A Not Very Good Poem for a Best Friend
Who is Moving Far, Far Away
I cannot make myself say it out
loud. I've typed it, but I can't
seem to speak it. You're moving, far,
far away. Farther away than my brain
wants to process, farther than any man needs
to go. Even for his wife.
My best friend for a decade, our ten years
of best-friendship, official this
August. We met over John Prine and
never looked back after Dylan
and Emmy Lou. You said, "Close your eyes
and hear their art. Take it in."
You weren't supposed to appear,
and then you did. You were never supposed
to stay, and you remained. Each of us relented
into relaxing. Back and forth, to and
from, allowing sustenance and
answers. Your questions hurt my
brain like a mid-term I never studied for.
Six weeks until you go, and I keep
trying to say the words aloud. You tell
me, "The Internet is spotty there."
I know this means, "I'm not just
moving my body. I’m taking
my heart and mind.” Your mid-life exodus.
Over the Atlantic our history
will dissolve into miniscule,
transparent precipitation.
Too fragile to carry
the memories, too high
above the clouds
to rain into the deep.


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Comments
You deserve it - don't forget that part.
I have a male best friend....it is painful to lose that energy...I don't know what I'd do...what I'll do...as is he fatally ill.
It doesn't need any work, your message is very clear.
Very heartfelt and touching.
Rated
Not much to console you with, but time is healing.
Thank you Duane, for your kind wishes. I will try not to forget, and even first, to realize.
Owl, thanks. I don't usually post a poem so quickly after I draft it, so I appreciate your opinion.
Thanks, Robin, but oh, I am so sorry about your friend. Very, very sorry. I'd say you've had enough pain for a long, long while.
Thank you, JK. Maybe I'll let it be and see how that rests with me.
hi, Captain. Thank you for reading and commenting. It means much.
Patrick, you are my newest dedicated reader! Thank you for that! And, I have noted your words and am grateful for your wisdom.
Thanks, Cruel. I appreciate the visit.
Pilgrim, thank you, and duly noted.
Thank you, Annette. I wasn't sure about including his direct quote in this, but I did. It said much, I think.
Thanks, Junk1, I am honored to have you here reading. xo to you.
Carol, do you think he'll hear me? He's still in I.C. for now.
Awwww, Gracielou, I'm so sorry. It totally bites, doesn't it? I hate it.
Thank you, Dr. Spudman. I will try to let it sit for a while and see how I feel about it.
Outside, thank you. Very, very much.
Kellylark.... your comment made me cry. Maybe? Just maybe? I hope so. Thank you.
Thanks, Buffy. I have learned to trust time. Much as I hate it, I trust it. It does work.
Deepcleav, hmmmm, good point. Thank you for that.
thanks, Kathy.
Athena, you are probably right. Thanks.
Outside, that is such a sweet idea.... maybe I will find a way to do that. He said today that he is 'trying ignore that the move is even happening." oy. Thank you for coming back.
I'm sorry you are losing this friendship.
“Each of us relented / into relaxing.”
There’s something so peculiarly soothing about these line. It’s like the ebbing and flowing of a wave. The softness of the words lull me into relaxation. The comfort of a familiar friend, conversation between two who know each other’s hearts so well. That kind of connection doesn’t dissipate into mist. It turns into rainbows.
—Melissa
I want to believe we will stay close, and in touch, but... I do want to respect his need/desire to perhaps make clean break from his life here....I think he does need to try that.
I guess I'll wait patiently to see what happens.
Not fair. Just, really, not fair. I don't know what I'd do if my best friend (also a guy) moved to... MALTA? WTF?
the poem... it works. This sucks, but the poem doesn't. :)
How I will miss him, and then, how I wish him well. That painful dichotomy.
Thanks for reading. xo
It almost killed me to say goodbye to her.
Best Friend?
It doesn't seem to cover it.
True friendship does not fade, despite time and distance. Take comfort in that truth.
--rated--
WIW - I agree. It remains untouched. I came out as it needed to. Thank you.
Duane, I don't know. 'Best' sounds pretty good to me, and 'friend' is about the best word ever, isn't it? And he really is. Best. Friend. Never anything less, never anything else.
Mothership - that's beautiful advice. Thank you. Sorry for your sadness, too.
http://open.salon.com/blog/helen_oreilly/2009/05/06/just_so_you_know_poem_on_a_former_spouse_moving_away