Elisabeth Hasselbeck to the rescue!

I love The View. You never know what topics will be discussed. The other day, Elisabeth Hasselbeck stuck her foot down her throat when the ladies began having a discussion about late-blooming lesbians

Whoopi Goldberg stated that more and more women are choosing same-sex partners even after decades of being married. This started a heated conversation about the reasoning behind what is happening with some older women.

Joy Behar (the somewhat voice of reason on the show) believed that the reason many women are coming out later in life was because they felt that they needed to repress their sexuality and follow the path that they thought they were “supposed” to be on. Meaning: get married, have a family, play the role of doting wife and mother, and neglect your true desires and needs. After hitting a certain point in their lives, however, these women decided they didn’t want to live a lie anymore, and finally decided to accept who they are.  

Well, Elisabeth had a different approach as to why more women are coming out so late in life. She believes it’s because they can’t find a man. All the older men are chasing twenty-somethings around and leaving a huge quantity of older women unattached and desperately lonely. Because these women are so alone and sad, they decide to become lesbians and hook up with one another. She also believes that these relationships are more about friendship than sex, so past a certain point, she thinks women aren’t very sexual and are merely looking for companionship.

Um, Elisabeth? We have a name for the relationship you are describing. It’s called friendship. Lots of women of all ages have those types of relationships along with having a lover. You just don’t wake up at 48 and decide, “gee, my husband probably wants a 25 year old. I guess I will go find a lady to keep me company.”

These are women who have repressed their true nature for years because their families and society put pressure on them to do so. They may have lived in a state of denial for most of their lives, or perhaps they themselves did not want to be gay, and so they hid their true nature. At some point, after years of feeling restless and obligated to fill certain roles, they decided enough was enough and began to express themselves more fully.

To say that lesbians are the way they are because they can’t find a man is rather insulting and just not true. Like Behar says in the clip, there is more to it than holding hands and walking through the tulips. Lesbians engage in romantic, sexual acts that they enjoy doing with one another. If for example, Elisabeth’s husband left her for a younger woman, would she run out and find a woman to be with? Of course not, she isn’t attracted to women. Most likely, she would start dating another man.

Her comments were also insulting to men. Yes, there are a lot of stereotypes about men out there. To state that all the men are leaving their wives for younger girls isn’t fair or true. I know a lot of wonderful men out there dedicated to their lover, who wouldn’t want to leave her just because someone younger walked by. It sounds to me as though Elisabeth is projecting her own fears about her relationship onto this situation