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JUNE 2, 2009 7:40PM

Facebook Free - The First 24 Hours

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For the background on the torturous experiment I'm embarking on, please read:

http://open.salon.com/blog/the_noun/2009/06/01/into_the_facebookless_void

Day 1 - I changed my Facebook status to say I'm going to be under the radar for the next while, and to phone or email to get in touch with me. I felt a little nervous, oddly, because it's a pretty vague message. But if anyone really wants to talk to me that much, they'll now know how to find me.

The Background

To further explain why I've decided to do this, I should probably explain a little more about who I am, and how I behave and interact with my electronic devices. For those of you who don't know me, I'm from a rural area on Cape Breton Island. We didn't have cable television (or anything more than the national broadcaster, for that matter) and though I left home just when the web was gaining popularity, my parents back home still can't get high speed internet unless they're willing to spring for their own orbiting satellite. I spent entire days outside in the yard, by the lake, or in the woods near my house. I read books as if their very existence was threatened and generally did kid things.

But later, once I'd embarked on more career-oriented jobs (as opposed to the myriad service-oriented jobs I held until I figured out what I wanted to be when I grew up), I found myself in front of a computer to do my work all day every day. Just as I do know. I spend eight to ten hours of each and every day in front of a monitor. Between that, and my mobile phone, I spend a lot of time in what I perceive to be my virtual life. They're my primary means of communication, but at the end of the day, I find it a bit much. I find I can no longer keep a thought in my head for more than a few seconds, and just a few seconds later, I can't remember what the thought was.

I started what I'm affectionately terming my "adventure in analogue" with Facebook because I can't give up being online wholesale because of work. So, unless I'm on vacation, I have to be online. But the 'Book is something I normally spend way too much time looking at. I click on it without even thinking about it, without consciously having something to look at. I just click around as if my finger needs the exercise. And trust me, as an editor, it does NOT need the exercise. My backside? Yes. My mouse finger? Nay nay.

Today's Results

My friend sent me a link to a photo of the new guys she's making out with these days. My finger hovered over the mouse button, about to click, until I saw the root of the site: Facebook. This would mean I'd have to log in to look at it, and I'm quite sure the temptation is too great. I'll somehow justify a reason to "quickly look at my own profile, just this once, to make sure people get what I mean from my status". So I let it be.

I was tempted quite a few times to log in and see if I have any new full messages. Not wall posts or invitations to listen to punk rock singles or send gifts to people. But real bona fide messages. Believe it or not, I didn't succumb. Although my mouse most assuredly hovered over the link.

I honestly thought today would be terrible, but despite a few near misses, I'm okay. Iam extra busy at work these days, with deadlines hurtling themselves at breakneck speed towards the wazoo, which might explain the lack of FBDT's.

Or maybe it's just too soon.

 

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thanks for this! I would be the same way - that is why I decided not to jump on the FB bandwagon, I would be addicted - OS is addiction enought for me... This helped me feel like I made the right choice :)
I joined way back when and left. I don't have time for that. I much prefer my OS addiction.
Your strength and fortitude are truly remarkable. By the way, one of your friends is getting through hump day, and someone else is going away this weekend.
Stay strong!
I think it's best to approach social networking sites like FB or OS with what I call a "hit and run" approach. I'm pretty swamped at work, and my home life, with a 2-yr-old daughter, doesn't give me much opportunity to spend hours on these sites. However, I do give myself some breaks here and then, so I'll jump in for a few.

Still, that's a pretty bold thing you're doing there.
I hope you keep us posted on this experiment. I went cold-turkey on a site that I used to visit every day. But then, I immediately replaced that with coming here every day. :-)
I HAVE TO check my facebook account daily. Not because I'm addicted but because the inbox turns into a nightmare. Once I was off for a week because I was busy with school and then I got sick. When I opened it I had 45 friend requests to go through not to mention the zillions of event invites, group invites, fan page invites and countless games. To push delete on all is like Jim Carry pressing "Yes" to the prayer button on "Bruce Almighty" -- total WTF disaster! I pushed delete on this girlfriend of mine and she almost ended our friendship. I thought it was insanely funny because it was a total accident until I realized she was dead serious about ditching me. The fun of facebook is long over but not having an account is about as anti-social as not having a cell phone. I would hate to be you when you finally open the darn thing in two weeks :( Good luck! Have wine!
interesting! i did not have cable growing up, and i spent a lot of time outside. these days i do worry about the amount of time i spend online, but i find the networking sites to be totally uninteresting.

maybe you answered this in your initial post, but i'm curious about why facebook is so compelling for so many? have you thought about why you're pinpointing it for this experiment? i have a page but it's like pulling teeth to get me to go do anything with it. i think i've logged in maybe five times in the 8 months i've had it. i don't get it, but everyone else is so into it i must know what the draw is!
Aside from reunions with people I haven't seen in 30+ years, I'm mystified about why anyone would use Facebook. It all seems like a big time waster to me.

But then I'm clearly of an older generation...
Oh the lovely facebook. I have actually found a lover on facebook so this site has worked out for myself, however it is really a complete waste of time. Be strong.
After a few human resources debacles that were Facebook enabled, I had to abandon ship. I still get emails from coworkers and friends asking why I deleted them. It's a hard case to sell - the life without Facebook. But what a simpler one it once was.