wakingupslowly

wondering, wandering
JULY 2, 2009 6:38PM

Because I Don't Think He Will Ever See This

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A Not Very Good Poem for a Best Friend

Who is Moving Far, Far Away

 

 

I cannot make myself say it out

loud. I've typed it, but I can't

seem to speak it. You're moving, far,

far away. Farther away than my brain

wants to process, farther than any man needs

to go. Even for his wife.

 

My best friend for a decade, our ten years

of best-friendship, official this

August. We met over John Prine and

never looked back after Dylan

and Emmy Lou. You said, "Close your eyes

and hear their art. Take it in."

You weren't supposed to appear,

and then you did. You were never supposed

to stay, and you remained. Each of us relented

into relaxing. Back and forth, to and

from, allowing sustenance and

answers. Your questions hurt my

brain like a mid-term I never studied for. 

 

Six weeks until you go, and I keep

trying to say the words aloud. You tell

me, "The Internet is spotty there."

I know this means, "I'm not just

moving my body. I’m taking

my heart and mind.” Your mid-life exodus.

 

Over the Atlantic our history

will dissolve into miniscule,

transparent precipitation.

Too fragile to carry

the memories, too high

above the clouds

to rain into the deep.

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Oh man, this thing needs work... later... I promise. I'll try to fix it.
yeah, but the message is loud, clear, and filled with the ache of a human soul. I really wish you the best. I hope there is a future filled with more than you need - more love - more companionship - more understanding - more compassion - more availability.

You deserve it - don't forget that part.
This piece already speaks volumes.
It's gorgeous.

I have a male best friend....it is painful to lose that energy...I don't know what I'd do...what I'll do...as is he fatally ill.
as he is fatally ill....
WUS, I don't think this needs work at all. The message and your pain is very clear. I hope you find a way to share it with him.
that was poignant and heartbreaking.
Endings=tragedies, we never can be spared the depth of sadness, and sorrow that follows. No matter the circumstance the peripatetic path lies before us. Revel the past moments, arduous as the journey to find happiness does seem. I believe in your sprit, this too shall pass.
Seems pretty pointed, and poignant, already.
Beautiful..
It doesn't need any work, your message is very clear.
Very heartfelt and touching.
wakingup - I also think the message is very direct, including the pain of his remark about the Internet. How very painful, and I join Duaneart in wishing better for you.
WuS-I'm sorry that you hurt so badly, ache so deeply...you are needing, and you will come to know. Beautiful!
Rated
This is a plaintive cry that sounds across the sea, and is clear even here. What sadness to lose your friend...(((hugs))).
My bestest bud in the world is moving this Sunday. I'm feeling ya.
Loved it just as it sits. The emotions are real and raw. Well, done.
I just can't find the right words that might soothe your ache. I do hope you find your voice to tell him. Hugs.
I think I get it (I am a lousy poetry-reader) but I wonder - does it have to be so? Give it some time, and see if it doesn't hold up. Maybe the internet comment is just about his fear of losing you too. Maybe?
I could feel the pain, and I'm glad you found a way to express it.

Not much to console you with, but time is healing.
10 years is a long time. I think you owe it both of your to share your thoughts. This says it perfectly.
Had to come back again. Perhaps you could show him this post and all of the comments (we'd be like invisible back-up). Then he might see how we all feel, not even being in your shoes, and understand the depth of your sadness. Just a thought.
Ohhh, you all are gems. All who show up to read poetry, even when it feels weird and a little off-putting to even try.

Thank you Duane, for your kind wishes. I will try not to forget, and even first, to realize.

Owl, thanks. I don't usually post a poem so quickly after I draft it, so I appreciate your opinion.

Thanks, Robin, but oh, I am so sorry about your friend. Very, very sorry. I'd say you've had enough pain for a long, long while.

Thank you, JK. Maybe I'll let it be and see how that rests with me.

hi, Captain. Thank you for reading and commenting. It means much.

Patrick, you are my newest dedicated reader! Thank you for that! And, I have noted your words and am grateful for your wisdom.

Thanks, Cruel. I appreciate the visit.

Pilgrim, thank you, and duly noted.
Fireeyes, Thank you for those gentle words and affirmation. Sometimes the words just come out. They did today.

Thank you, Annette. I wasn't sure about including his direct quote in this, but I did. It said much, I think.

Thanks, Junk1, I am honored to have you here reading. xo to you.

Carol, do you think he'll hear me? He's still in I.C. for now.

Awwww, Gracielou, I'm so sorry. It totally bites, doesn't it? I hate it.

Thank you, Dr. Spudman. I will try to let it sit for a while and see how I feel about it.

Outside, thank you. Very, very much.

Kellylark.... your comment made me cry. Maybe? Just maybe? I hope so. Thank you.

Thanks, Buffy. I have learned to trust time. Much as I hate it, I trust it. It does work.
Thanks, B.

Deepcleav, hmmmm, good point. Thank you for that.

thanks, Kathy.

Athena, you are probably right. Thanks.

Outside, that is such a sweet idea.... maybe I will find a way to do that. He said today that he is 'trying ignore that the move is even happening." oy. Thank you for coming back.
A beautiful poem, waking.

I'm sorry you are losing this friendship.
Thank you, Smithery. I'm sorry, too.
You're welcome. Hang in there, beautiful.
I hope he does see this. And I hope he appreciates the tender vulnerability of these words—and honors them by sharing some words of his own. There was correspondence before the Internet. Old-fashioned letters still get delivered, even if across the wide, deep seas.

“Each of us relented / into relaxing.”

There’s something so peculiarly soothing about these line. It’s like the ebbing and flowing of a wave. The softness of the words lull me into relaxation. The comfort of a familiar friend, conversation between two who know each other’s hearts so well. That kind of connection doesn’t dissipate into mist. It turns into rainbows.

—Melissa
Thanks for reading, Melissa. I'm glad you picked up on that line as it does, I think, really describe how our friendship evolved.

I want to believe we will stay close, and in touch, but... I do want to respect his need/desire to perhaps make clean break from his life here....I think he does need to try that.

I guess I'll wait patiently to see what happens.
I like this. I understand it. You are doing your best to process this loss. Wow, this really hits home for me.
Thanks, Rich. I'm glad you visited and read this. It's not my best work, but... it says something I guess.
oh... geezus, really? Really?

Not fair. Just, really, not fair. I don't know what I'd do if my best friend (also a guy) moved to... MALTA? WTF?

the poem... it works. This sucks, but the poem doesn't. :)
Hey, SC. Yeah, no freakin' kidding. Malta. Who the hell moves to Malta?
How I will miss him, and then, how I wish him well. That painful dichotomy.

Thanks for reading. xo
I have a friend from high school, the best friend of a woman I thought I would one day marry. We had run into one another in 1994 after having lost touch for 20 years. We kept up a correspondence (with real letters!) for a long time. Then one day, in 2005, she wrote to tell me her and her husband would be moving to Austin. By chance I ran into her one night at a concert, as she didn't call when they got to town. But I found out she worked about 3 blocks away from my office, and, for the next year or so, we went to lunch every week at a little restaurant down the street. Then, one day she told me her "bad news". They would be moving to San Diego California the following week.

It almost killed me to say goodbye to her.
Hey, Rich. I know. Damn friends. Why can't they just play by the rules? How hard is that?
Intense heart beating here.
I'm of the mind that poetry, when written from the deepest recesses of the heart, should never be changed. There can be no improvement on what you were feeling at that very moment in time. Few things in this life are perfect, but when you pour out your heart to let it soar into the ether, there it is.
Is that what we call them?

Best Friend?

It doesn't seem to cover it.
I lost my best guyfriend of 10 years due to his marriage and relocation, nearly four decades ago. To this day, I miss him. The wonderful thing is that whenever I could really use him as a sounding-board and shoulder, I instinctively know what he would say, listen to his voice, that he left within me, and simply go with it.
True friendship does not fade, despite time and distance. Take comfort in that truth.
--rated--
Scupper - thanks. I can't even read this one, for the heart beating.

WIW - I agree. It remains untouched. I came out as it needed to. Thank you.

Duane, I don't know. 'Best' sounds pretty good to me, and 'friend' is about the best word ever, isn't it? And he really is. Best. Friend. Never anything less, never anything else.

Mothership - that's beautiful advice. Thank you. Sorry for your sadness, too.
I "get" this. Here's one in a similar vein I posted a couple of months ago when I found out my ex was moving out of state. Ten years on; it still hurts.

http://open.salon.com/blog/helen_oreilly/2009/05/06/just_so_you_know_poem_on_a_former_spouse_moving_away
letting go....big sigh....