needed help.

As soon as the parental consent law passed, with the caveat of the judicial bypass, a few judges immediately opted out, saying they would never approve one. But one judge, one brave, strong woman heard every case. She met every young woman and listened to her story. She treated them with dignity.

You have my respect and I honor your deep convictions.

Be safe.
Congratulations on your EP and cover! And thank you so much for the work you do and your story.
Congratulations on making the EP cover. I am relieved that this story is finally getting seen.
Thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. I spent two years fundraising for the California Abortion Rights Action League and there were some frightening evenings being stalked through neighborhoods by "right-to-lifers." Who claimed to be armed.
Thank you to the editors for giving this story the attention it deserves! And thank you, again and again, for the work that you do. You have my unmitigated respect.
It took courage to do the things you've done, to stand by your convictions, and help those who are unable to help themselves. Your convictions are honored with every teen you ever helped. This is a very important story, especially in the face of the hate mongering of other OSers. I pray for your safety, and for those in your charge. Thank you.
When I was younger all abortion (and birth control was illegal). I helped co-found the drop in center, the first 24/7 crises intervention/suicide hotline and all purpose community help center in Newark NJ.

ROE v WADE was not a thought even yet germinated (I think), and I doubt that the word feminism was part of the vernacular at the time.

The womens' section was allocated to women to handle - women helping women was my belief. We never had need to handle teens.

The women who needed assistance were taken by car in a 5 person relay, many of which I participated in or arranged the logistics for, to a sympathetic/empathetic m.d. far away in Dobbs Ferry who did whatever was called for at very low rates or pro bono in many cases.

Detection of our activities would have resulted in a felony conviction for violating federal law, and a certain license revocation for the doctor.

It was a very harrowing time to be fighting both the war AND bringing the war home via the drop-in center.

I honor your convictions right now and say G-d bless the good you contribute to this world and may you always continue to fight the GOOD fight.

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I am glad that this post not only got an EP but was promoted to the front page. In California, we have been fighting initiatives to require parental consent for minors seeking abortion for years - every couple of years, a new initiative appears on the ballot, and every year it is voted down, but by an increasingly small margin. The fact is that young women who have a healthy relationship with their parents inform them.

You do an excellent job of explaining why a young woman might not want to involve parents in her decision. The young women with whom you work are the real victims of the anti-choice movement. It is astounding to me that "caring" anti-choice folks have no compassion for the girls with whom you work, instead creating laws that kick them when they are already so down.
You're doing good work. Fantastic, necessary work.

I'm appalled at the judiciary you describe. But then, I work in federal court, and state court seems so far away....

That gives me an idea. You could file a class action in federal court re: the illegal treatment of these minors in state court....

No, I guess that wouldn't work.

But someday, it might.
Thank you for sharing this and for the work you do. This is compelling and well written. Off to google it.
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I am so pleased that the editors have made this post an EP and placed it on the cover, exactly where it belongs.

You are a warrior, and I applaud your work.
This is beautifully written, timely, and worthwhile. Trifecta!
"I worked for them, tried to protect them, but have always kept a slight veil of anonymity because I’m afraid of the personal and professional consequences of doing the right thing, of talking about doing the right thing, in a world that bombastically declares it wrong."

This forum is not 'bombastically declaring it wrong.' There's not a negative comment on this thread. People here applaud you for your "courage" and so on. Please forgive me for not joining in.

The post is just as much about you keeping your past hush-hush as it is about your previous volunteer work. I don't find that courageous at all. It smacks of shame to me. Perhaps you're not 100-convinced that you actually were doing the right thing.

I'm not convinced that parental consent laws are always bad, but they appear to be problematic in some of the cases that you described. However, these abused pregnant and neglected young women you "helped" needed so much more than clandestine access to an abortion. What happened to them afterward?

I googled the Jane's Due Process site and did some reading. The intentions appear legitimate enough. However, the group describes itself as an "organization working for fair and equal access to abortion for minors in Texas." That's quite a bit different than a mission statement along the lines of "an organization dedicated to helping, supporting and counseling pregnant teens from non-traditional family backgrounds." I could support an organization like that, even if meant that some of the young women would end up getting abortions. However, Jane's Due Process doesn't appear to be built around actually helping these women -- it's really about providing these terribly vulnerable girls a lawyer and an abortion en route to promoting a wider political mission. I'll send my donation elsewhere. And if you are 100-percent that you were doing the right thing, you ought to openly tell people about your past work.
This forum is not the WORLD.

Steelrigged lives and works in a conservative, red state that imposed these ridiculous requirements on teens in the first place. Her profession is still dominated by men. Men like the judges who publicly declare they won't help any girl no matter what the circumstances are. Men like you who have no empathy for what these girls helped by Jane's Due Process face.
To Edgar Alverson, and anyone else with his concerns:

You are right that this blog is about the discomfort I feel/have felt talking about JDP. I think that discomfort is a very real problem, but I feel it, and in my southern Republican state there are legitimate reasons for that feeling. This blog is a differnt microcosm. In my professional life I don't hide my association, I just don't actively promote it. In my personal life, I advocate for it.

As for the mission of JDP, you are not the only person who has wanted it to be broader. When I was there I did research on the availability of protective orders for older teens who wanted to maintain their pregnancies. Pregnancy is a huge trigger for domestic violence, but generally even older teens cannot get protective orders against their parents. Its considered the jurisdcition of protective services, an agency overwhelmed enough.

Another intern was just completing a two year project on teens in the juvenile justice system. Teens who were both denied access to abortions and who had their parental rights immediately terminated, even when they wanted to keep the babies. Not a good situation from any perspective.

JDP wasn't able to take action on any of this research though, because they didn't have the money or the personnel.

When it comes right down to it there are lots of organizations that will counsel girls on abortion alternatives, including the abortion clinical staff themselves. Often they are mandated to do this by law. If a teen chooses adoption, there are a fair number of organizations that will facilitate that choice, including providing food and lodging for the duration of the pregnancy. (Though little help afterward)

There is no other organization, which I know of, that will help facilitate a teens choice to have an abortion. That’s why access is JDP’s core mission. JDP doesn't solicit, the majority of clients find the organization through internt searches. Abortion is often much less disruptive to a teen’s life than a pregnancy, let alone parenthood. It is always their decision. None of these young women go to court to promote someone else's political agenda.
Change Agent, you wrote: "Men like you who have no empathy for what these girls helped by Jane's Due Process face."

Being a man does not preclude me from empathy. The word is characterized by the the ability to share one's feelings and understand another's emotions and feelings. I believe my perspective (as addressed in my previous comment on this thread) is an empathetic one -- namely that the girls that go to Jane's Due Process deserve more empathy and help than they're going to get from an organization interested solely in getting them an abortion as part of a greater pro-choice political mission.
thank you Steelrigged for addressing my comment. I don't agree with the work, but I appreciate your willingness to discuss it in a civil manner and accept other points of view.
and with abortion, everything any organization does concerning the topic is at least a little political. When an organization has too narrow a scope, it just becomes more transparent.
I did not write that being a man precludes you from having empathy in general. I wrote that you had no empathy for what the girls helped by JDP face.

With no funding other than donations, how do you expect Jane's Due Process to expand their scope and provide all this counseling you demand?
To Edgar Alverson:

Pardon me for contradicting you, but have you not been reading the news since Sunday??? The author isn't silenced out of shame, but for fear of safety! There are real life repercussions for daring to help women and girls obtain abortions, or other "contraband" medical services. The cost is real - and potentially life-threatening. Dr. Tiller routinely wore a bullet proof vest and was still shot assaulted and finally murdered.

Edgar, you can certainly have your opinion and feel that abortion is wrong, etc. But I don't see how anyone can deny the danger risked by those attempting to help girls in impossible situations.

Though I am not an abortion advocate, I don't feel I have the ability or authority to demand a woman or girl refrain. Until we, as a society, deal with sexual abuse in our country, with the staggering numbers of 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 7 boys being abused, often by a family member, or trusted adult. We have no right to castigate those seeking abortions. My personal feeling is that abortion can not and should not be legislated. Period. Perhaps when we have dealt with, what I consider the underlying cause, sexual abuse. Until that utopian day, the argument over abortion is futile and stupid
Gratitude is not a strong enough word for how I feel about you and the work that you do SteelRigged. Your work remains immensely important. Please continue knowing you have my highest regard.
I'm donating. Thank you for doing this work. I hate that you have to worry about your safety.
My ex-mother-in-law acted similarly many years ago during the Reagan administration when she administered a government run health clinic that dispensed birth control. After the direction/ruling came down that they could only distribute birth control to those either 16 or 18 years old (I forget the specific age) she simply told her staff the default youngest age of anyone who came through the door was 16 or 18.

She distributed birth control to those who needed it. Reagan got his statistics for political purposes. On paper no one under 16 or 18 received government funded birth control. He or those who administered the program had little concern with the non-paper reality.

So in honor of one heck of a former mother-in-law I am honoring you.
Rated, Reddited, Dugg, and Donated. Thank you.
Thank you for what you do.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Your story should be prime time news on every major network. Rated and donated.
Rated and wholly appreciated.
You and the people at Jane's Due Process do amazing and important work! You deserve loads of thanks and gratitude!!
Phenomenal article, moving & thought-provoking.
This is so well written and thought provoking. I truly thank you for doing the work you do.
I'll guess this is going to be one of the most screw up comments you get.

I am a right to lifer. While I will agree that there are times where an abortion is necessary I think there are very few of them.

With that said I'm also pro choice. I'm not the moral guide to anyone but myself and hopefully my younger children who I can encourage to do what I believe is the right thing. It's not up to me to decide what is right or wrong for you.

I also want to thank you for your work. I know, from working in ER's, that there are people who can't go to their parents with anything, and this is a big anything. There needs to be a way around the parent but most children/young adults are not wise enough to the world to do it on their own. I also think the judges who have blanket policies about anything need to find another job.

Keep fighting
Great piece, thank you. Just as a clarification for some of the comments here, "Jane" was the name of the collective of anonymous women in Chicago (and beyond) who did abortions for women in the 60's prior to legalization. They started out transporting women to illegal physician abortionists, were not happy about the service or the cost, and realized they could do it themselves. It's a wonderful story, and an underpinning of the feminist self-help movement in the 70s.
Thank you for taking the time to write this as not many people get to experience this/your position first hand. Great thought-provoking piece.
Wow, this is an amazing and informative article. I've really never had the strong cases to argue agiants consent laws, and this is the tip of the iceberg. I knew it was extremely wrong, but the throughts on how to express why never cystallized for me (despite my own without parental notification, thank heavens, I didn't want to hurt her).

This has put it all into a clear and unambiguous perspective.

I worked with domestic violence organizations in Texas, but had never heard of Jane's. Thank you so much for the brave work you do. It is SHAMEFUL that you and these young women have to hide, but totally understandable.
Reddit and Dugg it. This needs to be seen/heard. Well said, well written. Thank you for what you do.
Thank you so much for writing this. It's so important to get these stories out there to combat the rhetoric.
I didn't know that Jane exists, but I'm glad it does. As I said on another post, I helped my teenage friend get an abortion in the days before parental consent was needed. She came from a very dysfunctional family -- one where her mother tried to kill her brother just a short time before by stuffing a sock down his throat.

I can't remember if there was an age issue or not, just that I was 15 and drove my parent's car (with their knowledge and support) even though I didn't have a drivers license.

I used to be an attorney so know how brave you are to have engaged with this group-- at the expense of losing your license to practice.

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You reached the Salon front page! The work you do is amazing. Donating money to Jane, right away.
You are so right--it is unfair that teens don't have a voice or a choice. I admire your bravery and wish there were more people like you in the world.
Keeping this work low profile, for your safety, the safety of those you care about and your career is simple self preservation.

Jane's Due Process has been added to my short list of groups I channel my donation dollars to.
Anything to abort more of the poor. Unfortunately there is no substantial effort to offer sterilization, but the sexual diseases are doing a fair job of this already.
You' re so much braver than I! Those who work for justice, equality, and protection of rights are my heroes! I so admire what you're doing!!

As psychologist Lawrence Kohlberg's Theory of Moral Development states, there are very few at the highest level of morality, the Post-Conventional Level, at which race, religion, nationality do not matter, but only human rights, justice, equality, and freedom for all human beings.

All that you detail, shames me as an American. The circumstances, alternatives, etc. of the women and girls you describe sound as if they are living in the Catholic Ireland of not too long ago (although the Irish seem to be finally realizing the R.C. Church is a corrupt and hypocritical sham and always was), or in the former Soviet Union, or in some Taliban-controlled area.

What too many Americans fail to understand is that when the rights of one group are trampled, their rights are only a trample away.
As a legal professional maybe you can answer this question.
If a minor patient develops complications, who becomes responsible for further treatment? The parents who had no idea their minor was having a surgical procedure or the facility performing the procedure on a minor?

Abortion is a medical procedure and with all medical procedures there are risk and future complications. A study of 1,182 suction abortions, reported 9.5% of their patients required blood transfusions, 4.2% suffered cervical lacerations, 1.2% had uterine perforations, and 27% developed infections. Plus long term problems such as miscarriages, premature births, and sterility are greater among those who have had abortions. Who is responsible for these cost and future treatment if needed?

And what if the minor patient dies (it does happen) are the parents notified and given the cause of death? Or is that none of their business either?
Thank you SteelRigged. As one of the founding board members of Jane's Due Process and an attorney regularly representing pregnant minors in Court on Bypass applications, I encourage you to include your work with JDP on your resume. Your abilities and professionalism will speak for themselves and your internship with JDP is something to be proud of and defend.

For the other readers, everything SteelRigged described is true. She didn't mention the girls who are regularly emotionally abused by their parents, being called filthy names or unilaterally rejected from their homes for any infraction by their parents. I have had more than one client tell me that they almost would prefer being hit than being called a "slut", "whore" or "worthless b_ _ tch" one more time. Sadly, this is what some people do to their children.

I have represented minors as an attorney and been appointed by courts to act as Guardian Ad Litem in these cases. I have been involved in probably 1000 + cases since the law went into effect 1-1-2000. I have one more thing to say and one more question for the rest of you:

The minors who can talk to their parents do it. They don't come to me.

If your daughter thought, wrongly or rightly, that she couldn't come to you about an unplanned pregnancy, wouldn't you, above all else, want her to be safe? Put enough obstacles in her way and she might take a chance that could kill her.

Once again, StellRigged, thanks for posting. Good job!
Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Like most other commenters, I applaud and admire the work you do.

I had an abortion when I was 17. Even though the state I lived in at the time had no parental consent or notification laws, I told my wonderful parents the second I found out I was knocked up--just like all the other teens in the same situation who have a healthy relationship with their parents!

After reading this article, I made a donation to JDP for all of those girls who are not as lucky as I was. Thank you again--and also, do you know any other organizations that do this kind of stuff, and who might need volunteers? I'd love to get in on this stuff, too.

Stay safe--I'm glad you shared this story with us, but you're probably prudent to lay low with the general public.
to M Todd,

Medically, the clinics JDP works with provide general follow-up care for non-emergency complications. In the case of emergency complications, like all emergencies, clients are counciled by the clinics to call 911. The abortions provided are all first trimester and out-patient, no one has ever died. The riskier, later-term abortions that are the source of your stats are prohibited by law in Texas. Medical risks of carrying a pregnancy to term, including death, injury to repoductive organs, and loss of fertility, are far greater than the risks associated with a first trimester abortion. Especially if the mother's body is not fully developed yet. I belive that, in the long term, osteoporosis is particularly common.

Legally, no teen wins a judicial bypass unless she is judged, in a court of law, to be mature and competent enough to make the decision for herself. Judges often ask teens what their plans are if complications occur, who they would seek help from, etc. and incorporate the answer into their assement of the teen's competence. Because these teens are adjudged mature and competent enough to make the decision, they are legally responsile for it.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Steel thank you for your answer.

It seems that the burden is placed on the teen for the decision as well as future complications that could arise from an abortion. How sad young people have to make such life changing decisions without the benefit of loved ones.
to M Todd:

It is very sad whenever the parent-child relationship is dysfunctional or dangerous. I'm sure all the teens JDP works with suffer from its loss.

However, most of the teens I've met do have "loved ones" providing support. I've met caring grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, older sibilings, and simple reliable friends who rally to help.
Everyone loves parental consent? Really?

I have yet to encounter a pro-choicer who supports, let alone "loves," parental consent. Parental notification, on the other hand, seems to be the easy sell.

With that being said, I will never support parental notification or consent laws. I'm not a parent yet, but have felt incredibly strongly about this matter since I first learned about Becky Bell's story as a young teen. (I'm 30 now, for the record.) If my daughter wants/needs an abortion and feels like she cannot come to me and her father for whatever reason, I want her to still be able to get her medical treatment.

Perhaps we need to start reframing this argument and pointing out the differences between other elective surgeries and abortion. (Then again, I think that parental consent for pretty much any medical treatment is asinine. The treatment ultimately effects only the child's body, not mine, not their father's. Theirs and theirs alone; this is one of the largest reasons I am pro-CHOICE.)
The fear of pregnancy is last constraining moment for a chaotic sexual life of teenagers and adults. We will receive pleasure from sex if we will know that we do not make anything reprehensible. Freedom means responsibility. About what responsibility there can be a speech at such, for example, the abortion justification, we should consider that fact, that undesirable pregnancy will always take place. Sometimes only after occurrence of pregnancy the woman realises, that actually at the given stage of the - life she does not wish to have the child.
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Many thanks to you, Steel Rigged! Kudos! You helped keep those girls from the wire hangars. Don't pro-lifers know their history here? It drives me nuts to hear someone say it's OK to get an abortion if there was abuse....I like the folks who agree that it is nobody's business - never ever - whether or not a woman or girl chooses abortion. Do they REALLY think it is a facile choice?

In any event, I was drawn to your avatar photo from Behind Blue Eyes blog, where you are a fave. There are no accidents! Thanks for your post, and since I'm bumping it to the feed again, hope for more attention to you and Jane's Due Process! Rated.
Respect man. I have similar views with you about this issue. There are cases where a teenager is forced to abort. Maybe because their parents will be devastated, or maybe because they might ask her to raise a child she does not want...the problames might come in a lot of way. People makes mistakes, and abortion is a way to make their lives go back to normal, and be more conscious from later on.
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It's great that these girls had someone to turn to. Yes, most of them should have been careful to not get pregnant in the first place, but if they were left all on their own they may have turned to other measures that could have been dangerous or fatal. San Diego Criminal Lawyer
Stories like this need to be shared more often. So many times these girls have no idea that something is so wrong, yet they get blamed for being in the situation that got them pregnant. Kudos to you and everything that you have done to help them. bathroom wall panels
I very much admire you for doing this and following what you believe to be right. I'll keep your safety in my prayers against those who would do you harm if they knew what you did. Men's Swimwear
It's scary to think of all the young girls out there that may be in real danger because they are in a situation facing the decision between getting an abortion or not. Not to mention the ones that could face fatal consequences if the wrong people found out. florida custody laws
A couple years ago I was working at a local shelter and seen several young girls that needed an abortion due to rape and other situations. They had nowhere else to turn and no one who could help. I don't even like to think about what happened to them or their babies - so I really think what you're doing is great. condoms
These are the kind of stories our law makers need to hear more about. I'm glad that you're putting this out there for the world to see and hope that it helps more people understand why we need more people more like you (and more lenient laws). Toronto homes for sale
Haven't been responding to comments cause there are just too many, but I do want to make sure that its clear that Jane's Due Process is a totally legal operation. Judicial bypass is a constitutional requirement of all laws that limit access to abortion. The problem is that just because these teens have a right to be heard doesn't make going to court easier for a lay person, particularly a young one who's in crisis. Neither having an abortion, nor helping somone have her abortion is illegal.
There is a wise saying that goes like: "Actions are judged by intentions." You mentioned that there might be people who are angry with you to the extent of taking your life, but as your intentions were somewhat noble, I see the part of the action that saved many teenagers from embarrassment through the rest of their lives.
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Wow..this is devastating.. You helped them???

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This is truely a fantastic thing that you do, helping desperate teenage girls with no one and no where to turn to. You give them hope and give them their life back. You should should hold your head up and be proud of what you do. Keep up the good work.
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Thank you, deeply, with all my heart, thank you.
I think As soon as the parental consent law passed, with the caveat of the judicial bypass, a few judges immediately opted out, saying they would never approve one. But one judge, one brave, strong woman heard every case. She met every young woman and listened to her story.And thank you, again and again, for the work that you do.
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I personally think, that it is girl's own decision, if she wants to go and do that... although she'll have to live with it for the rest of her life, and some just can't bare it. poor things. UK free classified ads
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If there wouldn't be girls seeking the 'service' there wouldn't be people providing it. Someteimes fro them it's the only way to live normal life, continue education and not stuck in the diapers... well it's individuals decision and there shouldn't be anyone blaming them for taking such steps. Italian Kitchens
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Don't know how to react on this thing, I would say one has to teach these teen aged girls how dangerous it could be to get pregnant at such an early age.
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I takes a strong person to have done what you have achieved and even stronger to post about it and open up a discussion. It's such a sensitive subject - thank you for sharing your experience.
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