Have you ever wondered what you would do if you were ever faced with a situation that called for you to stand between a complete stranger and possible harm?
From time to time, over the past few years, after reading such accounts in newspapers and seeing reports on television, I have wondered what I would do if faced with such a choice now.
Of course, back when I was young and stupid, I knew the answer, after all going to the aid of those injured or dying was my job description for awhile when I was in the military but that was a long time ago. As I grew older, I wondered what my response would be now....did I have any "Man" left in me?
Well a few weeks ago I rediscovered an old truth: Be careful the questions you ask yourself because sometimes God gives you the opportunity to find the answers.
The episode began a few weeks ago, just prior to Mel's trip to Washington to be with her son. She and her Sister, Evelyn had gone to town to do some running around and girly type bonding and I was left alone (by my own choice cause I knew better than to go off with those two).
They had only been gone a few minutes when I heard the dogs barking and raising cane outside. I got up from my desk where I had been happily reading a few blogs and I went to the front door and opened it to yell at the dogs.
You can imagine my surprise when I found an old woman standing on my porch. She looked close to 90 years old, her long white hair was disheveled and dirty, her clothes looked as though she had crawled through the mud. The poor thing was standing there looking at me with big, frightened eyes, her hands clasped together in front of her and shaking like a leaf.
"Please, sir," Her voice was shaking with fear, "could you please let me inside and call the police for me?"
I was about to ask her what the problem was when I noticed a truck headed down the road toward the house. She saw it at the same time and let out a scream: "OH GOD, PLEASE DON'T LET THEM GET ME!"
I didn't even have time to think, I just took her arm and pulled her into the house and shut my door. Once the door was shut she seemed to relax just a little bit and I began to question her. It took awhile to get her story out because she was still not very coherent, but I finally learned all the sorry, sad, facts.
She lived about a quarter of a mile down the road from us, with her granddaughter and her husband in a small, dirty little trailer. The granddaughter had custodial custody of the old woman and her bank account and Social Security Check. They gave her a place to sleep and food to eat and in return they had her money.
Well about a week prior to her showing up on my door step she had been raped by a drunk friend of her Granddaughter's husband. She pleaded with the granddaughter to call the cops and take her to the hospital because during the assault she had sustained internal injuries. The granddaughter refused. She was afraid that the authorities would remove the old woman from their care and thus they would lose control of her money and the monthly check.
She said they had a big iron gate across their driveway which they kept locked unless they needed to use it. They also had net wire fencing surrounding the property which was too high for her to climb over. She was being held a virtual prisoner.
I asked her how she managed to get away and she told me that on that day she happened to be looking out the window and she saw the couple's dog slip under the fence via a hole he had dug under the wire. She said that when she saw that, she knew she had to try to use it. Her granddaughter was asleep because she worked nights and the husband was off hunting/drinking with his buddies, so she made a break for it. She crawled under the fence then walked to my house across two large fields and under two barbed wire fences that bordered the land.
As I listened to the lady's story, which came out in fits and starts and not nearly as coherent as the writing of it now, I had to judge how much was true and how much was the product of a mind ravaged by age and infirmity. After all, no one wants to believe that there are animals out there who would actually rape an old woman.
The deciding factor for me was the fear I saw in her eyes as she told her story. I have seen fear in many men's eyes; fear of death, fear of further injury, fear of a trapped animal and that is the level I saw in her that day and I knew that was something that could not be faked...not that level.
So I made her comfortable, assured her that I would let nothing happen to her and I called the Sheriff's department. That was when I got a shock.
The dispatcher told me that they only had one deputy working that day and he was on the other side of the county and could not be there anytime soon.
"So what am I supposed to do if in the meantime her 'family' comes looking for her?" I asked.
"Oh well if they have guardianship of her, then you can not legally keep them from taking her."
That was the exact moment when I lost my temper and went Country on her.
"Well I tell you what, ma'am, if anyone but the authorities show up to get this lady then the only other call I will be making is for an ambulance to come pick up the bodies. You might relay that message to your over worked deputy."
She quickly assured me that she would get someone out to help the woman and I hung up the phone. I assured the old woman that everything would be okay and I quietly went into the bedroom and loaded my rifle...just in case.
About a half hour later a car pulls up in my driveway. It is a case-worker for Health and Human Services. She was a young girl about twenty-five or so and I let her inside and she took the woman's statement. I told her that the lady is asking to go to the hospital to be checked out, and I asked her if she can take her. I have been unable to drive since my stroke.
"Oh no," she said, " I am not allowed to transport anyone in my car."
"WHAT?" I yelled at her and she jumped a foot. "I can't drive or she would already be there, the so-called deputy can't be bothered and YOU can't give an old woman a ride to the doctor? Well that just does it!"
Luckily, about then, Mel and her sister pulled into the driveway. I quickly walked out to them and told Mel what was going on. My sweetie didn't even pause.
"Let's put her in the truck and Evelyn and I will get her to the hospital."
I nodded and then walked back in the house and told the case worker what we were going to do. "And YOU will follow them and YOU will stay with her.....won't you."
"Oh yes," she assured me. "I will stay with her until the law arrives." With that she hurried out to her car, glad I'm sure to be away from the crazy old man.
I told the old woman what we were going to do and she broke down crying and hugged my neck. "I had heard that you were good people who would help anyone and I am so glad I made it here....thank you."
So off they all went and I was left once again in peace and quiet. We never heard from the Sheriff's department on how it all came out, but about a week later we read the story in the Newspaper. The deputy had indeed shown up at the hospital, took the woman's statement and then drove to the home. Evidence was collected from her bedroom and an arrest was made. The 'man' admitted to the rape and the old woman is now safe and living with a daughter in Arkansas. A happy ending.
So now I know. I know that when something like this happens I still have enough Man left in me to take care of someone who can't take care of themselves. At my age that is a good thing to know.


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I'm so happy for her that you were the one she went to for help. And I love that Mel didn't blink an eye --
You are a true human being and I salute what you did.
A damn fine man indeed. Yes, and halleluh for it.
I thank you and hope you remember this always Torman.
R~~
Good for you, and good for the woman for your help!
You did what a citizen is suppose to do: Look out for the weak and infirm in your neighborhood. This is suppose to be what American is about. In other words, you did your Christian Duty. Something the Neoconservatives need to comprehend.
Nofrills......Now that would be a good thing; to have you as a neighbor. A very nice thought, my dear.
skeletnwmn....I was shocked at how unconserned that dispatcher was when I told her that the woman said she had been raped. I wanted to reach through the phone and shake her until her teeth rattled.
aspasia411.....That is so very true.
Mission....No need for a gold star, I got all the thanks I needed when she hugged my neck and said "Thank you."
Tom....LOL...my wife says the same thing!
Scanner....It was just good to find out whether or not I still had it in me to help someone I didn't know. As we age, we often wonder if you have it in you to do what needs to be done.
placebostudman.....What happend hardly makes me any kind of hero, just a man that can still do what needs doing.
I am so glad you were there for her. How can anyone not believe a higher power was watching over this poor lady. I am glad she is safe. Her "family" should rot in jail!
Torman you are wonderful...
voicegal....Lord I been called a lot of things but never an angel. I am just a man who happened to be home to answer the door.
Chuck....You are right, it just boggles my mind sometimes.
Lunchlady2....Thanks hon, but I am no more wonderful than the next guy. It was just my turn to step up and happily, I stll remembered how.
BBE....One thing I will always have and that is the means to protect myself and my family. As for shooting the bastards, well it's like I told that little case-worker at one point: "It's been forty years since I killed somone, but I think I still remember how its done and I really have no problem with it."
What a horrific story and what a HERO - flippin' HERO! - you are! I am NOT just saying that!! My goodness...
(As an aside, I was reading this quickly - not to rush through but because I was enthralled and wanted to get to the next parts - and I thought I read, "Let's put her in the trunk..." I was like, WHAT?! So I quickly read it again. Whew. You ARE good people! ;-)
Harvey....Not a doubt in my mind that you not only would have done the very same thing, but you would have probably done it better.
WSFTC....I am sure there will be someone there if needed cause this world is full of people willing to help.
iamsurly....Thank you so very much.
Owl...I am truly thankful that she found my door.
One wonders (at least I do), where was that old woman's daughter all this time she was being used and abused? What a world, eh.
And, if you don't mind a thoroughly selfish comment ... I'd have loved to write that newspaper story. Didn't anyone from the paper contact you?
Well written and thought-provoking entry. To some, it's a no-brainer, but I think I understand some of the things that must have crossed your mind.
-R-
Sally....The story on the daughter was that the granddaughter kept the truth from her too. The granddaughter did not allow the grandmother to send out mail or to recieve mail.
Boanerges1....No, thank god I never talked to the newspaper. They took up the story where the old lady was in the hospital and of course the Sherriffs dept. did not mention me because they really didn't want to have to explain why it took so long for any authority to get involved. I was quite happy to be overlooked in the process
Ken...Thank you my friend and you are right, there is a lot involved when you get to be our age and with certain phyical drawbacks, then you have to think about putting yourself in a position for civil suit and losing what little you have.....juat a lot of uncertainity and at a certain age, we don't like uncertainity. All these considerations would not, and did not stop me, but I damn sure was thinking about them at the time.
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good on you, my friend.
people are sick. to be honest, a part of me would have been wishing to use the rifle. some people society is better off without. at least prison has its own sense of justice. perhaps it will all balance itself out there.
thanks for doing the right thing.
Femme Forte....It is I who am bless by knowing all of you good people.
O'Really?.....You are very welcome my friend and I believe that Mr Wonderful should call himself "Mr. Lucky" for finding such a gem as you and you can tell him I said so too.
JK....We all want to think we will do what is needed but when the worse does happen and we are in that position, there are a lot of things to consider and it's not always cut and dried nor does it always work out well. This time I was lucky.
Walking Away....Actually I see her as a blessing to my life. She taught me some things about myself that I wasn't really sure of.
Leonde Delmare....I firmly believe there are a lot of people out there like me and indeed, better than me, they just don't get a lot of press.
Maddie P.....To tell the truth, I would have loved about ten minutes in a room alone with that asshole who raped the poor lady.
Red tape, laws and money are responsible for a hell of a lot of errors and suffering. Thank goodness for those with big hearts like yourselves. You should feel very proud.
R
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Kathy Knechtges....Thank you so much.
patricia....All I could think of when I looked at her was my own mother; made everything else easy.
Linda...LOL..it was a surprise to see a human on my doorstep instead of a four-legged fur baby, needing help.
Kathy Riordan...What is sad is that the world makes it so difficult sometimes to do the right thing. We have become so isolated and so afraid of being sued by someone, we forget the lessons of our fathers....to help those in need. I just remembered the lessons.
AHP...it is always good to see you my friend and late don't matter. Thank you.
Donna...I know you would do the same; you're good people.
spotted_mind....Well she might have preferred Sam Elliot but heck, my wife says I resemble Sam....if Sam had ever been hit by a truck! Btw, thank you for reading my other entries this morning. It was nice to wake up to all those new comments.
Walter....My dear, good friend, it is good to see you again. You know how it is, sometimes as we get older, we get a bit timid. I am just glad I hadn't got THAT timid yet.
Winda...My sweet friend, you hit the nail on the head. Anything good I do or anything good I am is a direct result of living with and loving Mel over the last nine years.
its people like you that make this place safe and wonderful. and torman, strength will age, but i really doubt that the guts, courage, and willingness to serve/help others which you have embedded in you will ever change in your lifetime.
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I have to admit that I might have gone looking for the granddaughter's boy friend and arranged a Dick Cheney style hunting "accident" for him. Semi-automatic shotguns are notorious that way because you usually carry them with one in the chamber, it being so hard to pull the slide back with that little hook when you have gloves on.
I believe that good behavior is just as instinctive as bad behavior. I don't know whether it's nature or nurture, but I know that I've always run toward the sound of gun fire and, while I'm not running anywhere anymore, I'm sure I would do so again should the occasion ever arise again.
Given the accelerating decay of our social institutions, I'm thinking of getting my gun permit renewed. I live in a heavily policed area of Florida, with really good response times....but two minutes is two minutes too long when someone's crashing through your door.
I would like to thank everyone who has come in here over the past few days and left a comment that I missed. I would also like to say that Sagemerlin got it right....I only did what was right and therefor the congratulations are not required.
When I did the post, it was to pose a serious question: "What would you do?" And I posed the question because, after it was all over, I got to thinking about all that could have gone wrong. As I considered all of this, I asked myself; If I had of thought of all the consequences at the time, would I have done what I did? I am honest enough to know that the answer might not be one I really wanted to hear and I wondered if it was the same with anyone else.
The world today is not the same as it use to be. Today a person can lose everything they own by helping their fellow human. They can be sued by ANYONE, merely for trying to help. As sad as it sounds, a person has to consider this fact anytime he or she feels the urge to help their fellow man.
No, I deserve no thanks for doing simply what was required to help someone who was helpless, but the question remains in my mind....
Had I stopped to consider all the ramifications, would I have done what was needed? Would you have done what was needed? I am really not sure. As for running to the sound of gunfire....well I never did that. I have walked toward it with caution. I may have even trotted in its direction with some trepidation, but I have never RAN toward it. You did that, you usually died.
I never had any problem with killing a man if he were trying to do the same for me, but I never did it lightly. No. If I ever kill another human it will not be in a "Cheney-like accident" but it will be face to face and only after he threatens myself or my loved ones. Too quick a use of deadly force is just as much an indicator of decaying civilization as anything else that is occurring today.