So often I read about people sharing to much information online. Warnings about how lack of "editing" on social communities can be hazardous to your life. A lot of this advice is wise especially when it comes to teens and personal information etc...
But what makes me sad is that we are told to edit more than just that stuff. We are warned to edit everything. Worst part? It's true that you may need too. Just last night there was a facebook group called:
The top ten places to have sex before you die.
My mouse hovered over the join group icon for a while. Why?
Why not just join the darn group if I want too?
Because.
There I was this wee little earth particle. This human/primate that would soon be in the ground. Just dead. Goodbye, me. Worrying over what others would think about my next move.Oh, that's just rich.
If I want to discuss fascinating places to be intimate with my husband before I exit this planet...why in the world wouldn't I join?
Grand Canyon at sunset? Vegas strip? A gazebo on the beach?
Did someone discover a mind-blowing feeling that can only be found while making love on a sailboat at sunset? But, the next minute my mind was filled with society and history and the little things that have seeped into my brain over the last thirty five years.
My mother "tut tut'ing" with shame in her eyes.
Friends mumbling about my moral compass.
Preachers, teachers and employers oh my!
It's just not a group name that a lady should even want to join...
Maybe I should take the things I was told as a child and edit them for my children.- Be yourself....but keep it to yourself?
- Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.-Dr. Suess unless you aren't a paid published writer and are seeking employment?
- It takes courage to be who you really are... and stupidity to show it?
- Define yourself....but don't actually advertise the definition?
- Dare to be you... and you will be one lonely but brave fool?
Maybe it is the wisest thing I can do for them...given the world we live in. God forbid they are themselves; someone might take offense. I decided not to join the group, but I'm growing weary of basing my decisions off of what you might think.
He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.
~Raymond Hull
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Join under a psuedonym, like , uh, OEsheepdog. Cheers. You got your keyboard fixed?
All ecstasy, grace, feelings of the divine are HUMAN feelings. i refuse to omit them just because there's no sky pixie blowing them into me with heavenly bellows. Religious morality, flawed and otherwise, is a subset of human morality, how we've tried to sort it out since about 200,000 years ago (the first African Cro-magnons).
We survived 198,000 years before someone wrote the ten commandments. We must have been getting along pretty well without them, co-operation-wise.
Not that Neanderthals weren't sweet, in their own way.
Excellent post. Well done. These are the essential issues you raise. And i love everything that SOS does, especially that selection.
That's one of my favourite videos!
r
I must go practice saluting, applauding, shaking hands at the very same time - wish me luck!!!!
~r!
And looks with curiosity
At kindness and ferocity
With thoughts completely wry
Insists to hide, to hunker down,
To flee the easy simple grin
And run from any frown
Must finally emerge to share
The world we all embrace.
To be what we, essentially,
Are behind our face.
So, what the hell,
Who can tell?
It's surely no disgrace.
R
As you may deduce, I don’t think it’s just one, but, one will do for now.
At my ten year high school reunion I found myself talking to a girl I’d known casually in high school, and thought was quite cute. After talking to her for awhile, I musingly asked why we’d never dated in high school? She snorted and said “We were all afraid of you!”
A lot of things shifted into perspective.
My mother talked to voices. Through about 6th grade my brothers and I were constantly silencing other kids who expressed jeering opinions about her mental state. We weren’t gentle about it. But since the teachers knew what was happening and didn’t approve of the attempted bullying, we were never punished for it. A younger brother and I actually got to where we were more or less the unofficial enforcers of good public manners for our grades. By the time I graduated High School, I thought everyone had forgotten about my mother.
I never gave any thought whatsoever to what I did in High School. I didn’t realize I frightened people. I’ve learned to enjoy a certain anonymity. Not that you should ever be intimidated or made to fear being who you are. Just that you need to deal with fewer crazies if they can't find you.
The conditions of a solitary bird are three:
First, that it is an indefinite color.
Second, that it soars to the highest points.
Third, that it sings very softly.
I like your revised list of cliches.
For example, if it takes 'courage' to be who you are, then maybe you should be someone else.
And did that facebook group limit itself to having marital sex? I think not.
I don't think your mom and your kids either need to know or want to know any aspect of your character that involve your libido.
Defriend Mom. Trust me on that.
works.
dreamy.sigh...you.own.a.sailboat...please.blog.about.it.please.
OEsheepdog
I'm.gonna.clone.your.brain.Correll.and.yep...
SOS.rocketh.my.socketh.
I.love.that.you.know.that.vid,Poppi....no.shepard.for.
you.and.me,eh?
Kit Duncan.you.crack.me.up.and.I.love.you.
Jan Sand...what.more.can.I.add.to.that?
wow
Trilogy....oh.great....now.it.reads.differently...lordy.
you.made.me.giggle.xoxo
Scanner:.sigh...I.know.but.we.can't.let.the.ba*tards.get
us.down,right?
Donna:hey:).and...indeed.
Token:.I.bet.you.had.to."grow-up".faster.than.most.
I.love.how.you.stood.up.for.her.and.to.them.
Should.I.be.scared.of.you?..;)
Elizabeth :sorry...I.want.you.HAPPY!..but.yes...sad...sad.sad.
Owl_Says_Who:...sigh.......................................*lays
head.on.your.shoulder.
sounds.like.
Henry:...and.they.don't.seem.to.need.therapy...
"So vain is the belief that the sequestered path has fewest flowers."
Thomas Doubleday
Tinkerertink69:...I.don't.really.have.a.comment.for
you.tink...I'm.just.sitting.here.thinking.how.likable.you.are.
Libmomrn:...but.what.filter...and.for.what.purpose..and.for..?
I.get.what.you.mean....sob.......breathe...hope....
Nick:..I.dunno.either.
I.defriended.mom.a.couple.of."tut.tut's".ago...;)
and.my.kids...they.aren't.even.sure.what.facebook.is...
much.less.allowed.to.join.it.
:)
R
Great group of words you aligned.......thanks
WWJCD......What Would Jed Clampett Do?
I.had.titled.this...that...
and.hey.:)
Denise:.'atta.girl.(insert.big.cheesy.grin)...speak.your.mind
even.if.your.voice.shakes,right?
marytkelly:.lol...thank.you.maam.
Linda Seccaspina:...I.am.too...god.yammit.
random.but.I.love.yams.
mr Fawkes:.thank.you...I.think.I.should.take.up.whittling.
WWJCD...that's.great...I.have.a.t-shirt.that.says:
WWUD?
"The.more.people.I.meet.the.more.I.like.my.cat."
;)
off.to.baseball.game.xoxo
Self-editing is something that plagues all of us. Especially writers.
Rated.
r
: )
-R-
essence.shampoo.commercial.
hey.Ann:):)
vanessa:.it.really.does.
Placebostudman:.how.are.you.feeling?That's.a.great
reason.to.rate,Stud.
rita shibr:..I.really.really.understand.and.on.the.sailboat
thing,Rita...I'm.out."sighing".you.(the.reader.should
imagine.me."outsighing.Rita.Shibr)
Agreed,Matt.
Matt Paust
Bonnie Russell:.
Oy,Bonnie.
Were.I.to.need.a.lawyer...or.Private.Eye?
I.hope.you.would.be.the.focused.tiger.I.needed.
Track.down.the.dirt.on.my.opponent.and.
never.let.them.forget.it.
Make.them.pay.until.they.are.so.broke.
they.can.not.pay.attention.
and.I.think.Rita.wanted.to.say.something.
Fay Paxton.That.was.a.very.thoughtful.comment.
I.enjoy.your.writings.immensely.
Kevin Lee.thank.you.very.much.
John:.The.deeper.message.is.about.haircuts.
I.knew.you.would.get.it.,Cover.boy.
Lea Lane:.I.would.love.to.read.a.writer....
write.about.how.it.feels.to."take.a.sailboat.out"...
mmmm
ocularnervosa:.don't.stop...I.need.your.role.modeling!
Maureenow,.You're.so.very.welcome...It.is.wonderful.
good.too.see.you.
Stim:.I.knew.that.comment.was.yours...sheesh:)
LadyMiko:yes.you.do...and.you.do.it.beautifully.
Hey.Eva.T.:" the consequences could be nasty."
hmmm,.we.have.a.kink.in.our.species...someone
should.work.on.that.
Eva T. Made Vaudeville
Reflections,.I.love.to.write.about.my.children.
and.I.love.to.read.about.yours.
I.respect.you.for.who.you.are.
Mlee.
I.want.to.buy.you.a.t-shirt.that.says.simply:
Corolla
It.is.how.I.roll.
{[R]}
Thank you, L'heure. A sigh and a hug with you.....
Leepin Larry: Leepin lizards, Larry. (I'm not going to ask if you
really do because that would probably be stupid because I'm guessing they don't have gas pedals. but then again they probably do. (ugh, remember the tire/tread?) I've never been sailing. obviously.
I loved every bit of your comment. Great story... I would do that, Zul. Now I wanna go do something like that.
AtHomePilgrim: Hey there :) Thank you so much.
The Reverand Dr. Furman G. Pugnuttis III: You two sound a lot like my marriage... he doesn't worry at'tall. Nice name.:D
True words: Define yourself....but don't actually advertise the definition?
Your moral compass is just fine with me, my dear.
We are as much what we conciously don't say as what we do say.. no more or less for it...
Self editing is a rational enterprise as long as its not paranoia!
Should we feel that our concerns are not as much a part of us as much as object of our concern..?
There is some balancing to be done..
~Raymond Hull
truer words were never spoken. pursue your life, your dreams. just don't give them your last name, social security number or your home phone number. also, set up a dummy facebook account for all the fun stuff you want to do.
discretion isn't denial.
+:::wiggling eyebrows:::+