the dogs are barkin' today


North of San Francisco, California,
November 16
I teach, I parent, I learn, I contemplate. I am constantly putting my toe in the water. I dove in, now I'm trying to keep my head above the surface.


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OCTOBER 20, 2012 10:22PM

October is the Cruelest Month

October. Days become shorter, there is too much darkness in the morning and I am depressed until noon. I love the fall colors, but the weather is capricious and unnerving in California. Foggy at dawn and ninety degrees by three p.m. For two or three days it blisteringly hot, then suddenlyRead full post »

SEPTEMBER 15, 2012 1:37PM

Twelve to Thirteen

She looks older all of a sudden. I noticed it about a week after she started junior high. Maybe it’s the bangs. They’re really flattering, and encompass her face like a framed work of art. But there is something else too. She holds herself differently, a little a taller. The timbreRead full post »

SEPTEMBER 5, 2012 11:50PM

Women Who Rock

My favorite woman of the week, or almost any week:


My other favorite woman of the week:



I am inspired. Read full post »

JULY 29, 2012 9:01PM

The Sights of Silence


Silent Walk:

silent walk


Silent Ocean:

silent ocean

Silent Fog:

silent fog 


   Silent Pet:

silent pet 2 Read full post »

JULY 20, 2012 12:56PM

Colorado Sadness


Maybe when all those people who advocate toting guns to shoot the shooters finish shooting each other, only the peaceful ones will be left. Unfortunately, the innocents will be caught in the crossfire. No one wins.

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JULY 18, 2012 10:50AM

The Pervasiveness of Bananas


You know what I’m talking about. Place the banana(s) anywhere in your kitchen – in a bowl, on the counter, even in a corner of the fridge, and everything surrounding it tastes banana-ish. I ate banana-infused French bread the other day, and yesterday, my daughter (who hatesRead full post »

JULY 17, 2012 1:32PM

California Homecoming

It happens when I come over the hill past Petaluma.

that slight shift in my chest.

a settling of my body

the inadvertent smile.

home is near.

past the freeway construction

and the gnarly traffic,

there is the vista of the hills

the… Read full post »

There is no conscious rivalry between myself and my three brothers, only the one that lives inside my head. And it really is no rivalry, but merely the sense that I have failed at the one thing that these diverse men have all succeeded at: marriage.

My… Read full post »

JUNE 22, 2012 1:10PM


I've been reworking this tiny piece of writing since 1998. I've decided just to throw it out there. It continues to be relevant.


I sit here and think about things that break. Heaters and cars and relationships and hearts.  All that breakage puts little cracks in my… Read full post »

JUNE 20, 2012 7:03PM

Seeing My Sea (STAHI's Open Call)

I don't live on the ocean, but near enough to visit frequently, and I do. The beach is where I go to relax and rejuvenate, my soul is there.  Here are some photos from the Northern California Coast that I consider home.

Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk, a favorite vacation spot:… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
JUNE 19, 2012 2:45PM

Get a Room!

dream inn 

My 12-year-old daughter and I recently spent 3 days in an upscale hotel in Santa Cruz, California. On the beach, in the sun, turn down service and chocolates on the pillow; a major splurge. Witnessing a phone conversation at the front desk, it was clear that theRead full post »

Things I don’t like to do anymore:

Go to large parties and make polite and witty conversation with people I barely know and some I don’t really like. I just want to hang out with my close friends and a glass of wine.

Anything involvingRead full post »

MAY 28, 2012 8:18PM

Summer is here!

Tomales Bay

I live in one of the most beautiful places in the world. Happy summer, everyone!

MARCH 22, 2012 9:12PM

Killing two birds with one hoodie

Suffragette Hoodie

I am incensed. A young black man in Florida, women and girls all over this country. I have a twelve year old daughter. What is happening to her world? To the world in which I was raised? We must continue to stand up against racism and sexism. I want to fight back.… Read full post »

JANUARY 5, 2012 1:58PM

I Want What You Have (poetry)

I want what you have.

The way your husband looks at you

with adoration





I want what you have

four family members on a Christmas card

all together


I want what you have

wedding… Read full post »

NOVEMBER 19, 2011 11:02PM

The Bullies Win Again

He’s one of those kids who is wired differently. Outside the box, the odd duck, however you want to put it. They are the ones we write about after all, not the ordinary ones. I had asked for him. We had developed a bit of a rapport whenRead full post »

NOVEMBER 1, 2011 5:36PM

The Joy of November


Contrary to popular opinion, November is my favorite month.

November is the anniversary of my birth, a day I celebrate with enthusiasm, because the alternative sucks, and each year of my life I grow wiser and more relaxed. Age is a good thing.Read full post »

I am delighted to have the opportunity to repost my first post. I was very proud of this one, and became supremely honored by cartouche's comments and  presence on my blog then, and on subsequent posts. I miss her.

(sorry about the font size change. It's taken me two years to… Read full post »

Editor’s Pick
AUGUST 4, 2011 11:01AM

Quitting Jim

There was evidence early on, but I ignored it. The real impact hit right after the wedding, when I received a call at work from my insurance company. They wouldn’t be able to put my freshly acquired husband onto my auto insurance because he had a DUI. I sat at my… Read full post »

dunces cover

I pay close attention to lists of “must read” books. I consider myself educated and well read, and I hate it when I miss a reference to classic pop culture (“classic pop culture” – now there’s a phrase. But I think you know what I mean). I am usually… Read full post »

JUNE 17, 2011 1:10PM

My Dad is Perfect (Repost)

(This is a repost from last year with some minor changes- because why ruin a good thing?)

Oh, the arrogance of that title. But, what’s true is true.

While I was growing up, my dad worked very hard to support his family, but… Read full post »

JUNE 15, 2011 12:22PM

A Letter To My Compassionate HOA

Dear Beloved Homeowner’s Association,

Thank you very much for the notice outlining my recent infractions, and the follow-up notice assessing my fine. Every time I allow the weeds to get above one foot in my yard, I eagerly await your attention. I thoroughly enjoy having a petty bureaucracy waRead full post »

JUNE 11, 2011 9:09PM

Skinny Girl

My 11-year-old daughter is a skinny girl. A very skinny girl. I was too. 

  the waitstaff

(I'm the one on the right, at about 13 years old).

At 15, I weighed 85 pounds, and easily passed for 12 whenever it was necessary to get cheaper entrance to… Read full post »

JUNE 2, 2011 12:23AM

If I leave OS, Where do I go?

Seriously, I need specific suggestions. Nothing is like OS, but I am going nuts here with the lousy service. Please tell me other sites where you all are, and where I can post my writing the way I do here.