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JULY 27, 2011 1:53PM

Hold On Just A Second.....Hello?

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 I saw something interesting the other day while visiting a pharmacy.  There was a sign on the counter which read “We will be happy to assist you after you have finished your cell phone call.”  It was something I had never run across before and I was intrigued.  I thought to myself, “Brilliant!  What a fantastic idea”.

 I’m certainly not the first person to complain about cell phone etiquette and I hate to sound all “gripey”, but I feel the need to get my “gripe” on.  I think we all need to take a step back and look at how we are behaving.

We all see people with earbuds or Bluetooth devices seemingly surgically implanted into their ears.  I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve been caught saying hello to a perfect stranger only to realize that they weren’t speaking to me but to someone else on their earpiece.  Wow that felt foolish. Fooled me again! 

Personal experience and embarrassment aside, here’s the heart of the matter; the thing that sent me reeling was seeing a family out to dinner the other night.  Mom was on her iPhone, Dad was on his Blackberry, tween daughter was texting away and young son was playing on his Gameboy.  The poor waiter practically had to jump up and down just to get their attention long enough to take their order and when the food arrived they all managed to eat while continuing to use their respective devices.  The daughter even took a phone call during the meal without a comment from either parent.

Yes, our communication skills may be eroding, but I can type 90 words per minute on my new touchpad.  It’s madness.  I’m tired of hearing clients beginning conversations with “Yeah, hang on a second”.   What ever happened to “Good morning”, or just simply “Hello”?  Remember when you were a kid and your mom had you walk up to the counter by yourself to ask for something in the store so that you could learn how to communicate your needs?  Remember when you were taught to ask politely for things and say “please” and “thank you”?  How can our kids learn these things when we can’t be bothered to remove our Bluetooth long enough to communicate politely with other people?   How will they know how it’s done?

I’ve decided that when possible, I’m going to find ways to insert the policy from that sign on the pharmacy counter into my own life.  I’ll find polite ways to let clients know that I’ll still be available when they have finished their phone call. I will offer to get up from the table to give my dinner companion privacy to complete their texting session.  I will pretend not to hear children unless they use the word “please”.

Or am I just being a complete bitch?  

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You're absolutely right. We've instituted "Amish Hour" at our house. It's between 7 and 8 every night, and my 16- and 11-year-old are forbidden from using electronics. Not perfect, but a start!
Good post.
No, you are part of a group of people who show respect and have an idea of the concept of common decency.
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I completely agree, yet have committed the sin of inappropriate cell phoning myself. A kind reminder could work well.
Hold it just-a-second, shit, I got a text coming in, sorry...

.......

Yes! I agree. Everyone is somewhere else
when they are "here". "Hereness" is no longer a viable place to be.
Very boring, for most, here.

I have a friend who invites me to his place cuz he is so lonely,
he says, and then i sit there and watch him text
and embarrassedly leave the room when
his girlfriend calls and suddenly
I start hearing things i do not
want to hear which are none
of my
business anyway!
Pond, I love that you call it "Amish Hour". What a fantastic idea!

Thanks for the comments, everyone, I really appreciate it. -D.
No, you're being completely old-fashioned.


And I love it. :-)
"Or am I just being a complete bitch?"

Isn't it sad that we even have to ask ourselves this question?

THANK-YOU for writing this.
I feel so much better about myself now.
Witchywmn,
Please feel free to "get your gripe on". Thank you. :)
Witchywmn

Excellent story! You’re bang on with your post. We’ve become a society of rude people who are losing the ability to interact with each other. What I find most interesting is many complain of loneliness but yet we’ve insulated ourselves behind these electronic devices. And sadly we are losing our written skills too, how often have you received a text or email that at first glance it looks like gibberish, than it kicks in oh its cyber lingo.

Cheers,
MCS
I'm with you witch. I use the same concept in other situations as well. If I'm on the phone having a conversation and the person I'm speaking with continually carries on other conversations where ever they happen to be, I get off the phone as fast as I politely can, letting them know we can talk when they have more time. R.
I concur. I like the convenience of the cell phone, but have gotten weary of having to be answerable to it at all times. Seems I can't even have a quiet half-hour with my man, without someone trying to text me. First and foremost we must address our own feelings of obligation to such devices, and the way we react when we're engaged with others and they reach for an electronic device instead of honoring the in-person connection. Things to think about in this modern day.
I totally agree with you, Ashem, I also really like the way you use the phrase "honoring the in-person connection". I feel that many of us do not take that into consideration when we reach for our wireless device.