Tanja Pajevic

Books, blogs and workshops to support life's big transitions.

Tanja Pajevic

Tanja Pajevic
Boulder, Colorado,
January 07
Writer, Blogger, Motivator
Tanja Pajevic, Inc. http://www.TheRhythmofGrief.com and http://RebootThisMarriage.com
Hi there! I'm a writer/mother/blogger/ instructor currently working on a grief project, a children's book and a book about rebooting my marriage. I've taught at the University of Colorado at Denver, Indiana University and the Community College of Denver, and I also work as a consultant as well as teach independent writing workshops. Good to meet you! P.S.: Here are the official sites if you're interested: The Rhythm of Grief http://www.TheRhythmofGrief.com Reboot This Marriage. Two adults. Two kids. One year to reboot this marriage. http://RebootThisMarriage.com Free report, 13 Ways to Reboot Your Marriage: http://eepurl.com/mnQOT


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JANUARY 15, 2015 2:07PM

How to Live with an Open Heart

One of the biggest challenges following the death of a loved one is the additional (and often unexpected) loss of our old lives. With this giant sea change comes the opportunity to create a new life.

After our loved one dies, we realize that our lives will never, ever be the… Read full post »

So far, I haven’t said anything about Robin Williams’ death because I haven’t had much to add. But after reading a few awesome blog posts today, I found myself thinking about this whole idea of public grief and what we choose to do with it. Brene Brown’s postRead full post »

SEPTEMBER 25, 2013 1:59PM

Notes from the Colorado Flood

As most of you know, Colorado was hit by massive flash flooding a little over a week ago, wrecking havoc across the state. Ken and I were lucky, with only a few inches of flooding in the basement. I wish I could say that was the case for… Read full post »

AUGUST 30, 2013 1:41PM

Permission to Grieve

It’s been eight months since my mom passed away and one of the things I still struggle most with is giving myself permission to a) feel my grief when it comes up and b) do whatever it is I need to do to take care of myself.

I… Read full post »

JULY 2, 2013 10:48AM

Enough of the Fighting, Already!

As a former revolutionary freedom-fighter (ha! in my mind, maybe) I can be way rougher on Ken than I need to be.  Or at least way rougher than some of my friends.

Then I read a couple of articles that helped me put things into perspective.  The first… Read full post »

JUNE 12, 2013 5:39PM

Let's Hear it for the Boys

With Father’s Day right around the corner, I’d like to take a few minutes to celebrate our men.  Because as much as we complain about them, do we really ever tell them how much we appreciate them?

Why is that?

Well, I think it’s because we expect way too much… Read full post »

If there’s one thing I’ve learned this last year, it’s that most of our problems revolve around a basic—but devastating—assumption: when things fall apart, our upset can almost always be traced back to the underlying feeling that we're not being seen or heard.  That… Read full post »

Frustrated and pissed off at your spouse? Wondering how you’ll get through another stressful, jam-packed holiday season?

Sure you are.  We all are.  It’s tough enough to stay on top of things during normal times, but how are you supposed to do that during times of high-stress… Read full post »

SEPTEMBER 6, 2012 12:10PM

How to Use Anger to Reboot Your Marriage

So how many times have you gotten angry--I mean really pissed--at your spouse?  And how many times have you yelled at him, demanding that he change, that he do this instead of that, that for the love of God he stop driving you crazy.

Well, if you're human, I'm… Read full post »

So even though school's finally started, I'm still not getting a break. My older son's already home sick from school, my younger one's only been in preschool for 2.5 hours this first week and I'm quickly losing my mind.

The funny thing about all this is that last… Read full post »

One of the super-cool things about being the daughter of immigrants is knowing how to travel with copious amounts of food at all times.

For a long time, Ken used to make fun of me when he saw me jamming my bag full of food every time we went to… Read full post »

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JUNE 1, 2012 11:51AM

How Resentment Kills a Marriage (and 5 Ways to Save it)

The more I talk about this blog with strangers, the more people open up to me with stories about their own marriages. Like the woman who told me this:

"I got divorced when my youngest child was ten. But my divorce didn't have anything to do withRead full post »

MARCH 8, 2012 10:53PM

How to Get Out of Jail Free

So here’s the super-duper Get Out of Jail Free Card my therapist friend Scarlet gave me after I’d moaned and groaned my way through dinner, telling her how I completely lost my mind the other day.  It's a super-neat trick that's already saved my ass on more than… Read full post »