Tomorrow is a Red-Letter day within the extended McClain clan. February first is my little brother’s birthday. Rick is five years younger than me and as the youngest son he was of course spoiled beyond all reason. Of course, this continued even after he was grown, much to my consternation.
During those early years both Rick and I fulfilled our allotted family roles as best we could. He, being the baby of the family, did what all little brothers do…he followed me around and made a pest of himself at every opportunity. As for myself, well I spent a lot of energy making his life a living hell. The practical jokes I pulled on him during those years are the stuff of family legend.
You see, in the early years my little brother was one of those unfortunates who were geometrically challenged people….he was as round as he was tall….which afforded me with a wealth of material for not only jokes, but pranks as well. For instance, I am well known for having snapped a candid shot of Rick, about age four, stealing the cat’s bowl of milk and drinking it. Those were truly wonderful days for me.
Then, a horrible thing happened; Rick’s body mass corrected itself during his teenage years and suddenly he was three inches taller than me and fifty pounds heavier and football coaches loved him.
So it came to pass that while I was out in the world, working for a living in the big city, Rick was becoming a big man on campus in high school. As much as it pains me to admit it, Rick deserved all the accolades he received for his athletic talent. He was one of the best linemen, both offense and defense, that I have ever seen on the high school level.
By his senior year, Rick had major college recruiters watching him closely. Then the unthinkable happened, he blew out his knee during his senior year and all the scholarships went out the window. Being from a poor family, this meant that college was now out of the question so my little brother settled down in our hometown, married his high school sweetheart, and quietly lived his life.
Now this might have been the end of the story, as it is for so many poor young people but Rick had other ideas. At the tender age of forty, he went back to school. He gave up his job at the power company and entered the college world. He had the courage to follow his dream and become a teacher and a coach. In the intervening years he has both taught and coached at the college and high school level successfully.
He and his wife Linda have raised three wonderful kids, the youngest of which is in college and is realizing the dream his father never got to live…he’s playing college football.
All of this brings me to the reason I am writing about my little brother on the eve of his fifty-eighth birthday. Having known this man his whole life and having watched as he grew to manhood and overcome many adversities, I can honestly say that I am proud to be his brother. I am proud to call him, not only brother, but friend. He has something that I don’t give out easily….He has my complete respect and I promise you….few men can say that.
Happy Birthday Little Brother, I love you. Oh and always remember to keep your sack of fireworks closed. Never know when “someone” might drop a lit punk in that thing! My most famous prank!
How the hell did we get so old?



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Wonderful tribute, David. Happy birthday to Rick!
Can you give me any practical advice?
Happy birthday to Rick.Many Happy Returns.
You are not the Brady bunch,but you seem to have a lot of fun.
When does the party start?I'll bring the champagne and the glasses.
Rated!!
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!
Much as I love my only sister, we both agree we'd have loved a brother so if you ever put him up for adoption...
Is that a pre-made bonfire behind you?
Great picture-Happy Birthday Rick!
I turned 58 last April.....
Reading your wonderful essay and tribute to your brother gave me a feeling hard to describe, as I remember my big brother, his accomplishments, the least of which was his help in moving my mind into greater realms of awareness and understanding. He taught me to write, and let me read his work, absorbing the power and humanity he so easily expressed. He was a brave man....I never saw fear in his eyes against anything. He was my early tormentor, but brothers who love each other are like that....are they not?...
No one in our school would bother me on his account, and in his subtle ways, he reminded me how I was loved by him.
I was always handy. I could build most things, but my brother was never able to make objects of much value to the rest of the world, but in my eyes, and in my heart, I held every precious thing he made, committed to its preservation. I lived to make him proud of me, and his happiness was the greater thing that provided my own happiness. When he was hurt, or sad, I felt it deeply, like the time he was found to be severely nearsighted and had to wear glasses...in the early 60's. I wrote a piece about trying to come up with an idea to make his eyes good again. This is a small excerpt from my story:
"I saw my big brother’s eyes brighten a little. To a smaller brother, affecting hope on the face of a big brother could hold back all uncertainty and sorrow. It could make rivalry dissipate and affection grow…in kid time, or through an exquisite poise, in longer minutes that seemed to melt into ages. Part of me lived to see my brother smile. It was a joy that I could not recognize back then, and I could only feel it to the magnificent limits of my juvenile understanding."
I lost my brother in 2006 to a sudden heart attack. Reading this tender piece is like hearing his voice...expressing the same sentiments and support. Hold on to your brother...never let go.
Thank you for your great work on OS...
Unbreakable.....Kim, you are too kind. Thank you, dear friend.
Walter.....Thanks, buddy. he has always made me proud.
Marty's Husband....Oh I got a lot of milage out of that photograph.
Linda....Nobody deserves Tater Tot!
dianaani.....Thank you so much.
Sarah Cavanaugh.....He deserves it, and much more.
jlsathre.....We talked last night and he did read it.
Montanarose....I couldn't resist adding that pic.
V.Corso.....Thanks and yeah, ya gotta love em.
Heidi Banerjee....Since we are about three states apart, our party had to take place via Facebook and the phone, but it was all good.
Tink.....Thank you my friend.
Firechick....We are indeed very lucky.
elizabethkirby.....Well in my case, my brother got both the brains and the looks..go figure!
Matt...The fireworks prank was a classic and yeah, I will have to write about it one day.
scanner...LOL! I bet your family reunions are a real hoot!
Linda...No adoption, but I am willing to rent him out!
Rita...That is such a nice thing to say, thank you.
BuffyW....Sheila, cherish the time you get to spend with him. My own visits with my brother are too few and too far between.
Froggy....I thank you and I'm sure he does too.
Pilgrim...He and I both live for the pranks.
Candace.....Getting an A++ from you just made my week.
Mission...Thank you.
Ladyfarmerjed....Sharp eye, yes and we lit it that evening so we could sit on the front porch and watch the fire while we visited.
phyllis45.....thank you for your kind words and your well wishes.
Gary.....First of all forgive me for being so late to respond. I had a huge project in the barn that I've been woking on the past couple of days, trying to get it ready for our new pig family. I read this last night and was truly touched by your words. One thing I am sure of, your big brother was lucky to have you in his life and I am sure he knew it too. Thank you so very much for sharing your story here, your comment adds much to this entry.
seafarer.....LOL, well we try.
I was happy to see you find the cat picture cute on Facebook. A perfect reminder for me to come visit you and everyone on open salon.
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