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JUNE 5, 2011 12:44AM

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 “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans”

John Lennon “Beautiful Boy”

 

 Me in my chair 
Update from “Trilogy Central” 

The bone is healing nicely.  I went back to work after 4 weeks of sitting at home. I wrote one poem, which was published over on Fictionique.  So, just because I had all the time in the world, the creative juices were just not flowing.  I did not even do much work on my Memoir.  But that is not to say I did not garner more material.  Oh, life, you are so funny and unpredictable.

 Let me tell you of my Mother’s Day present.  I came home from the hospital on the Friday night before Mother’s Day.  As I hobbled up to my apartment, with two of my girls in tow and settled into my own bed with a great sigh of relief…..have you ever been in a hospital bed that moves every 20 seconds in order for the patient not to get bed sores?  I would think it more conducive to healing for the patient to get some fucking sleep!!!  I’ll take my chances on the bedsores.  Anyway…where was I?

 It was on that Friday night, that my darling twin daughters stood at the foot of my bed, while one of them announced to me that she was pregnant.  Oh…..My…..Well…..We talked about it for a long while and I assured her that I was totally supportive of whatever her decision would be.  I would be very excited to be a Grandmother, I would just worry about how she and her live-in boyfriend would make it financially.  She is 21 and he 23.  But they have a very good, loving relationship, which can’t be said for every new prospective parent.  We joked….what if you had twins….ha ha….her (twin) sister replied that she would just take one.  Problem solved.  I was sworn to secrecy until my daughter had her first OB appointment, so she could feel that it was all real, and that everything was ok and the baby healthy.   So, I have had time (a blessing or a curse?) to contemplate all this while I sit and heal my bone.  Or while my bone heals me (?) 

Finally, the day came when I felt I could return to work (or go crazy in my living room) so walker in hands, my eldest daughter drove me in.  I was amazed at how I actually lasted the whole day.  I was tired because sleeping was a big problem.  I could not sleep more than 2 to 2.5 hours at a time but with being at home I could nap on and off during the day.  I was very tired around 3:00 but amazingly not too sore.  That night, not surprisingly, I slept better than I had in the past 4 weeks. The next day, I wasn’t sure if I was going to be able to make it all day as every muscle in my body hurt, but I did and by day 3 I knew it was all going to be alright.  This weekend I have started to walk around the house without my trusty walker, but I do need it for any long distance. 

So,now let me address my opening quote.  My first day back at work, the Tuesday after Memorial Day, was my daughters OB appointment, so I wanted her to call me and let me know how it all went.  Now I could tell my friends that I am going to be a grandma.  She called.  She told me all went well and she loved her Dr.  And asked if she and her boyfriend could come and see me at work.  I guess they wanted to see if I was doing ok.  (wouldn’t you think?) Well, they showed up about 11:00am and told me about the appointment.  They told me the Dr did an ultrasound and guess what…………………………………     

 

 

My twin baby is going to have Twins!!!! 

I’m still in shock.  I think we are all in shock.  Now her original plans of going back to work, maybe nights, after the baby is born, just went out the window.  He with a $15/hr job and she not being able to work at all (it would cost more for childcare than she could even make) I have visions of getting a house where we all would live together, daughter, boyfriend, me, 2 babies, perhaps another daughter. Well, we have a little over 6 months to figure it all out.  But, hey, I’ll have endless tales to tell, right?Tell me it will be alright!  Please.   

twins

Here we go again!
Isn’t life  a hoot!
In the book of life, the answers aren’t in the back.
-Charlie Brown

 

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Any and all advice accepted!
YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My advice .... ENJOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
No advice--what can be said? But, congratulations on becoming a grandma. You will be fabulous and such a blessing to your daughter!
No advice--what can be said? But, congratulations on becoming a grandma. You will be fabulous and such a blessing to your daughter!
At least, of course, I have experience. When my twins were born I also had a 2 year old.
The secret's out Little Kate. You can say you were the first to know.
you lucky dog! yes, to all. 6 months to plan it all, and heal, and laugh and dance. your twins are mirrors, yes?
It will be ok. She has love and support around her, plus a mother who knows all about twins. Glad to know you are on the mend...this may even speed that up! As a grandmother of two(although not twins) I can honestly say those boys are my joy. Breathe deep and enjoy every moment.
Dear tril, that I was the first to know is an absolute honour my friend. I can't tell you how happy I am for you ... being a grandma is something very special indeed. It brings with it a whole new level of love ... you'll see ... there's nothing like it! Congratulations again my dear, dear friend. Much love.
At first reading my left fibula began aching.
Then I was relieved with news of twins. Sigh?
Maybe with some effort (trilogy?), ay triplets?

You are still capable of changing stinky diapers.
I am wishing triplets (trilogy). Walk on a beach.
You'd look swell with three cute babies in belly.

I have a VAMV aluminum walker with two wheels.
You may have the stainless steel walker for three.
Awesome! I hope you guys all get to work it out and live together. That's how families are raised. Together.
Such grand news! Congratulations to you and the kids.
Rated.
YES It will be alright. How could twin grandkids not be?

My favourite lyrics of all time up there.
Oh, my - what wonderful news! It sounds great fun to all live together in the same house, and very enriching and healing - European's live multi-generations in the same house. Much better for everyone really. Sure, overwhelm, frustrations, et al, but those come anyone and this way you get all that unpredictable joy and love and moments tender and true. Congratulations to all of you! r
dianiani: What made you said "mirror"? That's what I think but when they were born I was told it was "inconclusive" whether they were Identical or fraternal.

Lisa: Thanks - that's encouraging
Art: Trilogy/Triplets - shut your mouth!
OB: Yes, that's good to think about - that's how familes should be raised. Together.

Scylla & Linda: Thanks for your support
Delia: Thank you - that makes me feel a lot better.
Advice? CELEBRATE!! TWO TIMES!!!
You need to learn to scream silently - inside - while keeping a believable smile on your face, outside. Your daughter will have her own ideas about raising her babies; you will have other ideas, gleaned from years of experience. Your ideas will be right because you learned from hard experience. Just as she'll have to. Just as she'll insist on doing. And it will drive you nuts. And you'll need to scream. and you CAN'T let her hear you.

Practice it - you'll need the practice. Trust me on this.

(*ᴗ*)
being a grandparent is all happiness
i wish your daughter a healthy pregnancy
congratulations
x 2
I have no advice Tril, but I became totally exhausted after reading the potential decision making in the works and the possible outcome

Happy Grandma wishes. It's better than when we raised our own.
Best to you all.

~r
Grandparents should be there to 'advise' and personally I do not feel capable to play the 'replace a parent game'.
I love 'em to bitz but want to enjoy my/our lives now and see/help my 3 kids in an non interfering and non hands on role.

"Press Fred(tm) please send "
Rated with an Ug.............
It's going to be better than okay. It's going to be wonderful! Hugs and smiles and congratulations! xo
You're right. Life is what happens. I generally say babies are always happy news. I hope you all find your way through this so these two come into the world loved and supported and everything else. And, continued good healing, all the way around. At least their mama will know something about being a twin.
What's that advice some wise sage said about going with the flow? Sounds like you have the right outlook for this. Congratulations, Tril. Much excitement ahead.
I have a feeling that everything will work out...because of the love in your family...
YIKES and congrats, Grandma.
Trilogy I absolutely loved reading this. Just as you are healing, comes this news, twins again, wild and wonderful. You all will figure it out and that you are out and about is just wonderful. love RR
I'm glad to see you are doing better. Hospitals seem to make patients sicker than healthier. Good for you for getting out. Congratulations x 2 on the good news. R
i like the communal idea. a big, noisy, huggy group. what's better than that? babies are wonderful. and two? [sigh] xoxo
I'm so glad to hear about your healing process, Marlene. As for the surprise news. . . maybe you'll have another memoir's worth in store for you - at least no shortage in ideas for writing. Best wishes to all.
♥R
Congratulations, Marlene! No advice from this end other than go with the flow and enjoy! And so glad you are healing so fast! (Possible baby names: Tulip and Trillium?)
Must say, I was not prepared for your surprise ending! But then neither were you. Just Amazing. And yes, it will be alright.
It will be twice as all right!
Two beautiful babies on the way? You don't need us to tell you it's gonna be okay, you know it will be alright.....somehow.....someway....congratulations grandma!
Marlene, amazing news and congratulations to all of you! Related to Trilogy is the term "Duology" which certainly relates to not only your twins, but your daughter's twins!
OMGx3 is how I would be. You are such a strong woman. Something about it being twins gives this such a destiny God smile that makes me know all will be right.
Sounds to me you have a happy family. Families manage. Congratulations on all of it!
Double the blessing -- (and the diapers) but with the experience behind y'all, it'll be fine. Congratulations! And such a sweet picture. xo
Congrats!! Sounds like a great adventure is about to begin. (I do think grandmotherhood is the best.)
This is so wonderful.. joyous news on all counts. Glad you are healing and the pregnancy news is just wonderful.
Rated with hugs
No advice, just congratulations on becoming a grandma.
Gosh Tril....the best advice is to go ahead and plan, and remember what John Lennon said above slightly paraphrased....life will happen DESPITE your plans.
And yet...you will most DEFINATELY all be ok.

TWINS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My oldest daughter is 20, so I am right there. We'll see. My youngest is 15...so not far behind.
I am ready to be a granddaddy....but I am ready not to be too!
Does that make any sense?
Congratulations!!! How fabulous, no fighting over who gets to hold the baby and two babies means twice the love. I love the idea of living together but I know you're used to having your space. If you're thinking of buying, have you considered a duplex?

It will be wonderful.
Congratulations on the grandbabies on the way!
I'm also glad to hear you're up and about, back to work...it's been four weeks already?
As for advice? I guess I am a few months down the road from you-- in learning my young adult son and his girlfriend are having their first child together too! I'm still in shock, yet also excited...it's taken awhile for the reality to hit us...oh yeah, advice??
Don't forget the father of the baby and his parents! : )
Trilogy: Identical twins may be mirror image twins, where their hair swirls in opposite directions, right and left handed, etc.

This site explains it better than I can.
Wow, that's incredible. Of course, it'll be fine. My sister and I are living proof young people with no money can raise twins, with lots of help from grandma. Congrats on your recovery and new adventure!
Enjoy the journey!

:-) / R
Just breathe...and wait for the Universe to send you what you and your loved ones need. Maybe it already has! There's a big ol' beautiful journey in store, that's for sure, grandma! Congrats!
Since you and I both know there is never really "the right time" to have a baby, there is no time like the present. Two little darlings in one pregnancy! That's fabulous. Now, if only my twice as old son would cooperate... Congratulations, Grandma, Nana, or whatever you decide.

Lezlie
I'm very happy for all of you and am especially glad that your daughter has a supportive boyfriend and family. This ensures that it will be alright. Congratulations! -R-
Oh my dear, where to begin? First of all let me just say how glad I am that everything is healing well. Then, about the babies ? Wow ! One day at a time seems right for advice about all of that since you can't predict a thing. Just try to stay calm and let life do what it does so well. Surprise at every turn so enjoy the expectations and go from there. In the meantime I send healing hugs for your poor leg and loving thoughts for your family and you. r
Watch the movie "Parenthood." The one with Steve Martin and a boffo cast, not the tv show (which is also great). You'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll see you're not alone. And maybe pick up better advice than I could offer. Glad YOU are feeling better. Keep healing.
Oh, and Mazel Tov!
Since OS is Theater of the Absurd, I'm entitled to wish you well with that old theatrical expression "break a leg", but I see it's too late for that.
Wow. People. May I call you friends! I went to bed last night and there were about 10 comments. I woke up to 50. Thank you all so much. i really needed that love and support I feel from you all.
Dianaani: You'd think after almost 22 years I would know about Mirror image - I thought it was considered "half identical". yes my girls are right handed/left handed too.
Tom Cordle: I'm not laughing! (well, maybe a little)
Hoping for health and happiness. Looking back, all kids really need is a loving home. Congrats!
OMG is right! She is young, but with a supportive family at her back, she should do fine. I've always thought of a twin birth as a small miracle. I only wish I'd had two at once. Congrats on your future grandchildren.
Just remember, "Larry" works well for both girls and boys.
How very exciting! It will be more than okay - it will be fabulous! From a grandmother of five, congratulations X 2!
OMG!!! is right. I'm sure you'll be a wonderful grandmother. I am so glad to hear that you are getting around now and back at work. Thanks goodness that there is time to make plans and get used to the expansion.

I have 2 grandchildren and I think that is it for us. With 4 children, you'd think there would have been more but the youngest is the mom of both and she is now 40. So, my thought would be to set out to enjoy the way it is because we never know what's coming around the pike, do we?
Good to see you Susanne. you said it - we never know what's coming around the pike. Just look what happened to me in just the last month!
So much congrats -- on the feeling better and the twins!
Woohoo! Twins! Congratulations and I know every thing will work out. It always does in a loving family!
R
(I have been gone and am catching up!)
Wow! Congratulations -- because I know you'll be rockin grandmother. It'll be hard, but it sounds like your daughter and her boyfriend are committed - and somehow life works out.

And I'm so glad your leg is doing better. xoxo
Congrats on the new twins. Glad your taking everything in stride and cheers for the summer.
I just read your story, and although it was a few months back I wanted to mention something you may not have thought of. Since your daughter and boyfriend do not have high paying jobs, they may be qualified for daycare assistance where you live. We had twins in January (joining our 7 and 10 year old boys!) and just recently learned that we would be eligible for daycare assistance if we were both working. We now have two incomes again, and while difficult to leave my babies in daycare, the income is definitely needed! Congrats and best of luck to you!