Every woman has sexual fantasies. Whether they be as simple as checking out the hot UPS guy and imagining what you would let him do with your box, to an elaborate fantasy brought on by your own erotic imagination, women do let their lust run wild in their minds from time to time.
HealthyPlace.com decided to explore this topic more fully and compiled a list of the top ten fantasies that women dream about. Here are some that I found to be rather intriguing. See if you can guess them or perhaps even identify with one. (Or many!)
#9 It’s a Party!
Group sex is a very popular fantasy amongst women. “The freedom of being nude in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate your body simultaneously is incredibly erotic.”
Odds of Making this a Reality? In theory, this idea seems sexy and fun, but in reality, the topics of fidelity, jealousy, and fear of disease may prevent you and your lady love from enjoying an orgy from time to time. Plus, finding a group to engage with can be tricky (although not impossible if this is something you both are really into.)
The Real-Life Version: Fear not! This fantasy can be played out by having sex (discreetly) in public or by watching porn during sexual play. Both of these options bring the fantasy more to life, but in a modified, relationship-friendlier version.
#8 Who’s Your Mistress?
Women love to fantasize about dominating a male. Some of the lusty thoughts on this topic included:
- Ordering him to perform specific sexual acts.
- Having him suck on their stiletto heels or some other phallic object
- Spanking him
- Make him BEG for it
- The #2 fantasy on the list included using a strap-on with your partner, thereby giving total control over to the woman you are, well, under.
Odds of Making this a Reality? Considering this would just be between the two of you, the odds are very high. Many men live in a world where they feel they must be in control at all times, and fear letting go. Let your man relish in the idea of submitting to a strong, sexually charged woman. If you are both in the right headspace, this fantasy could definitely come to life, no matter how tame or daring it manifests itself to be.
The Real-Life Version: Make it a night to remember. Indulge in some sexy shoes, naughty toys, and maybe even a collar for your man to wear as a reminder as to who is in charge. Have fun with your alter-ego. I guarantee he will!
#6 Let HIM Take Charge
As with all things in life, there must be balance. Sure, some nights you may fantasize about showing him who’s boss, but other nights, you may want to just be ravaged by a dominant master. Leave political correctness out of the bedroom, and enjoy your private world.
One woman said, “Having him instruct me on how to lick and suck his member or at what pace to ride him will make me orgasm faster than I can say, “Yes, Master.”
Other women like the idea of struggling against this authority until their lover has no choice by to tie them up to the bed and make love to them.
Odds of Making This Reality? Very high. Women also need to experience giving up control and allowing someone else to call the shots. So often in our lives, we find ourselves in situations where all of the stress and pressure is on us. Allowing someone to release that valve will cause quite the sexy sensation, both physically and psychologically.
The Real-Life Version: Allow yourself to let go and let him take control. This is the reverse of the fantasy above, so drop all of your worries of looking “weak” and give yourself permission to submit to pleasure. Sexy lingerie, a silky blindfold, or some erotic toys can amp the excitement level of this naughty game.
#5 The Girls’ Club
Almost every woman who documented her fantasies included one that involved being with another woman. While most women did not want their man involved in the actual sex acts, they did entertain the thought of their partner watching.
“The idea of touching another soft, hairless body and softly sucking her tongue, amongst other things, seems very erotic,” stated one woman.
Odds of Making This Reality? Pretty good, especially if your lady love mentions this in more than one occasion. Fantasies are often times just that, but if both of you are open to the idea of watching her being pleasured by another woman, then game on!
The Real-Life Version: Finding another woman who is comfortable being a “guest” in your bed really wouldn’t be that difficult if you know what you are looking for and where to look. Sometimes, these encounters happen randomly and the moment presents itself. Other times, it may take a little effort to find the right fit, but if everyone is on the same page, and he is willing to watch and not touch, you can have one sexy Saturday night, indeed!
Whatever her fantasies may be, remember, they are just that. Sure, there are ways to bring these into the reality, but the fun part of make-believe is that there are no consequences.
So, before you start deciding to spice up your sex life based on a fantasy, make sure that you are both on the same page, understanding of the difference between real and imaginary, and willing to compromise and adjust to some very intense circumstances.
Erotic fantasies can be complex and at times, confusing, so don’t feel that every thought that pops into your head needs to be explored or acted out. Sometimes, seduction starts in the mind and stays there, too.