Thom Rutledge, author of Embracing Fear

Thom Rutledge, author of Embracing Fear
Nashville, Tennessee, United States
April 16
Thom Rutledge is a psychotherapist and author of several books, including Embracing Fear: How to Turn What Scares Us into Our Greatest. His political commentaries have appeared in newspapers across the country, including The Chicago Tribune, The Philadelphia Inquirer, The Indianapolis Star and The New York Times. With Same Page Thom turns his attention to national politics, not to become one more partisan voice in the dangerously polarized noise, but to bring his unique therapeutic touch with the intention to help heal the relational pathology that is crippling our leaders’ ability to solve our nation’s problems. With Same Page Thom is presenting a challenge to all of us, not just politicians. It is a challenge to step back and look beyond the specific content of political argument and to do what couples are asked to do in relationship therapy: examine and ultimately change HOW we are communicating.


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MARCH 15, 2014 3:40PM

Same Page Is Evergreen

Evergreen is a term used to describe content that is not time specific or in the case of political commentary, not tied to particular current events. Same Page is not so much a blog as it is my place to store my articles and reflections about this nation's dysfunctional system of… Read full post »

JUNE 5, 2013 12:16AM

On Writing about Fear

Generally we do not choose how we will die, but we always choose how we will live. TR

I wrote this article in March 2002 while our nation was still reeling from the terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001. Having rediscovered it recently I realize 2 things about this piece:

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Questions to ask ourselves and each other:

1. Are you certain that everything your candidate is saying in this campaign is true?

 2. Do you believe that everything the other candidate is saying is false?

3. Do you believe it is possible that the opposing candidate has some good ideasRead full post »

Not Bumper
APRIL 13, 2013 1:15PM

Change Begins With Us

As a psychotherapist I spend considerable time helping people solve problems. In 30 years of facilitating these hopefully helpful conversations for a living, I have come to recognize a common theme among all of the unique individuals I have encountered. The one thing that is universally true if you i/Read full post »

MARCH 14, 2013 4:38PM

Some Political Should's

As a psychotherapist I help people to let go of their counterproductive, sometimes toxic, “should’s.” People in my business sometimes say we have to stop “should-ing on ourselves,” essentially thatRead full post »

unwilling need not apply
JANUARY 14, 2013 7:11PM

Be part of the problem…

part of problem
JANUARY 13, 2013 3:19PM

Letter to My Open Salon Friends

I have neglected my open salon blog for several years now but have decided to give it a makeover. I have always had 2 commentary voices when it comes toRead full post »

JANUARY 10, 2013 1:44PM

Guns, Violence & Problem Solving

What is being called discussion about gun control and violence in our nation, in the wake of shootings at Newtown, CT and Aurora, CO, is an excellent example of our need for communication counseling. There is very little, if any, useful discussion happening here.

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JANUARY 7, 2013 1:21PM

What is Same Page?

This was origninally written as letter to the New York Times Op-ed columnist, Joe Nocera. Then I realized that it is a good introduction to Same Page, so I include it here. 


I am a psychotherapist who sees the personality and communication dysfunction of Washington DC as theRead full post »

NOVEMBER 22, 2012 11:17AM

Beware of thought-delegation.

If we never question what our representatives or candidates are saying then we are guilty of thought-delegation.  Questioning does not necessarily mean disagreeing; it simply means we are involved enough, curious enough to want to understand an issue better. 

We are all busy.

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NOVEMBER 10, 2012 5:14PM

Five Questions

I am a big fan of questions. Asking good questions --- questions asked with genuine curiosity, rather than just rhetorically –-- is the way we solve problems. With the right questions and a willingness to follow where they lead, we are equipped to keep learning and growing.

As I lookRead full post »

NOVEMBER 10, 2012 4:59PM

An Open Letter to a Television Producer

Dear Ms. or Mr. Producer: 

You want a change the world? I can help you do just that.

Ask people who know me best and they will tell you that I certainly have a large-enough ego, but not so big that I am inclined to walk around saying thatRead full post »

NOVEMBER 10, 2012 12:04PM

Respect: Uncharted Political Territory

 All or none thinking will eventually prove far more destructive to our species and the planet we inhabit than other dangers we so faithfully track on the front page

The proliferation of weapons of mass destruction, threats of terrorist attack, fiscal cliffs or other tough terrain,

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 As you read these blog posts, please do your very best to temporarily suspend your reflex to find things to disagree with (speaking from experience, I have a very strong disagreement-reflex). That is not to say every reader needs to agree with me. That would be ridiculous, and according to theRead full post »

Today is Election Day. Seems like an excellent time to launch my new blog.

 Regardless of the outcome of today’s presidential election, we are in big trouble.

 I’m not talking about the economy or foreign policy or immigration or any of the usual suspects batted back and fortRead full post »