In the last series, the one on the "Folly of Forgiveness," I shared some nuggets of wisdom on how to avoid forgiveness. Alas, one can dodge even considering that topic by avoiding intimacy altogether. Thus, I’ve put together…

"96 WAYS TO AVOID INTIMACY"

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"For the rest of my life I want to reflect on what light is."

Einstein

Light. Think about it. The word is right smack dab in the center of a caboodle of letters signifying human beings’ most highest and goodly state — enlightenment.

Ah, yes, good old enlightenment. J.C. himself is/… Read full post »

After the fateful day whereupon I chose a friendly Universe, it was not long before big and small, new and old, resentments crept up.

“Whoa!” you say. “How did this happen? I thought after I chose a friendly Universe, I’d begin to notice pleasant things — and that’… Read full post »

One could argue for an eternity that the Universe is unfriendly and find plenty of examples. Likewise, if one argued for a friendly Universe, there’d be an equal number of examples.

To help you clarify which Universe you’d like to live in — friendly or unfriendly — let’s
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So as not to alienate those of you whose instincts to survive tell you this Universe is a dangerous place to be heartily defended against, that this Universe is a vitriolic cesspool of deviants who to a greater or lesser degree are oblivious to you, that this Universe is out to
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Forgiveness attempts to solve the problem (of feeling injured) at the level the problem’s created. That is, at the personal level.

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This belief is faulty to the core, though…

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We think regurgitating our past…

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So why do we hold on so tightly to past hurts and resentments? Well, I cobbled together a smattering of possibilities. Today we’re on number 3 of the TOP 10 LIST of WHY WE CLING TO THE PAST.

 

Holding onto ancient resentments is akin to scarfing down two pounds of biscuits slathered in butter and gravy, in that the consequences are the same — disturbing ailments, mental sluggishness, and emotional retardation.

So why do we hold on so tightly to past hurts and resentments? Well, I cobb
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With surprising consistency, the more I attempted to solve this riddle called forgiveness, the more angst-ridden I felt. But there had to be something to this forgiveness notion — God knows enough saints and gurus have bandied it about over the millennia.

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It's to stop willing ourselves to forgive.

To quit straining our poor overworked minds and torn emotions in a bid to make sense of why we’ve been mishandled.

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 Forgiveness — that Holy Grail esteemed as the route to self-love and freedom and health and happiness — has eluded many of us.

 Yet... any hope of our experiencing a satisfactory life seems to hinge upon our forgiving the miscreants of our past, those adults w/… Read full post »

Sure, I understand the sophisticated version of forgiveness as being something we balefully “release,” as opposed to us donning our papal gown and pardoning our enemies.

 But how exactly is this miracle of forgiveness supposed to occur when we’ve been building a case against t… Read full post »