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October 05
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SEPTEMBER 24, 2009 11:50AM

Just Things?

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First thing yesterday morning I warmed a big pot of water on the stove.  I wish I could say I was making something fantastic for breakfast, but the truth is I was preparing my bath.  I much rather have hopped into a hot shower instead of a slopping around in the sink with a pot of hot water but we'd been without hot water since Monday evening. During all the rain here in Atlanta, our basement flooded.  Not much, but enough to take out the water heater.  Just a water heater.  A minor inconvenience.  (An expensive inconvenience - but still just an inconvenience.)  So we made do.

I know I have nothing to complain about considering the mess the flooding has created in other people's lives.  The local news programs play video of the damage over and over. It’s hard to look at. It’s harder still to listen to people telling and retelling how they’ve lost things they’ve worked so hard for.  Things they can never replace.  For a few fortunate folks the damage will be fairly easy to manage, they'll recover and life will go on quickly. But I doubt that's the case for most. Their entire lives are under water. Everything is lost.  Completely washed away. Everything. Every thing.

As I sit in my home, cozy and dry, I see all the things we 've accumulated.  Things we think we need, things we just had to have.  Things we take for granted each day.  Just things. A television or two, a couple dvrs, Ipods, laptops, a Wii, lots and lots and lots of books - things like that.  Just things. Then there are the household things everyone has like a washer and dryer, refrigerator, couches, beds, tables and chairs.  All those things.  Just things.  Things, that if we have to, we can live without.  

But I also see the things I've held on to because they capture a moment in time, a memory that can't be replaced.  I see those things and I'm torn - are they just things

Like my favorite picture of my grandparents, taken while they were in Europe some time in the 50s, looking like movie stars, so happy and in love. And another picture of the two of them years later, much older, still so in love and one of the last pictures I have of Granny before she left us. 

Or the few pictures I have of my father with me as a baby.  I have virtually nothing of our history together and any piece of that is priceless. 

Daddy and me

Then there are the countless pictures of my children. Smiles and silly faces from moments in their lives I cherish.  Like the day they decided to rake leaves and quickly realized it was wild fun to bury themselves in the giant mountain of red, gold, and brown until all we saw was their adorable faces peeking out. 

Or the day I was playing around with black and white film in my camera and managed to  capture what has become my favorite picture of the three of them together. 

My three boys

Could I stand to lose those pictures? What about the others I treasure so much? Are they just things?

What about my Granny's china? It was given to her as a wedding gift by her church when she married my Grandpa.

And what of the few things I have that belonged to my sister? Her Bible, her diploma, her favorite baby doll. Those are the only small pieces I have left of her to hold, to touch. 

All these, so precious to me, are they just things?

Obviously I realize that in the order of all most dear, it's family and friends who are the fabric of my life.  Losing any thread in that rich tapestry is devastating. But it's because I know that loss already, because I've seen that tapestry become frayed and start to unravel, that I'm so fearful of losing the things I hold on to.  They're priceless, precious treasures.  Touchable memories.  Maybe it's just sentimentality, but, in truth, it's probably deeper than that. 

However selfish it must sound in light of all that others have lost here, I'm thankful that all I lost in the recent flooding was a couple hot showers. So many families have lost so much more.  I can't imagine what that must be like.

When you lose absolutely everything, every thing must feel like more than just things

 

 

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I have photo negatives (back in the days of film) and I keep them in a safe--I know exactly how you feel.
Yes, they are just things, but they are unique, irrepaceable things that we cherish.
Glad you are safe.
I have the flag that draped my Fathers coffin, along with all his medals from WW11 and Korea. I could lose any "object" but losing these would break my heart!
Rated~~
I hear ya. Few years ago, a huge fire came within yards of our house. A cop knocked on the door and said that if a chopper went by and we could read the writing on it, we'd have to evacuate.

I was paralyzed. I didn't know eher to start. R
lovely. one of my favorite lines "Touchable memories"
an accurate description of moments which remain and influence our present...and that's what really matters... our present.... and our presences in other lives.
"When you lose absolutely everything, every thing must feel like more than just things." Yes.
You are so right. I think of the news clips of people after disasters combing through the remains of their lives and the sadness of the whole scene and it breaks my heart every time.
I'm so glad you're safe and dry.
But it does make me think of what I would do if I lost some of my treasures. They have no value except what is in my heart so I guess I'd just have to close my eyes and picture them there and then they'll never be lost to me.
That picture of the kids and dogs is great! Don't you just love a Basset Hound?
Hugs, my friend!
S
This is a good reflection on what really is important. I am glad you are safe where you are. You've made me think about a few things and feel grateful for where I am at right now.
Photos and other touchable memories really are priceless. Glad you have yours still. When my ex-in-laws lost everything in a house fire, people kept telling them, "At least nobody was hurt." Which was true, but the loss of their photos and heirloom items really impacted them.
I understand what you're saying. Nice post.
It is exactly in this time of tragedy we find solace in making light of material things, and even, of the whole tragedy. Save the loss of loved ones, I will survive the loss of any material thing, except ice cream.

Yet, if you put that way...you sentimental, lovely romantic; they are NOT just things.

Rated for sentimental.
Thoth - I would miss the ice cream but I think it's the chocolate I couldn't live without :)
I'm so glad you wrote this. It's so true and yet so often we down play our attachements. I LOVE the black and white photo. Everybody has the same hair cut! How cool is that?